I am a Solutions Focused Therapist for you: Do you want to work with someone who is direct and Solutions-Oriented? Are you having challenges that rob you of the joy and success you deserve? Are you as happy as you want to be? Is your life working out the way you wanted and expected it to?
We all cope with stressors in different ways. I help people deal with stress more successfully with caring, plus the powerful tools that therapy provides, to achieve results and solutions.
Therapy must be warm and compassionate, but we can also look at life's issues with a little humor and understanding as well.
Therapy isn't only for people with problems, who are depressed or anxious. Your therapy is an important tool to improve your life, happiness, relationships, well being, self awareness and a wide range of other concerns - helping you change responses and habits or establish healthier ones.
Stress makes life difficult - it even kills sometimes. I help people deal with it more successfully and help find better outcomes with results oriented support for stress, anxiety, depression, relationships, addiction, coping, panic attacks, low self-esteem, co-occurring disorders, PTSD, grief/loss - and more.
Many I've helped used substances (food, drugs, alcohol) and become addicted.
Others withdraw or have relationship difficulties, anxiety or depression because their stress feels overwhelming without support.
Too many people have low self-esteem and lack of true support, which can make it difficult to motivate themselves or to sustain the change they want to achieve. Having a clinician available just for you can make the difference for many people who want to be happier.
I'm Solution Focused for you, though I'm skilled in several other therapeutic styles; it is important to adjust the approach to your unique personality and concerns..
I am an experienced, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) licensed to work in California.
Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by change.
Be kind to yourself. Therapy helps.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem
- Coping with life changes
Addictions , Grief , Sleeping disorders , Career difficulties , Caregiver Issues and Stress , Commitment Issues , Communication Problems , Coping with Natural or Human-Caused Disaster , Divorce and Separation , Family of Origin Issues , First Responder Issues , Forgiveness , Isolation/Loneliness , Life Purpose , Postpartum Depression , Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) , Self-Love , Social Anxiety and Phobia , Trichotillomania , Women's Issues , Workplace Issues Read more...
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy
LMFT #MFC51746 (Expires: 2022-03-31)
Sharon Valentino is very thoughtful and challenges me while also supporting me. She gives me good tools and provokes me think and challenge myself. I’m so thankful for her.
Sharon is kind and articulate in her approach. She is very experienced and has a great way of asking direct questions without being intrusive or offensive that encourages discussion and self understanding. It’s obvious she has a passion for helping people and understanding what is driving them and affecting them. Thanks for your time and attention!
It has only been two weeks but I have found working with Sharon to be so helpful in my self development. She has given me appropriate and varied resources to help me with the issues I bring up. She replies in a very timely way, is understanding, empathic and knowledgable. I look forward to our future work together and learning more of what she has to share. Will add to this review as time goes on!
Working with Sharon has really made all the difference in my life. She is the one person I can always count on to be honest, objective, straight to the point, and kind. She has given me tools to use in my everyday life and it has helped me grow in many ways. I am very thankful to have Sharon to work with.
Through BetterHelp, I've received extremely high-quality support, often in ways that I didn't even know that I wanted until now. It really goes above and beyond and I've already recommended the site to multiple people in my life because I've been so impressed at the 1) attentiveness; 2) educated and compassionate insight; and 3) multitude of effective strategies that are offered in combination with accountability to ensure they are being properly implemented. I couldn't be more grateful!
10/10 would recommend.
Sharon has a wealth of resources and information to share, and understands a variety of counseling techniques. It’s pretty incredible. I feel cared for and thoroughly supported. She listens well, responds quickly, and asks thought-provoking questions to get you further toward your goal of health and recovery.
Sharon has helped me get my life back. It's amazing. I've never met the woman, but she has become a trusted confidante and an integral part of my recovery through complex grief, which I was diagnosed with after the tragic death of my husband in 2015. She helped me to want to live again. I didn't want to die, per se, but I definitely didn't want to live. Since that time, I've navigated my emotions, embraced my recovery, and have a flourishing and healthy relationship again. It's quite a transition, but I don't know that I'd be able to enjoy where I am without having Sharon to talk to the way I need to, even at odd hours. I don't see myself not benefiting from her services, even as a healthy, sound adult.
Sharon and I have been meeting over messaging, but have not yet spoken by phone as we had to reschedule to to the power outages. My experience so far has been excellent, but I would prefer to wait until we actually talk before writing a review. Thanks!
Sharon gives immediate feedback, and I am so thankful for it. It is helpful in all my times of need.
Sharon Valentino has helped me through so much! Since we started working together, just a few months ago, I already feel like I have more power and control over my life. I have let go of some very painful things, I have moved away from abusive relationships and really gaining skills and tools I need to keep myself safe and happy. She has taught me that I have the power to control my thoughts, my anxiety, and most of all my company. I really like how direct she is, it helps me get grounded and connect to myself. I can't wait to see where I am after working with her a year!!!
I like being able to get quick insights and Sharon is super helpful.
I was very hesitant to 'see a therapist' but I'm going through a lot of changes in my life and felt overwhelmed. I was referred to betterhelp.com and I was fortunate to have been paired with Sharon Valentino! She has been attentive, responsive and honest. Her questions and suggestions have been incredibly helpful and I'm grateful for her support and feedback.
I’m thankful for her objective point of view and her willingness to help me work out my problems.
Sharon is caring and understanding.
Appreciate her a lot.
Sharon is great to work with. I love how she keeps it real with me, while very matter of fact and straight to the point. I enjoy her energy and even in a short amount of time, I believe I’ve improved my mental well being tremendously.
Very helpful and looking forward to more help from Sharon!
Sharon is excellent. She understands what my issues are and addresses them in a very professional and caring manner. I love the email format because it feels like I am talking to a friend at any time of the day or night. She zeroed in on what we need to work on and has given me "homework" to help me deal with the situations.
Sharon is not only great at listening to me and empowering me, but she goes beyond that. She has accurately determined what the sources of my troubles and has set me off on a path to fix them. I am extremely pleased with our progress!
Sharon is very results oriented. She is supportive but also expects you to meet her in the process. I have made amazing progress in my sessions with her. Highly recommend.
Sharon is just wonderful. She's caring, attentive, and honest. She is really interested in helping her clients live happier and more productive lives.
Sharon has been very helpful. She gave me various tools to help me workout several difficult problems.
I’ve just started with Sharon and BetterHelp. So far I think it’s great. I can do the work when it’s convenient for me. Writing is a good way for me to go deeper as I’ve had plenty of traditional therapy.
Sharon has such a warm straight-forwardness to her approach to therapy, and that helps me more than I can say. She truly pays attention and helps me through certain things that I didn't realize that I needed healing from.
Sharon Valentino is an excellent therapist who is very responsive to my issues. Also she prompts me when I’m lagging.
I appreciate Sharon's support and timeliness. She also has a wealth of resources to share. I am grateful to Sharon
Sharon gives great advice. She is a very good therapist. I like her.
Sharon has sought out different methods to help me. If I don't respond she follows up. I like that she is not pushy and really seems to want to help me identify and get to the root of my problem.
Ms. Valentino was honestly the best therapist I'd ever had. She is incredibly knowledgeable, eloquent with her words, but also very "real" and upfront. She is a guide, she isn't going to babysit you. She wants you to succeed and live your best life! I had to leave BetterHelp but maybe I will cross paths with her again.
Sharon has always been very supportive but also poses important questions for self discovery. I’ve had more than many realizations about myself after speaking with Sharon and I feel like, rather than thinking in circles, Sharon sets me on a path in which I make the decision.
Sharon is very caring. Thank you for your help!
An amazing source of support.
I have already recommend BetterHelp to others. It is very helpful to get affordable professional help and direction in the privacy of your home.
Sharon is a very kind and compassionate person. She is quick to respond with insights that I had not considered. I am very grateful for all the assistance she has given me so far. It is only been a few weeks, but I feel that she is a very good match for me.
We’ve just started this journey together, but it feels good. She’s an inviting person. Thank you, Sharon!!
Sharon is awesome. I have just started with Sharon and I feel supported and listen to completely. I like her exchanges and attention. She is quick to reply and offers many ideas to think about. Looking forward to growing more with Sharon.
She made it possible for me to get the help I needed medically. I can't thank her enough.
She was very patient and helpfull
Sharon was most helpful to me when I was suffering from panic attacks day and night. Her methods and tips are practical and effective in helping me overcome my anxieties and stress. Do what she says and you will see immediate results. Thanks Sharon!
When I started working with Sharon, I was in a pretty bad place. I was going through a divorce, a move, a job change, and dealing with resultant financial struggles and parenting challenges. I was feeling very lethargic, wasn't working or looking to be working, had no relationship and wasn't looking for one. Was a bit angry at the world. Things are very much better now. Full-time employed; building something meaningful. Am dating, meeting some great potential mates and taking my time finding the right one. Am working out several times a week and getting stronger and fitter. Am not pissed off at the past. I'm happy with my kids and my parenting. Life is in a much better place, and I appreciate Sharon's help.
She's saved my marriage. That's the best review I could ever give...
Sharon is by far my favorite counselor. She gets me and really helps me feel better! Highly recommend!
I love Sharon. She has been so helpful and I'm sure my friends are glad I'm "venting" to someone different than them. All the blogs and articles she has given me have helped me make better decision about my life.
Sharon is absolutely incredible. She works quickly to solve with you. But she is also gentle and you don't feel attacked. I would highly recommend working with Sharon to anyone that I know.
Sharon is SO amazing. This is not a therapist for someone who wants to complain and do nothing about it!
For a second, I was a little intimidated, because from day one no matter the issue Sharon was ready with solutions, to dig into what it was I wanted to change and why, and to call out me out only my negative habits and push me to STOP doing them!
Committing to Sharon is committing to do the work, and face the stuff that you just can't talk around anymore. She's not going to let you talk about it for long, if it's something you want to do then she's going to ask you for actionable ways to get it done, and if it's something you want to stop she's going to say STOP! and ask you why if you continue.
To be honest, me reading my own review would be a little intimidated, so if you are that person I want to say don't be, because Sharon pushes you to try!! but on the days where I didn't have it in me to respond or I found myself worried I that I'm never going to get it together, she is a Mama Bear who has rescinded her claws. An advocate and never an accuser. Even when I'm stuck and horribly frustrated with myself Sharon has only ever left me feeling more than equipped and will never leave you believing those lies we tell ourselves sometimes. I'm so very grateful for her.
Sharon has helped me immensely with her wise, independent observations.. I am so grateful.
Gets to the point.
When I first signed up for Better Help I wasn't quite sure what to expect. I went through a few counselors who were helpful but just not for me. Then I found Sharon, who I love! She is persistent, helpful and down to earth. I appreciate her blunt personality more than I thought I ever would. She tells me how it is and really helps me see things from a different and positive point of view.
I was at a point in my life where I didn't know what I could possibly do to feel better. Sharon has been helping me get there and she's doing an amazing job at it. I would highly recommend her to any of my friends or family.
Sharon is great at what she does and has helped me a lot in the short time we have been working together. She has put things into simple perspective that I very much needed.
Sharon has been awesome, and very insightful. Her responses are clear and concise and she keeps a pleasant flow to the process. I am most grateful for her good counsel.
Amazing counselor, highly recommend to anyone that needs someone to talk to and express any problems you have. Thank you Sharon!
Sharon has been absolutely instrumental to my getting my life back on track. She is thoughtful, caring, and isn't afraid to tell you the hard stuff when you might need it.
I felt like an odd case coming into this, and believed I probably couldn't be helped. I'd just lost my husband tragically, and the aftermath of what I had endured was even worse, exacerbating a whole host of skeletons and problems I'd buried deep within. One of the ways my depression manifested itself was hard to explain. I hated the sound of my own voice, especially when it came to the issue at hand. I would have rather let the depression do its worst with me than to speak on it. Then I started seeing ads for e-therapy, a ridiculous notion in my mind. It was so ridiculous, I thought, 'well, why the hell not?' So I signed up, went through a therapist or two quickly until settling upon Sharon. At first, she kinda rubbed me the wrong way. She came off brash and assuming. I found myself getting angry with her, but I also respected something about the way she matched my tone and didn't coddle me even in my fragile state. It appealed to the realist in me, and I decided to see what she was all about. Turns out it was mainly my fault. I gave as little information as possible and expected some magic conversation to either validate that this was utter rubbish, or fix me miraculously so I could get back to living again. Laughably, I was wrong on both accounts. I wasn't opening up, and I didn't trust this process, or Sharon for that matter. I was angry and repressed and in pain and shock, but Sharon was relentless in her pursuit of a response and the truth. It's like she learned my buttons and triggers as well as my language and cynicism, and she played into each one until I started opening up. It was like reverse psychology. I realized I probably wasn't as smart as I thought I was and I was able to take a step back and laugh at myself for a second. She got me to open up. And it's been like a snowball rolling down a hill picking up more snow ever since.
Sharon has been consistent in helping me to air out my numerous issues, some of which I didn't even know I was repressing. She would reach out to me daily, even when I chose to go on hiatus sometimes and check out from everyone. She has earned my trust and speaks to me in a way that commands not only my attention, but my respect. She doesn't talk "at" me, she talks with me, and the difference is appreciated. I truly feel that she cares about me, and I've built a relationship with her that has helped get me through some of my darkest days. She doesn't make me feel bad or self-conscious about my issues. She has a masterful way of not just providing perspective and education, but feeling like a trusted friend or confidante, but with more authority. I didn't trust this process at the beginning of it, but I knew something needed to change. I'm glad I ignored my inclinations to quit and stuck with it. As she learned more about me, I got to know more about her and how she wasn't just trained to throw book-learned things at me, but that she'd experienced real life just as I had, often, finding common ground with me and showing me that I wasn't the only one in the world suffering through tragedy. Sometimes, even though you wouldn't wish your pain on another person, it is comforting to know that someone else is going through or has gone through the same or similar pains that you are, and that they survived it. Sharon has been honest and open about her own issues and how she overcame or is trying to overcome them, and it makes me trust her even more. And something about writing this stuff out appeals to me much more than speaking. It's probably one of my oddities, but this whole process has just been ideal for me. It's been a few months, and the first 2 or 3, I was not committed to this process, but now, I think we are finally starting to get somewhere. And I'm grateful for Sharon (my very-concerned family is, too).
Sharon Valentino is more than just a good counselor. She is an excellent representation of what a fully committed counselor is. When I came to BetterHelp seeking guidance I was paired with Sharon! She has been my first and last counselor through BetterHelp simply because her counseling has been a great fit for my needs. If it wasn't for her encouragement I strongly believe my situation wouldn't have improved. I owe much thanks to Ms. Valentino!
I have been working with Sharon for several weeks and her pragmatic, no-nonsense, results-oriented guidance is perfectly suited to my needs and has been exceptionally helpful. She is a good writer, thoughtful in her answers and extremely responsive. Great experience so far.
Sharon is very understanding and has been extremely helpful to me. She is the best, I could not have imagined being paired with any other therapists on this app other than Sharon.
Sharon has truly been an angel that has helped me to have a perspective on the extreme grief I've been having since my mother's passing 2 months ago. I'm not sure I would be ok had it not been for her insight.
I cannot recommend her enough!
Sharon is very insightful and provides great coping skills. Thank you!
Sharon has been great with working with me. She takes her time and allows me to analyze my situation and put into action the techniques she has showed me.
Sharon has been awesome. She raises questions and ideas in my head that I don't even think of and gets me thinking in the right direction. It's like she's able to realign my thoughts with reality and finds a creative way for me to be positive.
I was originally assigned a different counselor and almost quit using BetterHelp. I figured I'd give it another try, and I was reassigned to Sharon. I'm glad I did. She's been a great help.
Very polite, doesn't waste time, and seems to understand the complicated psychology of highly intelligent people.
Very helpful and informative counselor. Listened to everything I said and gave great advice. Strongly recommend her! Thank you.