I Want To Move Out: How Do I Know If I’m Ready?
By: Michael Puskar
Updated December 02, 2019
Medically Reviewed By: Christy B.
There comes a time in every young adult's life when they move out of their parents' homes and establish their own independent household. For some, that happens immediately after high school. For others, it happens when they get married, and even more to some, the transition happens a little later in adulthood. If you're thinking, "I want to move out," but aren't sure whether the time is right, read on.
How Do I Know If I'm Ready?
The desire to move out is a natural one; if people never experienced the itch for independence, they would never leave the comfort of their parents' house, stretch their wings, and forge their own path in life. However, most people start to feel the desire well before they're fully ready. Or, they are physically prepared but are anxious about leaving.
Multiple indicators will tell you whether you're ready to move out on your own. While you may not have all of them, it's a good idea to have the majority of them in place before moving out.
You are financially independent. If you have a job (or another source of regular, steady income), this is the most significant step to establishing your own household. You need to be able to pay for not only your housing, but also utilities, food, transportation, insurance, and any other necessary items. It's a good idea to have (or be well on your way to having) 3-6 months of savings in the bank in case of an emergency. This ensures that not only can you become independent, but you can remain independent in the event of unforeseen expenses.
You are financially responsible. Not only do you have money coming in, but you're managing it in a way that shows you have your priorities in line and can make financially responsible decisions. When you have money, you pay your obligations first - and add luxuries later.
You can maintain a home. You need to know how to keep a house in a reasonable condition. This doesn't necessarily mean you need to know how to do home repairs (though you should if you're planning to buy one), but instead, you have demonstrated at your parents' home the ability to do chores, maintain cleanliness, and establish organizational systems to keep things running smoothly.
You are emotionally independent. When making decisions, you are confident that you have the ability to make them on your own. While it may be a good idea to consult close family and friends on significant life decisions going forward, you understand that the weight and responsibility fall on you - and you're ready to accept it. You also understand that if things go sideways, it's up to you to bail yourself out. While your parents may kindly offer to help, your initial reaction is not to automatically rely on them to take responsibility when times get tough.
Seeking Assistance for the Transition
No matter how well you prepare to move out, there will be bumps. But that's part of the process of becoming independent - experiencing challenges and rising up to meet them. You'll grow a little more each time.
If you're feeling stuck in your current situation and aren't sure about your next move, or if you feel guilt or anxiety over leaving your parents' home, counseling can help. Betterhelp.com is an affordable option that even offers counseling services online - so you can save your pennies as you ready yourself to launch into independence. Check out some of the reviews in the next section to see how others have benefited from using BetterHelp's online therapy to address the emotions that often come with making major life decisions.
"I have been talking with Carrie for a few weeks now and found she has been incredibly helpful. I was really confused and struggling with some major changes in my life and had been looking for an unbiased outside perspective and someone to help me through my anxiety with the transition. Carrie was immediately supportive and respectful of my choices and offered a lot of great advice and insight. She's very respectful of your boundaries and works hard to fully understand your situation to give you honest and helpful advice and perspective. She's honest and kind, and easily approachable."
"I was in a very bad place when I started counseling with Vanessa. I was drowning in my negative thoughts, especially about moving into a new place. Vanessa helped me face these thoughts, counter them. It isn't easy, but I am training myself and getting better at it. She helps boost my confidence in all aspects. In Vanessa, I found guidance, empathy, open-mindedness, and a good listener. Vanessa will never fail you!"
Knowing when to move out and wondering if you're making the right choice can add a lot of stress on the pre-existing pressure to leave your parents' house. However, by weighing out your options and talking to a professional, you can relieve some of this anxiety and make the most informed and rational decision for yourself. A fulfilling, independent life is within reach -- all you need are the right tools. Take the first step today.