Something in your life has led you to search for a resource to help you find the answers and develop the skills to alleviate your distress. My style is warm, real, and practical. I embrace humor and honesty in therapy. I balance helping you gain a greater understanding of yourself with taking action, supporting your every step. I strive to provide the best services possible by helping you to feel deeply understood by considering all the aspects of your unique story. I use therapeutic techniques to work with individuals, couples, and families that have been shown by research to be effective.
The framework that I use is ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy). One of the main goals of ACT stated by Dr. S. Hayes is "changing our relationship to our thoughts and emotions, rather than changing their content, is the key to healing and realizing our true potential. People become identified with the content of their mental life to a large extent by fusion, evaluation, avoidance, and reason giving." Dr. Liz Stanley succinctly states a working model for me – “access choice in all life situations, and align our actions to our intentions and values”.
For the past seven years I have worked as a Military & Family Life Counselor providing non-medical counseling, psychoeducation and coaching to service members and their dependents. For the past four years I have worked in Africa, Poland, Germany and England providing services to deployed military personnel.
My life is full of experiences that inform my work as a therapist – my father’s death when I six years old, a blended family, divorce, and now almost 30 years into a marriage with a wonderful partner. I started working as a marriage and family therapist in 1976 but left the profession and spent twenty years in international business development. I returned to the profession about nine years ago. It's such an honor to explore and guide another as we sort through their lives seeking relief and direction.
Additional areas of focus: Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Self esteem, Career difficulties, Depression, Coping with life changes, Coaching, Compassion fatigue, ADHD, Blended Family Issues, Caregiver issues and stress, Commitment Issues, Communication problems, Divorce and separation, Family Problems, First Responder Issues, Infidelity, Isolation / loneliness, Life purpose, Men's issues, Midlife crisis, Military and Veterans Issues, Workplace issues
Clinical approaches: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Gottman Method
NC LMFT 1599
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Tim is an excellent therapist; run don’t walk to work with him!
Written on Jul 04, 2022 after therapy with Timothy for 10 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, grief, intimacy-related issues, coping with life changes, and coaching
I've worked with Timothy for a few months now, and it has been a brilliant experience so far. I had quite a lot of issues that I needed to unpack, and work through and throughout that process Timothy has been brilliant support - helping me to take a fresh perspective on the things that were troubling me, and we've discussed a wide array of coping mechanisms which have helped me to no end, I couldn't recommend Timothy highly enough, he's brilliant!
Written on May 30, 2022 after therapy with Timothy for 6 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, self esteem, anger management, coping with life changes, and adhd
Tim has been awesome and patient with me. Througout the years I’ve been trying to conquer a lot of challenges and I can say he has truly given me a lot of breakthrough and realizations about myself. I hope to continue my journey and really work through it and be a better version of myself.
Highly recommend Tim. He has really been consistent with me and understands my challenges. I feel heard and understood
Written on Apr 11, 2022 after therapy with Timothy for 6 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, sleeping disorders, self esteem, and coping with life changes
I've had two sessions with Tim and feel like he is assisting me down a positive path. He gets to the core of my issues by making me identify what they are and then provides me with assignments and tools to progress.
Written on Jan 25, 2022 after therapy with Timothy for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, and grief
Great listener. Cares. Practical.
Written on Oct 11, 2021 after therapy with Timothy for 3 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, and family conflicts
Tim's capable and sensible. Some therapists linger on small talk while other therapists lunge for an answer to all your problems. Not Tim. If you work with him, it's your problems at the pace you want, exploring the detours you want to explore.
Written on Sep 22, 2021 after therapy with Timothy for 2 months on issues concerning depression, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and compassion fatigue