I Want To Move Out: How Do I Know If I’m Ready?
Updated December 19, 2018
There comes a time in every young adult's life when they move out of their parents' home and establish their own independent household. For some, that happens immediately after high school. For others, it happens when they get married and even more to some, the transition happens a little later in adulthood. If you're thinking "I want to move out" but aren't sure whether the time is right, read on.
I Want To Move Out
The desire to move out is a natural one; if people never experienced the itch for independence, they would never leave the comfort of their parents' house, stretch their wings, and forge their own path in life. However, most people start to feel the desire well before they're fully ready. Or, they are physically ready but are anxious about leaving.
How Do I Know If I'm Ready?
There are multiple indicators that will tell you whether you're ready to move out on your own. While you may not have all of them, it's a good idea to have the majority of them in place before moving out.
You are financially independent. If you have a job (or another source of regular, steady income), this is the biggest step to establishing your own household. You need to be able to pay for not only your housing, but also utilities, food, transportation, insurance, and any other necessary items. It is also a good idea to have (or be well on your way to having) 3-6 months of savings in the bank in case of an emergency. This ensures that not only can you become independent, but you can remain independent in the event of unforeseen expenses.
You are financially responsible. Not only do you have money coming in, but you're managing it in a way that shows you have your priorities in line and can make financially responsible decisions. When you have money, you pay your obligations first - and add luxuries in later.
You can maintain a home. You need to know how to keep a house in a reasonable condition. This doesn't necessarily mean you need to know how to do home repairs (though you should if you're planning to buy one), but rather you have demonstrated at your parents' home the ability to do chores, maintain cleanliness, and establish organizational systems to keep things running smoothly.
You are emotionally independent. When making decisions, you are confident that you have the ability to make them on your own. While it may be a good idea to consult close family and friends on major life decisions going forward, you understand that the weight and responsibility fall on you - and you're ready to accept it. You also understand that if things go sideways, it's up to you to bail yourself out. While your parents may kindly offer to help, your plan - and initial reaction - is not to automatically rely on them to take responsibility when times get tough.
Help With The Transition
No matter how well you prepare to move out, there will be bumps. But that's part of the process of becoming independent - experiencing challenges and rising up to meet them. You'll grow a little more with every one.
If you're feeling stuck in your current situation and aren't sure about your next move, or if you feel guilt or anxiety over leaving your parents' home, counseling can help. Betterhelp.com is an affordable option that even offers counseling online - so you can save your pennies as you ready yourself to launch into independence.