How can I stop being socially awkward and talk to females

Hello! Thank you for reaching out. I hope to give you a helpful response to your questions!

It sounds like you have been suffering from low self esteem and your self esteem is negatively impacting your relationships with others or your confidence in approaching/ having relationships with women. In order to raise your self esteem, it is important to understand  how our thoughts precipitate our feelings and our feelings precipitate our behaviors. This is known as the Cognitive Triangle. When we respond to events in our lives with healthy thoughts, it leads to healthier and balanced emotions as well as healthy and balanced behaviors. The same is true if we are responding to events in our life with unhealthy thoughts or "cognitive distortions." As you can, if you are experiencing "cognitive distortions" or thoughts that are not supported by evidence, this can very much impact your self esteem by having unhealthy and unrealistic thoughts about yourself. It is important to be mindful and aware of your thoughts and how you respond to events that happen in your life. When you notice yourself feeling insecure or having doubts about yourself, take the time to look at unhealthy, automatic thoughts (thought distortions) that you have that are negatively affecting your mood. It is important to be able to identify and understand these negative and unhealthy thoughts in order to challenge and restructure them to healthy thoughts. In therapy, we try to identify and learn the common "thought distortions" that people can fall victim to that influence our perceptions and mood. These common thought distortions are often associated with the unhealthy thinking someone is experiencing who is anxious or depressed. These thoughts can include "All or Nothing Thinking"(seeing your actions as either a complete success or failure; "Jumping to Conclusions'' ; "Labeling"; "Should Statements"; "Disqualifying the Positive" and etc. Once you begin to fully understand and accept the Cognitive Triangle and begin replacing your distorted thoughts with healthy, rational thoughts you will notice your self-esteem will begin to improve. This will then result in having more confidence in your abilities because you are weighing and challenging your thoughts instead of falling into unhealthy thought distortions.

I hope this information helps to answer your questions and  is helpful for you! Take care!