Seven Reasons Why You Might Love Your Partner

Updated November 10, 2022 by BetterHelp Editorial Team

It can be hard to pinpoint exactly what you love about your partner or express the characteristics you most admire. You might love how they treat others, their perspective on life, how they make you feel, or how much they respect you.

Consider the following seven reasons why you might love your partner. If you don’t relate to the items on this list, you might consider creating your own. In some cases, it can be difficult to put feelings into words. Ask your partner what they love about you, and you could find that you feel the same.

It’s Possible To Strengthen Your Relationship.

How They Treat Other People

We may judge people by how they treat others, whether it's our friends, our families, or even strangers. We often want to ensure we're with someone who treats the people in their life well. That can mean someone who is kind to others and who shows respect.

Often, a person’s empathy and compassion can be a predictor of how they might treat you in the future. It can also be one sign that a person is a healthy well-rounded individual. If your partner is someone who loves the people in their life, tries hard to be there for others, and has important close relationships, this may be something you love about them.

How They Look At Life

You might want a partner that looks into the future with an optimistic perspective. After all, you might wish to improve yourself throughout life, and someone positive and hopeful about the future may be able to help with that. Studies show that optimism is one of the key factors in marital satisfaction, as well.

A partner with a positive outlook often looks on the bright side, even when challenges arise. This outlook can help you remain positive and make life a more fun, joyful experience overall. If your partner has a positive outlook, you may love them for it.

How Unique They Are

Everyone can be unique in their own way, and your partner likely has their own unique characteristics that make them stand out from everyone else.

You might admire how much they walk to the beat of their drum or how they’re passionate about their hobbies and interests. Uniqueness can be beautiful, and it might be one of the things you love the most about your partner.

How They Communicate With You

Another characteristic you might love about your partner is how they communicate with you. Effective, healthy communication that expresses love and can be used to talk through conflict can be invaluable to a relationship. Studies show that relationships with both commitment and communication may last longer than those with only commitment and a lack of communication.

It’s Possible To Strengthen Your Relationship.

How They Make You Feel

Many of us want to feel loved and cared for. It’s normal to want to feel important to your significant other. When we feel valued and loved, we are often empowered to become better versions of ourselves.

You may find that your significant other helps you to feel more confident. If your partner makes you feel this way, you might love that about them.

How They Take Care Of You

It can feel amazing to have a partner that knows and understands your needs and does what they can to satisfy them. Maybe your partner takes over mowing the lawn because they know it’s your least favorite chore, or perhaps they know all your guilty pleasure foods and the TV shows you like to watch to destress after a long day of work.

Your partner might give you a massage when you’re stressed or make sure you get plenty of alone time if you need to recharge. Being taken care of in this way can be something you adore in a partner. If your love language is acts of service, you may love how your partner cares for you in small ways.

How They Respect You

Respect might be one of the most important aspects of a relationship for you. In general, you may want someone who will treat you well and defend you if someone else hurts you.

If you love your partner for their respect, they may actively listen to your thoughts and opinions and value you as a person, which could be a commendable trait worth admiring in a partner.

Online Therapy May Improve Your Relationship

All relationships may experience challenges and trying times, but there are tools you can employ that may improve your relationship health. One of these tools is online therapy, which could effectively allow you to talk through conflict and grow closer with your partner. Online therapy can provide a safe and structured environment to discuss your thoughts and feelings with a licensed therapist to mediate and guide the conversation.

You're not alone if you’re nervous about trying online therapy rather than traditional therapy. The couples in one study initially felt doubtful about online treatment. However, they eventually discovered that they found online therapy to be positive and beneficial, and they were able to form a solid therapeutic alliance with their therapists.

If you’re considering online therapy for yourself, platforms such as BetterHelp provide a vast database of experienced licensed counselors. Start by reading some reviews from counselors who have helped users with similar concerns.

Counselor Reviews

“Counselor Juanita Riley is the best therapist I have ever had. Her mind is sharp and discerning, and she has a tangible warmth and compassion for her patients. Having her 30+ years of experience as a therapist, not to mention her 71 years on the planet, imbue this therapist with a warm, mother-energy that heals me. Add in her quick wit and belly laugh, and there you have the perfect therapist: part comedian, part shepherd, never judgmental, always loving and wise. She regularly drops pearls of wisdom during a session -- I tell her she's my own personal Maya Angelou! I'd encourage anyone who's looking for wisdom and acceptance to work with Juanita Riley. I'd also encourage the BetterHelp leadership to find opportunities to expand Juanita's services on your platform: she's a poet, a published author, a musician, an ordained minister, a mother and a wife. She's seen the highs and lows in life, first-hand, which gives her a rare degree of credibility with people who are struggling. I think she'd be a wonderful asset to your group therapy sessions, and an effective instructor for special topics, especially regarding addiction, domestic abuse and racial discrimination. I give Juanita Riley my highest recommendation and would recommend her to friends and family without hesitation.”

"Neelu responded right away. I set up a time for the next day. She took time to let me write long messages to understand my relationship and what's going on with us. I needed a fast response because things are on the edge between me and my wife. Neelu reassured me and was hopeful that we can figure this out."


If your partner asks you why you love them, you might be at a loss for words, even if you know there are many reasons why you feel so strongly for them. This list may help put some words to the feelings you feel for your partner daily.

In some cases, you may struggle with your relationship or have conflict with a partner. Many couples can experience relationship difficulties at times, and online counseling may be a way to grow and work through conflicts. Consider taking the first step by reaching out for help.

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