who craves relationships more?

In looking at this question, one could assume that it asks about what gender craves for relationships more, but too many variables affect that. Both men and women crave relationships for various reasons. For this article, the focus will be on states and traits of a person and how those lead to a craving for relationships. Generally speaking, people are viewed as “attachment” beings. What does this mean exactly? Simply put, it means that most people were meant to live in communion with others. This doesn’t necessarily mean traditional marriage and family, but more enjoying and benefiting from being in the company of others through various life activities like school, work, the outdoors, concerts, events, family and friend gatherings, etc. Many people benefit from simply being among others for a few minutes while shopping or going for a walk to allow them to feel a small connection to others.

Traits

Many people are born connected and long to continue connecting to human beings for the rest of their lives. This can be through many forms, and social and outgoing people typically get rejuvenated from being in the company of others. True, this can be in their significant other relationship and friendships, work relationships, teammates, etc. Extroverted people are typically not drained from being in the company of others but rather ignited and energized. The opposite of introverts who are often drained from relationships or at least too much of them, extroverts and social beings crave relationships continually. Another trait that reflects the desire and craving of a relationship could also be the fear or discomfort of being alone. These people are not necessarily dependent; they enjoy and feel most at ease with those pillars they call family, friends, and those they know. They strongly identify with these groups and often call them their support systems, extra-curricular activities, and what brings them joy.

States

Unlike traits, a state of mind or being is ever-changing. Sometimes, people who feel insecure, fearful, hurt from loss or conflict crave to feel connected, paid attention to, and long for that connection even if it is short-lived. The craving can be temporary but just as strong as any trait if it is part of a manic episode. This is a consideration when feeling like the craving is so strong it cannot be stopped. So, in summary, many variables affect a person’s craving for a relationship.