I would like to take some time to introduce myself to you. I have been working as a professional counselor for over 19 years. I have obtained a Masters Degree from Eastern Michigan University in psychology counseling and hold a license in the State of Michigan as a professional counselor. I provide both individual and couples therapy.
Couples: Since lack of communication is the number one reason people divorce in this country, I teach new communication skills which have been proven to work to improve relationships. The application of these skills and techniques can be used when working with couples involved in romantic relationships, but also can be used to improve all social relationships. I use a variety of role-play exercises and techniques so you can practice what's being taught and demonstrate how to apply these skills so each of you has a full understanding of how this all works for you.
Individuals: I have experience working with those who suffer from depression, anxiety and other mental health disorders. I also have years of substance counseling and I use a client-centered approach and apply theories from R.E.B.T. This is a form of Cognitive-Behavior Therapy which simply states that your emotions are related to what you believe and your thinking process. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (R.E.B.T.) works when the client and myself take time to analyze these processes. It has been tested and found to be quite effective at treating most anxiety and depressive disorders, especially when applied to things like panic attacks and phobias.
I also specialize in helping people who have suffered from emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse; as this is something that has plagued our society for decades. People can develop Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) symptoms or even the disorder itself as a result. I use very sensitive and effective techniques to bring about healing from these traumas. Long-term recovery and healing is important vs just dealing with the "surface" issues. It takes time, but in the end, it's well worth it and my gentle techniques will assist you through this process.
I also apply social learning theory, role-play exercises, and a variety of other techniques that help people to gain a better sense of awareness of themselves. The goal of all person-centered therapy is to assist others to become self-actualized individuals. I'm pleasant, kind, compassionate, and have a strong sense of empathy for others.
I look forward to serving you as your counselor. I always am sensitive to their feelings, wants, needs and desire to get to a more mentally healthy place in life. I give positive feedback to those who are working hard at achieving their goals, and I usually indicate that with a smiley face emotions icon. Those who work with me will find me easy to get along with and always filled with encouragement to keep the process going. It is through our relationship as counselor and client that together we might not solve all of life's problems and nuances, but we will get you to that place that you want and deserve to be. Happy and fulfilled.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
Addictions , LGBT , Grief , Intimacy-related issues , Sleeping disorders , Parenting issues , Anger management , Self esteem , Career difficulties , Bipolar disorder , Coping with life changes , Compassion fatigue , ADHD , Codependency , Communication Problems , Control Issues , Divorce and Separation , Domestic Violence , Impulsivity , Infidelity , Life Purpose , Mood Disorders , Narcissism , Posttraumatic Stress , Women's Issues Read more...
Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy
I'm enjoying working with Paulette.
Paulette is wonderful – she was an attentive listener, but was also direct and called me out right from the get-go on my toxic thoughts or habits. I first came to BetterHelp seeking assistance adjusting not only to Covid-Quarantine life, but to First-Time-Motherhood as well! The stress of everything combined with the isolation had me anxious, irritable, and inappropriately snappy with my family. Honestly, I was a bit taken aback with how frank she was with me, but I’ve really valued our time together. She was flexible and got all sides of the story, offered up wonderful and useful coping mechanisms, and retained a good sense of humor the whole time.
What can I say about Paulette? She was the first counselor that I've had the pleasure of speaking with on a weekly basis. I started therapy sessions after being in medical school for two years and finding that a lot of the stress and anxiety that I managed to have under control was no longer manageable by myself. After talking to Paulette, she helped me understand what it was that has been holding me back. I can tell that Paulette cares deeply about her clients. She was willing to do the best she could to get me the extra academic support I needed to help me start building my confidence. Therapy does not simply happen overnight or spontaneously. You must be willing to put in the work. Paulette ensures this! She has a great personality and is thoroughly transparent and honest. I would highly recommend her to any client who is willing to start taking control of their life.
I am a gay man. I was matched with Paulette to work on intimacy issues in my relationships due to religious trauma and indoctrination that gave me warped ideas and shame associated with my sexuality, which had rendered me unable to have successful relationships with other men.
Paulette was an attentive listener, but also swift and no-nonsense in identifying irrationality in my ideas or beliefs. She challenged me to be critical of my negative thought patterns, and replace these thoughts with rational thoughts grounded in truth. She gave ample techniques and tools for me to utilize and guide me through the difficult process of change for the better.
Paulettes strengths are her ability to ask good questions, to listen to understand rather than respond, ability to bring irrationality to light, and her injection of humor in our conversations. I’ll keep what Paulette taught me forever.
Paulette is amazing. She has provided lots of great counseling methods I haven't gotten from any other therapist I've ever gone to.
Paulette is amazing! She is the first counselor to make me feel heard and safe. She does an amazing job at creating a safe space to work on whatever it is that brought you to her. I am truly thankful that I took a chance on this app and was connected to Paulette. I have made such progress in the few months I have been with her and look forward to continuing my journey with her.
Paulette is easily the best counselor I have ever had. She put me at ease right away, and I was comfortable being totally honest during every session. She listens and doesn’t make me feel like she’s judging me! I started BetterHelp in the middle of the pandemic after my marriage fell apart, and she has helped me cope. She offers encouragement and support whenever I message her in between live sessions, which has been so helpful. Overall she’s just so kind and compassionate, and you can tell she knows her stuff. I highly recommend Paulette.
I loved working with Paulette! She listened With the upmost respect . Helped me face past trauma and relationships issues to move forward with my current relationship. She had my fiancé join in for a session. It changed his way on how to help me through some tough issues. I highly recommend Paulette. I’ve never been happier and I know if I ever need her again I can return. Thank you Paulette for putting me on my beautiful journey
Paulette was kind, caring, and easy to talk to. She listened to everything I had to say and gently guided me toward some new perspectives. Very helpful!
Really great! She was very sweet and listened to everything so well and pointed out some things about me that I didn’t even realize. Overall very helpful.
She is the best councilor I ever had and she's helped me come so far, I do have stuff to work on, but she will get me through it!
I have been working with Paulette for a few months now and I really appreciate her style. She starts our sessions asking what I'd like to talk about and as I'm kind of unloading, she will find ways to politely interrupt to point out something that I've said. She has a way of helping me see my thoughts from a different perspective. In doing so, she has made me more aware of some pretty damaging thought patterns that I have on a regular basis and has given me helpful tools to work through them. On top of that, Paulette also finds ways to make me laugh during our sessions, essentially reminding me that I don't always have to be so serious. I am grateful for her and look forward to continuing our sessions.
Very good councillor and I love working with her she has helped me a lot with my ordeals and I will continue seeing her
Paulette is wonderful! I love her straight forward approach! I am very comfortable talking to her and am impressed with the difference she has made in a short time!
Paulette is amazing and helping me in so many ways. Dont know why I waited so long to seek help.
Paullete is a great councillor with so much compassion.
Paulette has been a great help with my problem which I have been having for a couple of years now. I am now making quite significant progress. I would love to work with her again in the future if needed.
I wasn't sure how on-line counseling sessions would be, and I had doubts that it could be very effective for me. I want you to know that you have helped me in lots of ways. You have helped me to grow as a person, which is improving my life at home, at work, and with people in general. You listened not only to my words, but were able to pick up on what was not said. Your techniques were appropriate and respectful even when you had to say "stop" sometimes so that you could reach me. I am grateful we met and for your professional help. Thank you Paulette.
Paulette is a good counselor. She has a lot to offer and is empathetic. I happy with my progress.
Thanks to Paulette, I am no longer hiding from the world to avoid talking to strangers. The advice is 100% worth having her as a counselor, she opened up to me in the beginning and that helped me opened up to her. She understood my work schedule and having to work around it. When I had a bad day she didn't push me to talk about it she allowed me to make process at my own pace. I am so thankful for having her as my counselor and she was so patience with me.
I really appreciate the structure of Paulette’s counseling as it has helped me understand, recognize, and discontinue discouraging thoughts. Paulette has made it easy for me to talk about things I have not been able to discuss before. I always feel refreshed after our counseling sessions.
Paulette is the best she really cares for you, she goes above and beyond for you she takes her time to understand you as a person, and she does her best to schedule a session every week. I honestly love having her as a counselor.
From the start of our very first counseling session, Paulette was determined to get to the deepest root of some of the issues I have been dealing with. I appreciate her ability to keep a strong focus during our talks. She implements structure into our sessions so that she can diagnosis what the issues are and work along side me to create a plan and set goals in an effort to make consistent progress.
I've never had this much structure in therapy before and that's what has kept me from switching to another therapist (which I have done in the past). I look forward to my talks with Paulette because I am noticing changes in my behavior and overall mindset towards some of my issues. Even though it's only been a few weeks, I can see how some of my deepest issues will be addressed and worked through with Paulette's professional help. Lastly, I appreciate her direct and honest approach which I think only comes with lots experience.
Thank you, Paulette!
Paulette is wonderful to work with. She is honest, caring and consistently has the best interest of the patient in focus. She pushed me to think and respond to situations in new ways and really helped me deal with stress and the feelings associated with my eating addiction. She kept me a part of the counseling process and always throughly explained different exercises. She has armed me with a plethora of tools for dealing with food addiction. I now am able to think through my emotions and feelings before taking action which is leading to less overeating. I am sad to leave her but have the tools I need to work on my own. If you are someone who really needs a push to work on yourself, Paulette will be a Godsend.
I believe Paulette was called to come into my life at the time I needed it the most. I was very hesitant at first doing therapy over the phone and not driving every week to see a counselor. But after learning how easy this process was and being able to talk to someone while I’m in my pajamas made me feel at ease. Paulette helped me navigate through so many issues that I had been putting off for years and helped me to become grounded again. She helped me role play scenarios that I helped me gain strength in my own life. She helped me to recognize how I can learn to deal with big issues without losing control. I looked forward every week to our sessions. I also enjoyed being able to contact her throughout the week and how she “checked in on me” if I didn’t write. I loved her positive attitude and made me feel like I had someone on my side. I left every session feeling empowered. She was beyond flexible with my late night meetings and sometimes last minute re-arrangements.
I really enjoyed how I was challenged to think outside the box and learned techniques to grow as a stronger individual. I don’t think I would be where I was today without Paulette’s help!
Very kind and understanding.
Paulette is the most helpful therapist I have ever had. She is helping me with some really complicated issues with trauma and sexual abuse. My progress has been swift, and I have felt more supported than I expected throughout the process. She always responds quickly and is a clear in how she explains this process to me. I couldn't be more pleased. I highly recommend her.
I wanted to take a minute to say how great of a counselor Paulette is. She does a good job of breaking down walls and keeping you from overanazling your thoughts and actions. She is also very responsive via the app and phone sessions.
I am writing today to say how happy I am that I decided to reach out to Betterhelp.com.
I was quickly matched with a counselor and we have been messaging and doing live chat for 3 weeks now. I have used therapy before and felt that I had some things I wanted to work on but wanted to avoid the hurdle of finding a therapist, and having to go to appointments that may not be convenient for my schedule. It's so much easier to deal with these issues when scheduling is so convenient as it is with your service. I also like being able to talk to Paulette from the comfort of my own home.
Additionally the cost is reasonable for my budget.
I told my sister and a friend about Betterhelp.com because I think they'd really like it too. Before I even talked to Paulette I enjoyed a webinar on mindfulness.
Paulette is very nice, good at listening and offering suggestions on real ways to go about working on some issues I am dealing with. I feel that I am getting the help I asked for. I have felt so much better since I signed up for Betterhelp.com and even better since starting my therapy with Paulette.
I have been working with Paulette for 3 months now. She has helped me through my problems and has showed me how to process my feelings. Paulette is personable, and often throws in a sense of humor. I always end our live sessions with a smile.
I have found Paulette to be very logical, grounded, and supportive. I appreciate the way that she helps me zero in on what the root of the issue is, as I'm trying to make sense of all the things that are happening around me. I appreciate the way that she gives me new ways of thinking, and tools to improvement my situation rather than going through an entire life review before getting to anything helpful. I would recommend her to others.
Paulette has made such a massive, positive impact on my life and I am just so thankful that I was matched with her via BetterHelp. For the first time in my life I feel positive about myself and feel like I can communicate with people in a way that's more genuine and real and much better for me emotionally.
Paulette is thoughtful, caring and very attentive. There are times when counseling can be difficult but Paulette was always there to offer support. There were also lots of laughter and good conversation, which really helped break the work up.
Having been in counseling with Paulette for around six months, I now feel confident in myself in a way I never thought possible. Moving on now is a bitter sweet experience - I'm really happy I'm in a place where I can move on, but will miss my weekly conversations with Paulette.
If you're matched with her, you're in luck! She's absolutely brilliant in every way!
Paulette has been supportive and helpful, and incredibly flexible in working around a crazy time difference. I appreciate her honesty and concrete suggestions. She helped me find a bit of breathing room in some of my negative thought patterns, and for that I am grateful.
Paulette is incredibly kind and understanding. She helped me and encouraged me and simultaneously told it like it is but also listened to my concerns. She is flexible and able to tailor your counseling to you. Thank you Paulette!!!!!!!!!
I've spoken with Paulette a couple of times over the phone and numerous times via message. Thus far, I really like the support she has given me. She's kind, thoughtful, listens very intently, and has already brought some things to light that I hadn't realized before. I'm looking forward to our continued sessions.
In simple terms, Paulette gave me my life back. She was very open and helped me to clearly explain what I needed to live a happier life. She then set out guiding me through the steps to make that happen. And I have never ever felt better. I am genuinely free of an anxiety that I'd had for so long I thought was a fact of life. Anyone who has her as a counsellor is lucky.
I have been working with Paulette the last 2 months via messaging and phone calls and I am more than happy about the relationship we have built so far. We have been working on my communication skills, my relationship to my emotions and how to identify them as well as working through my recent breakup. I truly feel like Paulette is teaching me something new about myself as well as offering me different techniques to identify negative behaviour patterns and better my emotional wellbeing in every session. Paulette is a honest, kind, actively engaged and most of all a tremendously trustworthy counselor. I am rather happy to have found her as my counselor and am excited to keep working with her. I can truly recommend her to anyone as Paulette is versatile and has so much knowledge and insight to offer.
At first I was skeptical about online counseling, not really knowing if I could be helped over the phone, but Paulette was understanding of that and walked me through how things worked. She was very patient and allowed me to express myself and found practical ways that could help me, if I did the work necessary. I appreciate her listening ear and follow up questions that help draw out the underlining issue I maybe experiencing. She is very informative and thorough, and I highly recommend Paulette as a counselor!
Paulette helped me at a difficult time in my life and I appreciate the rational approach she took to resolving problems.
Paulette Niemiec, has so much understanding and knowledge. She's very patient and helpful. She's already improved the quality of my relationship.
She is sweet and understanding. Very willing to help and wants to help everyone find happiness.
I am new to counseling but have considered taking part in it for a while now. Over the years, my anxiety has increased, especially since entering college. As such, it has becoming increasingly frustrating in my daily life. When I first began my sessions with Paulette, I wasn't quite sure what to expect. However, as I got to know her, I realized she was very genuine, funny, caring and very human, like we all are. She helped me take a look at my thoughts in order to lower my anxiety and increase my self esteem. She suggested meditation, positive affirmations and deep breathing with calming imagery to help me out. I have been doing my best to practice these techniques every week and so far it has been helping me out! I highly recommend Paulette as a counselor.
She is getting me. She could very easily be a friend I would hang out with. Lots in common.
I was fortunate enough to have been paired with counselor, Paulette Niemiec, and feel tremendously grateful for this. Paulette is incredibly responsive, insightful, and compassionate. Her written responses to me were such that I can only hope she has a book in the works, because she is a beautiful and thoughtful writer, and I would be first in line to buy such a book.
Anyone who is lucky enough to be paired with this sensitive, caring, very wise, and helpful counselor will, no doubt, be just as grateful as I feel. BetterHelp is fortunate to have Paulette's expertise and caring heart available to clients on this extremely important site.
I have been to over a dozen psychiatrists and therapists over the last 30 years, and Paulette's advice has been more helpful than almost all of them. She understands what my concerns are and is able to help me make a plan of action to address them. The advice and strategies she have given me will help me for a long time to come.
Excellent service. Kind, caring and understanding. I am starting to make some good progress
Paulette is a very strong, kind, and a patient listener. I'm very grateful I have a counselor who has an awareness of transgender issues and was able to help me look at my problems objectively. I would recommend her highly to anyone.
A great counselor that I'd highly recommend. I've found her practical and very caring, while also keeping on top of our objectives. She checks in with me regularly and always responds promptly. I've definitely felt this has been the most accessible counseling I've used before.
Paulette has been a great help to me as I am working through a transition in my life into motherhood. She has been working with me to deal with my new life goals as a mother. Also working on communication and relationship mending with my spouse. So far I have had a great experience. Thank you Paulette.
Paulette has been my savior these past couple weeks. Working with her has helped immensely. I feel so blessed to have been matched up with Paulette right from the get-go. She has easily become one of my best friends as well as my counselor. I have been struggling for so long, not responding to tradition in-office therapy but with Paulette she is wise, enlightened and real with how she counsels. I can trust that!
Paulette and I spent a short while in chat and video sessions, and even in such a time-frame, she had the ability to provide a very positive outlook and influence regarding my issues. She showed me practical ways to handle situations that have been bothering me for quite a while now. Her advice and tips gave me a sense of security both towards my future as well as my own behaviours and problem-solving strategies.
I would highly recommend working with her - she is very insightful and helpful, getting out her way to facilitate services that enable others to develop, see things in a more positive way and provide guidance.
She literally had a video chat with me in the middle of the night because of a busy and rather restricted schedule from my side! Perks of e-counseling coupled with an extraordinary person - not everyone does that!
Don't think twice if you get paired with her, just go ahead and start talking immediately! Don't waste time, she is basically this very good friend you were looking for, that will provide you with amazing advice and an ear to listen to you when you need help.
Paulette has been very patient in helping me deal with the issues I face, And she has been instrumental in helping me find a path to get my life back on track.
Four days ago around 11 PM my life seemed to be in shambles, I was lost, confused and depressed beyond belief, all due to a 6 year relationship that had ended a month ago. I didn't know what to do with myself so I went online in a panic and found this website and signed up. Within minutes I received a message from Paulette asking me what was happening and I shared my story via chat on the website.
It was at midnight when we got connected via phone and she took control of my crazy emotions and helped get me calmed down so I could go to sleep. How many counselors do you know who would be willing to chat at midnight? Talk about amazing. Four days later and I'm sitting here in the same spot I was when we first connected and I'm already better. Paulette has helped to change my life for the better. I honestly can say without her listening to me and guiding me in the right direction with my relationship issues I would be in the same boat I was for the last 6 years.
Since we got connected, we have done about three phone consultations and they are worth every penny. She helped give me advice on how to end the relationship the right way and even helped with a book recommendation that I listened to for 8 hours. She is caring, funny, a good listener and really wants to help better her clients. I'm so glad we got connected and she assures me everything is going to be ok and I know it will because I have her to help me.
Paula is patient and caring. She has given me practical advice that I can use help sort out my challenges. I've learned a lot about myself because of her.
I haven't been here for long but have learned so much about myself through Paulette's guidance. She has a way of explaining things in a very approachable way that is easy to understand and implement.
I'm a handful. Paulette has been absolutely great and patient with me. I am very happy that she is helping find my way.
Paulette has been very helpful, I highly recommend her.
Paulette was helpful. She was very understanding of my issues and she always responded quickly. She even wrote to check in on me if i hadn't written in a while. I learned some good strategies.
I have found Paulette to be caring and understanding. The skills I have learnt from working with Paulette have made a remarkable difference to my life.
Paulette is a very compassionate and understanding counselor. She seemed to truly understand the issues I was working with, and had sincere intentions of helping me.
I've just started to work Paulette and I already feel like I have a best friend who understands, listens and is patient.
She was prompt in her replies and very understanding of the circumstances of my issues.
I have been scared to get help for many years after bad counseling in my home town. I am a victim of sexual abuse, and have a lot of related baggage. Paulette and I made an immediate connection, and she has been instrumental in helping me take my life back. I would recommend her to anyone... she truly cares about her patients.
Paulette is a wonderful and caring person. She has been very helpful in helping me find ways to deal with issues I face. She has provided me with some very helpful information to move forward. She is very open and honest and I appreciate the time she has given me. I highly recommend her!
Paulette has been great - relatable and encouraging. I haven't been talking to her long but find her great and look forward to future conversations.
Paulette has really helped me start working on the issues that I have been facing. She's very compassionate and willing to spend as much time on an issue as I need. She responds promptly and I truly believe she takes into consideration everything I say and offers the best therapy and help she can.
Paulette is very responsive and persistent at trying to help you with your issues. She keeps working different approaches to steer you towards finding ways to feel better about yourself and your relationships.
Paulette was great to work with. She was polite and gave great suggestions of things for me to work on. I would highly recommend her to anyone. She is easy to talk to and listens to what you say.
Paulette Niemiec is an insightful and caring individual. She has helped me clarify and express my emotions that have been so difficult to express. I am very grateful for her.
Paulette really helped me get past being stuck after a breakup. She offered practical suggestions that helped get through all the negative thoughts I had in my head. Plus, she was very patient, understanding, and made me feel comfortable and supported.