My name is Toby, and I am a solution-focused and analytical psychotherapist. I centre my work on understanding the root of our behaviour and emotions while striving to facilitate active and meaningful change in the present. By integrating behavioural approaches such as CBT, REBT, DBT, and others with the depth of more analytical approaches like psychodynamic and analytical methods, I can work in a more effective and long-lasting way.
Additional areas of focus: Addictions, LGBT, Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse, Intimacy-related issues, Eating disorders, Sleeping disorders, Parenting issues, Anger management, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Coping with life changes, Coaching, Compassion fatigue, ADHD, Abandonment, Aging and Geriatric Issues, Antisocial Personality, Attachment issues, BDSM, Kink, Alternative Sex Culture, Blended Family Issues, Body image, Cancer, Caregiver issues and stress, Chronic pain illness and disability, Codependency, Commitment Issues, Communication problems, Control issues, Coping with Natural or Human-Caused Disaster, Dependent Personality, Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD), Dissociation, Divorce and separation, Domestic Violence, Drug and Alcohol Addiction, Eating and Food-Related Issues, Emptiness, Expats, Family of Origin Issues, Family Problems, Fatherhood Issues, Fertility Issues, First Responder Issues, Forgiveness, Gender Dysphoria, Guilt and shame, Hoarding, Hospice and End of Life Counseling, Impulsivity, Infidelity, Isolation / loneliness, Jealousy, Life purpose, Men's issues, Midlife crisis, Military and Veterans Issues, Money and financial issues, Mood disorders , Multicultural Concerns, Narcissism, Obsessions, Compulsions, and OCD, Panic disorder and panic attacks, Paranoia, Personality Disorders, Phobias, Polyamory / Nonmonogamous Relationships, Postpartum Depression, Post-traumatic stress, Pregnancy and childbirth, Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling), Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Self-Harm, Self-love, Sex Addiction, Sexual Assault and Abuse, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexuality, Social anxiety and phobia, Trichotillomania, Workplace issues, Young Adult Issues
Clinical approaches: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Existential Therapy, Jungian Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy
NCPS Therapist - Accredited Member (MNCPS Accred) #NCS15-01812
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A very patient professional, while listening to my description, he offers his professional advice in a precise and concise manner. He could spot what is the key immediately during the discussions.
I have got the professional support I needed, and I have learned during the sessions with him. Thank you Doctor.
Written on Oct 01, 2024 after therapy with Toby for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, and self esteem
Toby is exactly the therapist I need. Challenges me and helps me organize my thoughts in a safe relaxed way.
Written on Sep 30, 2024 after therapy with Toby for 3 weeks on issues concerning addictions, lgbt, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, eating disorders, and adhd
In my limited time, Toby has been welcoming , understanding , and supportive of me. Already highlighting key areas that will help me, within only 2 sessions. Would recommend.
Written on Sep 24, 2024 after therapy with Toby for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, lgbt, relationship issues, and self esteem
He is phenomenal. He knows how to get me to answer questions that I normally wouldn’t
Written on Sep 23, 2024 after therapy with Toby for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, lgbt, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, coping with life changes, compassion fatigue, a
So far I've had just a couple of sessions with Toby, but I've already learned so much about myself and how to act on this, I feel empowered and really optimistic!
Written on Sep 15, 2022 after therapy with Toby for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, and intimacy-related issues