How can I identify what's wrong with me? I think I have a mental disorder/illness.

I don't think I'm okay mentally/emotionally and I want to be happy and fix myself but I don't know how to if I can't identify what my problem is......
Asked by Tia

Therapy isn’t just for individuals with a mental illness. Many people think that therapy is either for people with debilitating mental health issues or for self-indulgent, wealthy, people who just want to vent. Since the media usually sensationalizes mental health issues, often choosing to focus on only the most extreme situations, public discourse on mental health is limited to these aberrations creating a false impression of the incidence and severity. Hollywood often reinforce this misconception.


Let's face it, life isn’t always easy. Between long commutes and juggling work schedules and family responsibilities we can barely catch our breath. Even the most organized of us need help managing life’s challenges. At some point, you probably have experienced stress, felt anxious, overwhelmed, sad, or depressed. No one is immune to these conditions. Sometimes, we can work these issues out on our own by changing our lifestyles, reading books, taking classes, or through talking with friends, family members, or mentors. Other times, we notice patterns that we haven’t been able to change on our own, or issues start to overwhelm us and negatively affect our lives, relationships, and work. In severe cases, anxiety, depression, and stress can put our health and lives at risk. Therapy is often the fastest, most effective route to overcome emotional and behavioral issues that keep you from living the life you want. Sometimes, you can get better on your own, but in most cases you’ll get better results, faster, with a therapist.


Professionally certified therapists are experts in how humans process thoughts and emotions. Whether you want to learn tools to manage stress, build skills to be a better leader, or treat clinical depression, they’ll help you do that. A good therapist is like a coach–a coach for your mind. Therapists are professionally trained to understand the connection between thoughts, feelings, and actions and can help you figure out you why you are doing the things you do and how to stop. Sure, you might be able to figure some of this out yourself-but how long will it take and at what cost-your health, your relationship, your job? Change comes not from therapy itself but from practicing the skills and tools you learn in therapy.

You are the expert of your own life. My job is to meet you where you are now and help empower you to resolve your own issues during and after therapy. Drawing from cognitive-behavioral (CBT), solution-focused and rational emotive behavior therapies together we will strive to change a situation that no longer works so you can live your best life. Let's talk!

(MEd, EdS, LPC)