No One Cares About Me: What Can I Do To Find Support?
Updated October 06, 2018
Reviewer Christine Baker
When you say the words "No one cares about me," you may feel extremely lonely, sad, and depressed. Yet, when you reach out to a healthy support system, your life is going to change for the better. It will take time and effort to gather support for yourself, but it's well worth the effort.
Why Is It That No One Cares About Me?
The first thing to do is look at why you feel that no one cares. You can start by looking at your life situation as objectively as you can. Is it really true that they don't care? Or can it be that they just aren't good at showing it? You might feel like no one cares about you if you've just moved to a new location and don't know anyone yet. Or, perhaps you've chosen to be around people with too many problems of their own to notice your emotional pain. Have you allowed yourself to receive support from others or have you turned people away?
Look to Your Extended Family
If you feel that no one cares about you, you've probably already exhausted the possibilities of support from your immediate family members. Yet, there may be members of your extended family who are more caring and compassionate. Do you have family members who might spend time with you if they knew you needed them? Consider everyone you know. If someone seems like they would be a good friend, give them a chance to get to know you better.
Join a Support Group
Think about what life categories you fit into. What is your relationship status? Do you have a specific challenge that others might be facing, too? Do you have interests that others might share with you? Look online or in your local area for groups or chat rooms where these subjects are discussed. If you join in on the conversation, you can get to know people who understand your situation in a way people outside the group can't fathom.
Talk to Someone Who Knows How to Care
A licensed therapist is someone who has spent at least a part of their adult life giving people caring support. Chances are, they wouldn't be in the profession if they didn't have a genuine feeling of compassion for others. They also know how to help you learn to manage your feelings you might have, that you're unlovable or worthless. As you build your self-esteem, you'll be better able to find the support you need to feel healthy and happy.