Taking action is monumental!
Mending your heart and soul, healing fully and thriving in the present is possible. With care and spirit we can balance your current life. In doing so, this will allow us to safely lean into past pains, transform the suffering and restore your spirited heart.
Where do we start???
Relating is a part of everyday life, we do it all of the time and yet it can be the hardest work we do! Relationships and the complexity of them demand a great deal of time and energy. Some of us feel like “we have to” or “it’s the right thing to do for…” or even “I should.” I am happy to be a witness to your experience and listen to your challenges. I will provide you with skills that create the type of relationships that work for you. I can offer tools that will limit your expectations and heal resentments. You can act authentically yourself and find your strength in relationships. I want to assist you in learning about who you are and what is important to you, so that you are able to set appropriate boundaries with others. Finding connection, purpose and meaning in your current and future relationships. Feeling more like “I get to” rather than “I ought to.”
I often work with mothers and fathers of addicts and alcoholics. It is a very difficult place to be in – having a loved one who is flailing through life. How do you cope? If you have read about the addiction disease model, then you already know that you are part of the problem. Let us take the sting out of how addiction has hurt you and answer the deep questions you may have about addiction and yourself. Learning to have your own tool kit is essential in a loved one’s recovery journey. To be part of the solution is not easy but the tools are simple. We cannot control the outcome for our beloveds but we can create harmony and resiliency for ourselves. The 12 step programs offer the idea of “attraction rather than promotion” and living with your own peace of mind can be attractive to those around you – including your addict.
Anxiety and depressive symptoms are often culprits of dysfunctional relationships. Knowing your strengths and challenges will be essential in this journey. Let’s look at them – we can be fearless and take inventory. You can decide what parts of you are helpful and what parts are no longer necessary. As humans we have two basic fears…that we will have something taken away and we won’t get what we need. Many of us roll around in life with a tremendous amount of fear – so much of which is driving our relationships and even ruining simple interactions. I will challenge you with kindness to look at your fears and examine their legitimacy. Fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. I implore you to Face Everything and Receive.
Now…what about other people and their problem!!! The world can be harsh, disconnected, and confusing. How can you make sense of it all? What is your part to play? Why do you keep repeating the same patterns? Where is your peace of mind? I say, let’s look at these questions and decide what you can control, what you can’t, what boundaries do you need to set, what creates a sense of connection for you, and when do you just need to move on?
Relationship work is tough but YOU CAN DO IT!
I utilize trauma-informed & mindfulness-based practices including: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Attachment Based Therapy, EMDR, Psychoanalytic Therapy, and Reality Therapy.
So often we ask ourselves “why am I….?”
My therapeutic philosophy encourages us to suspend asking why and begin asking how…how do I heal? Over time and with a safe connection, we can look back. Initially, join me in focusing on the present, caring for you today, establishing solid and pleasant coping skills. When we are grounded in the now, the journey to the past can be more beneficial and feel safer.
You can be exactly who you are – our meetings will be sacred space. You don’t have to be enthusiastic about the work, just willing to take healing actions. We are all resilient and can get better!
You can learn a little more about me and my private practice at...
https://spiritedheartscounseling.com
Additional areas of focus: LGBT, Trauma and abuse, Grief, Intimacy-related issues, Parenting issues, Anger management, Career difficulties, Depression, Coping with life changes, Compassion fatigue, ADHD
NC LCSW C011367
These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Casey Schoenauer. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with BetterHelp might be different.
Casey is amazing, caring and balanced when it comes to counseling. I’ve made so much progress while working with her.
Written on Jul 30, 2019 after therapy with Casey for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, and self esteem
I am just getting to know Casey, but I like her immensely. She is kind and attentive. She is professional and offers a lot of meaningful insight.
Written on Jul 23, 2019 after therapy with Casey for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, addictions, relationship issues, and family conflicts
Casey is fantastic at listening and helping you put together issues into a pattern that makes sense. I highly recommend her to anyone that needs a good listener who is not judgmental and will challenge you in the right way.
Written on Jul 22, 2019 after therapy with Casey for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, trauma and abuse, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, coping with life changes, and adhd
Casey is very professional and is very easy to open up to and talk to. She makes you feel safe and comfortable to speak about very difficult situations in your life. Which I feel is very important when choosing a counselor. Very thankful for her work!
Written on Jul 08, 2019 after therapy with Casey for 1 month on issues concerning stress, anxiety, and relationship issues
I have only had a few sessions but have already recommended BetterHelp to a friend. Casey and I connected right away and I really feel like she gets the true nature of who I am and what I am seeking. She not only listens in between my words and my heart, she encourages me and provides actionable items to continue the support in between sessions. She is easily accessible at times that fit well into modern, over-booked schedules. BetterHelp did a great job matching us up.
Written on Jun 20, 2019 after therapy with Casey for 4 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, family conflicts, and parenting issues
Enjoy working with Casey. She is knowledgeable, kind, and friendly. Listening and gently prompting responses is key to my getting better. Casey does this extremely well. Not feeling pushed nor bombarded helps me open up. She identified this from the start. A+++ would be my rating.
Written on Jun 06, 2019 after therapy with Casey for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, sleeping disorders, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, bipolar disorder, coping with life changes, coaching, and compassion fatigue