Things I Love About You: How to Share Your Feelings

By Stephanie Kirby|Updated August 22, 2022

Talking about your feelings can be a difficult thing. When we open ourselves up to share what we love about someone else, we are making ourselves vulnerable. For that reason, many people resist telling their partner, “these are the reasons why I love you...” and sharing how they feel. However, every person would love to hear their significant other say, “Listen up, here are all the things I love about you”. If you have been resisting doing this, this guide will offer suggestions about what to do and say.

Get In Touch With Your Emotions

Sharing Your Thoughts And Feelings Can Be Difficult

The first step to be comfortable with expressing what you love about someone is to get in touch with your emotions. You won’t be able to properly communicate just what you’re feeling if you don’t know what you're feeling in the first place. If you think in your head, there are so many reasons why I love you! but never verbalize this, start thinking about why you’re holding back so much, especially with your very best friend.

Before you start communicating all the things you love about this important person in your life, spend lots of time thinking about the honest life lessons from this love. Contemplate what your life was like without that person. Think of all the ways that they have made you a better person, made your whole world better, and how incredibly lucky you feel. Think through how you feel when you are with them, and how it would feel to lose them. Don’t just think of general ideas and feelings, take the time to really think about the details and get specific about it. The more connected you get with your emotions, both the negative things and many priceless memories, the easier they will be to share.

Once you get in touch with your emotions, you will be able to discover why you love the person you are with, and maybe even feel like you’re the luckiest person alive. Then, it’s time to start sharing those feelings directly with your partner. You’ll be able to tell them in person, “these are the reasons why I love you...” with far more confidence. So don’t panic. The following steps will help you be able to share your feelings.

It Doesn’t Have To Be A Grand Gesture

Sometimes we get so caught up in thinking that we have to do something big to communicate why we love someone, that it keeps us from sharing how we feel at all. We become so intimidated by the idea of how to do it, that we don’t. But in reality, we don’t need a grand gesture. Most people would just be happy to hear you say, “I love you and you have made my life so much better. I’m happy that I’m with you. Here are all the things that I love about you, and all my memories of us. There are so many reasons why I love you.”

This could be something that you say through a quick text, or a love note. Consider sending a sweet message that says: ‘Reasons Why I Love You’, with a list of why you think they’re so special, such as that they’re your best friend and that you’re the happiest person alive knowing they are the only person for you. You can communicate it however you want, but the important thing is that you do communicate it. The little things matter in relationships. Even just opening the car door or ensuring your eyes smile when you speak affectionately with them can convey the same meaning as romantic words do. Remember to keep that in mind.

Anytime you delay talking or sharing your feelings because you think you don’t have exactly the right words, think again. It’s always better to share in the simplest way than to not share at all. Just say “There are so many reasons why I love you!” and share a couple, like their innate ability to be a courageous person or make you feel peaceful in their presence. You can even just tell them you think they’re the cutest person, have such a beautiful smile, or that you like the way their voice sounds. When someone loves you, they aren’t going to be very worried if you don’t get it right with the way you share it. They’re just happy that you did share it, and will feel completely cherished.

Don’t Overthink It

Don’t overthink what you are trying to say. You don’t have to have the perfect words like you’re in a romantic movie, and it doesn’t have to sound like poetry to make your relationship work. Sometimes we can work ourselves up so much trying to find a perfect way to communicate something that it still doesn’t come out right. It would have been better if we just spend a little time talking by opening our mouth and letting the feelings come out naturally.

Everyone loves to hear positive things about themselves and they will be glad to hear what you have to say, even if it isn’t in the most eloquent way. Just start with, “These are the reasons why I love you...” and let your heart guide you. You can even share lighthearted reasons with them, such as that you enjoy how they are saving funny memes to make you laugh, opening your car door, or that they love watching too many episodes of your favorite show with you. Once you open the flood gates, the depths of what you share will have infinite possibilities.

Don’t Hesitate

When you realize that you love someone, it can feel like a risk to tell them. However, it isn’t something that you should avoid and let go. You don’t want to hesitate because you don’t want to lose the feeling or the person. There’s truly no perfect time or way to say, “I love you, and here are the reasons why I love you.’ So if you don’t act on it when you realize it, it will get harder and harder the longer you wait. Let your feelings of love motivate you into action.

Take It Easy If You Are Just Starting Out

If you are telling someone that you love them for the first time, don’t get too deep. You don’t need to say, “here are all the reasons why I love you” and give them a long list of statements. Instead, in a gentle and calming voice reassure them by simply communicating that you love them. Let your fears melt away and just take this first step. Let your eyes smile as you speak to them. They’ll feel completely cherished just knowing this, which can add so much positive energy to your dynamic! This is a crazy life sometimes, so don’t stress that you don’t have it all figured out. Most people are still figuring out love and relationships.

What If You’ve Been In A Relationship For A While?

If you’ve already communicated with your significant other that you love them, then simply just saying those three words every time might not do it after a while. While hearing the words ‘I love you’ is always nice, if you’ve been together for a long time and are in a serious and committed relationship, sometimes you need to increase your efforts.

This may be the time to put in the effort of sharing, “there are so many amazing reasons why I love you,” and listing the deeper reasons that you love this person. Maybe this person makes you a better person, or makes life joyful. When you have already been in love for a while, it’s important to keep the spark alive. This is usually a mix of remembering the big things, like your anniversary and showing love in the small things, like cooking their favorite meal for dinner. You can give them a thoughtful gift, organize all the photos of you together into a photo album, or something similar. Just something to go above and beyond.

Always Be Honest

When you are sharing your emotions with someone you love, you should never lie. Do not exaggerate your feelings and do not downplay your feelings. Listing out to them, “these are all the reasons why I love you” without meaning any of them is a manipulative thing to do. You want to be as open and honest as possible in order to continue building trust within your relationship. You should also never allow someone to rush you into saying ‘I love you’ before you are ready. If you aren’t sure that you do, or you aren’t ready to communicate it just yet, then don’t be pushed into taking that step.

Sharing Feelings After A Hard Time

Sharing Your Thoughts And Feelings Can Be Difficult

Relationships go through difficult times. If your relationship is in the process of recovering from a difficult situation where trust was lost, it is crucial that you share your feelings with each other. You may be thinking all my sadness is too much to overcome. But if they’re your life partner, there are ways to heal. People process negative things differently, which is why it’s very important to communicate in a gentle and calming voice why you can't imagine life without them, your very best friend. You want to let them know that despite what happened, you still love them and want to work on the relationship.

When trust has been broken, making your relationship work isn’t going to be as easy as giving a list with “all the things I love about you” written on the top. Because your partner does not trust you and people don’t always have the same beliefs about forgiveness, it is going to be hard for them to believe the things that you are sharing. When you spend time talking as you eat breakfast or dinner, you might want to hold off on grand statements like “There are a million reasons why I love you!”

However, that doesn’t mean that you avoid talking about things just because you don’t share the same opinions of what happened between you. Instead, you work that much harder to communicate those things to your significant other. Try to be very understanding and attentive as they share their feelings with you. Don’t try to talk things out in the middle of a noisy crowd or when they’re in the next room. Just a look at their facial expressions can give you an amazing sense of connection.

Don’t Be Afraid To Get Help

Relationships are difficult to navigate and love is tricky. If you are struggling to find the words or the ways to communicate your love to your partner, you can get help. It’s something to take note of if you’re afraid to tell your partner, “These are the reasons why I love you.” There may be underlying reasons that are making it more difficult for you to express your feelings.

Therapists from BetterHelp can assist you in exploring any underlying reasons. This can be critical for improving your relationship. Remember that all help is not the same. You can ask your friends or family for advice, but it’s not the same as getting professional guidance. The great thing about online therapy is you can receive help in the next room from your partner, with the privacy you need to talk openly.

When you love someone, don’t let him or her go without knowing how you feel. You may have butterflies in your stomach, and you might not know the right words to say, but just say it. It doesn’t have to be grand, or sophisticated, or anything else. It’s just important that you share your feelings with your partner.

Below are some commonly asked questions on this topic:

What are some things you love about a person?

The qualities you love about a person are uniquely individual to each. That’s what makes love so special and one of a kind! You’ll love different things about different people. It’s totally normal to think to yourself, the reasons why I love this person are so different from the reasons I loved my previous partner. You may have loved your previous partner’s adventurous spirit or that they spend lots of quality time with you. While you find that you love your current partner’s creative, vivacious spirit. Maybe they spent time writing love songs about you, or saving funny memes and making the most awkward facial expressions they knew would make you laugh. Humans are like snowflakes, and the personalities of each are special.

But there are some commonalities in the love someone has for another. Oftentimes, the mere presence of this loved person can make you feel like you have an incredible life. This love has an innate ability to make you a better person just for having it. If you really love someone, you may not be able to imagine life without them, because of all the amazing moments spent together.

How do you explain why you love someone?

It can be quite difficult to put into words an emotion as complex as love. Life brought an amazing person into your life, and maybe you think of them as your soul mate. Don’t let the opportunity pass to tell them what they mean to you. You can start with, “Here are all the reasons why I love you...” and go from there. Use inspiration from the following statements: “Not only our relationship is a perfect gift to me, but just knowing you has made me a better person. Only my lover and best friend can make me see negative things differently. All my fears melt away in life anytime life throws curveballs at me and you’re there to support me. My whole world has changed, and you’re the only person I want to love like this.”

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