How can I improve my lifestyle ?

I'm having serious body image issues.I hate the way I look and am embarrassed going anywhere public. I also need couples counseling. My bf never wants to have sex and we fight often. I notice I'm getting lazier and lacking focus.
Asked by Empress
Answered
10/21/2021

Hello!

I am glad that you reached out! I am sorry to hear that you struggle with self-esteem issues. It sounds like you need the proper support to assist you with getting through these painful negative beliefs that you have about yourself. Couples counseling would be beneficial for any communication issues that you have with your partner. Your areas of concern are difficult to deal with on your own and therapy can be an effective treatment for reducing symptoms of depression and anxiety, and building your self-worth! Talking about your thoughts and feelings with a supportive person can often make you feel better. It can be very healing, in and of itself, to voice your worries or talk about something that’s weighing on your mind. And it feels good to be listened to—to know that someone else cares about you and wants to help. While it can be very helpful to talk about your problems to close friends and family members, sometimes you need help that the people around you aren’t able to provide. When you need extra support, an outside perspective, or some expert guidance, talking to a therapist or counselor can help. While the support of friends and family is important, therapy is different. Therapists are professionally-trained listeners who can help you get to the root of your problems, overcome emotional challenges, and make positive changes in your life. You don’t have to be diagnosed with a mental health problem to benefit from therapy. Many people in therapy seek help for everyday concerns: relationship problems, job stress, or self-doubt, for example. Others turn to therapy during difficult times, such as divorce. But in order to reap its benefits, it’s important to choose the right therapist—someone you trust who makes you feel cared for and has the experience to help you make changes for the better in your life. A good therapist helps you become stronger and more self-aware. Finding the right therapist will probably take some time and work, but it’s worth the effort. The connection you have with your therapist is essential. You need someone who you can trust—someone you feel comfortable talking to about difficult subjects and intimate secrets, someone who will be a partner in your recovery. Therapy won’t be effective unless you have this bond, so take some time in the beginning to find the right person. It’s okay to shop around and ask questions when interviewing potential therapists. As you start to resolve your past and current issues you are more likely to gain clarity on life decisions, build your self-worth and be on a path to a healthier future. I wish you luck as you move ahead with seeking support!