How do I stop feeling useless

My moods change - one minute I can be hating myself but I can’t show no emotions at all and it makes me hate myself even more than I already do, need some help.
Asked by James
Answered
10/27/2022

I am wondering first of all, what is causing this hate for yourself, I am also wondering if you are aware of the emotions that you are feeling or if this is something you are struggling with.

Firstly, I feel that you would need to look at what it is about yourself that you hate. I am sensing this may be related to guilt or shame, and then looking at what it is that makes you feel unable to show any emotions. I am sensing this is because you would feel vulnerable if people know your true feelings.

I sense that you need help with being aware of these feelings recognising them and looking below the feelings to see what lies beneath them. Such as anger, what lies beneath your anger. Is it disappointment, frustration, resentment, contempt? We can explore all these feelings and look at ways that you can express them. Being vulnerable in situations and allowing people to know how you truly feel will help you grow in relationships with everyone around you this will also help you to feel good about who you are!

Our emotions are there to help us recognise what is going on for us. They are there to help us navigate situations. For instance: We are walking home in the dark, we feel anxious that something might happen to us on our way home, that anxiety makes us think, next time I will walk with a friend or get a taxi. This then keeps us safe! When our anxiety level is too high it may make us think I am never going out ever again, but then we can challenge that thought, and look at the evidence. The evidence could be I will go out but I will make sure I only walk in the dark if I am with someone else and we can keep each other safe, or I can get a taxi.

By changing our negative thoughts around something we can change our feelings and also our behaviours.

By looking at why we hate ourselves and challenging these thoughts, we can change the way we feel about ourselves.

(Bsc, hons, counselling, and, psychotherapy, Psychotherapist)