How can I find my true authentic self

I am 18 years old. Raised by my single mother and grandmother. My father had never been present in my life until a few years ago and still we don't have solid relationship. My mother didn't really live with me throughout my childhood. I have had identity issues from a young age and I don't really like to voice my emotions because I've been raised to do the opposite.
Asked by Mimi
Answered
12/06/2021

Hello!

I am glad that you reached out! It sounds like you have been through an emotional upbringing since you did not have your father around and your mother did not live with you throughout your childhood. Being raised to not express your emotions makes it harder to do so as an adult. It would be beneficial to process these emotion in therapy. Therapy can be an effective treatment for a host of mental and emotional problems. Talking about your thoughts and feelings with a supportive person can often make you feel better. It can be very healing, in and of itself, to voice your worries or talk about something that’s weighing on your mind. And it feels good to be listened to—to know that someone else cares about you and wants to help. While it can be very helpful to talk about your problems to close friends and family members, sometimes you need help that the people around you aren’t able to provide. When you need extra support, an outside perspective, or some expert guidance, talking to a therapist or counselor can help. While the support of friends and family is important, therapy is different. Therapists are professionally-trained listeners who can help you get to the root of your problems, overcome emotional challenges, and make positive changes in your life. You don’t have to be diagnosed with a mental health problem to benefit from therapy. Many people in therapy seek help for everyday concerns: relationship problems, job stress, or self-doubt, for example. Others turn to therapy during difficult times, such as healing from trauma. But in order to reap its benefits, it’s important to choose the right therapist—someone you trust who makes you feel cared for and has the experience to help you make changes for the better in your life. A good therapist helps you become stronger and more self-aware. Finding the right therapist will probably take some time and work, but it’s worth the effort. The connection you have with your therapist is essential. You need someone who you can trust—someone you feel comfortable talking to about difficult subjects and intimate secrets, someone who will be a partner in your recovery. Therapy won’t be effective unless you have this bond, so take some time at the beginning to find the right person. It’s okay to shop around and ask questions when interviewing potential therapists. The good thing about Betterhelp is that you have so many qualified therapist to choose from.  As you start to process your past sad and painful experiences you are more likely to reduce feelings of fear and insecurity and gain self-confidence which will lead to you finding your true authentic self. I wish you the best as you seek support!