As a qualified counsellor, I provide a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental environment where I can help you gain insight into the less conscious aspects of your thinking, behaviour and feelings.There are many reasons why people come for counselling. Together we can explore and address concerns surrounding many different issues, ranging from; Bereavement and loss., Anxiety/fear.· Change: divorce, redundancy and many others.· Relationship issues.· Abuse: past or present, sexual, physical, mental or financial.· Confidence and self esteem.· Addictions.· Depression.· Eating disorders.
My role as a therapist is to help you find clarity and perspective so you can build healthy relationship with yourself and others and better manage your internal and external world. Over time, you will gain your own insights allowing you to feel more in control and able to trust in your own strengths and internal resources, allowing you to make the changes needed to improve your life and well-being. I work in a client-centred and collaborative way adopting different counselling approaches to suit the client's needs. However, I emphasize on the commitment of the client to therapy because they are the master of their own mind and experience.
There will be times that it may be challenging as we explore parts of ourselves we might prefer to avoid or feel are unacceptable. If we are willing to take the risk, within the safety of the therapeutic space, counselling rewards us with a deeper understanding of ourselves and enriches our lives with more awareness and meaning.
Additional areas of focus: Stress, Anxiety, Addictions, Relationship issues, Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse, Grief, Intimacy-related issues, Eating disorders, Sleeping disorders, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Depression, Coaching, Compassion fatigue, Abandonment, Attachment issues, Avoidant personality, Caregiver issues and stress, Commitment issues, Control issues, Divorce and separation, Domestic violence, Emptiness, Family of origin issues, Family problems, Forgiveness, Immigration issues, Infidelity, Jealousy, Midlife crisis, Money and financial issues, Multicultural concerns, Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD, Personality disorders, Phobias, Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships, Postpartum depression, Prejudice and discrimination, Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling), Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Self-harm, Sexual assault and abuse, Women's issues, Workplace issues
Clinical approaches: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), Existential Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Hypnotherapy, Jungian Therapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Narrative Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy
NCPS Therapist - Accredited Member (MNCPS Accred) #NCS18-06308
These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Abolanle (Bola) Aloluwaloba. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with BetterHelp might be different.
Bola is simply amazing!
I came to therapy feeling heavy, at a low point, and with a lot to deal with and heal from. It was my first time trying therapy, and I wasn't getting much help from a previous therapist. A friend recommended BetterHelp, and after registering, I was matched with my therapist, Bola.
Speaking with Bola was a breath of fresh air. Not only is she softly spoken, but she also listens well and always has a way of summing up what you're feeling and are unable to properly express. She's an absolute professional, very well grounded in her expertise, very empathetic and understanding, and, I must say, full of wisdom. Through her immense support, I was equipped with the tools to be and to continue to live a healthier and more fulfilling life.
I can only recommend her.
Written on Jun 24, 2025 after therapy with Abolanle (Bola) for 1 year and 1 month on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, grief, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, self esteem, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Bola consistently demonstrates a high level of professionalism, empathy, and clinical competence, making a positive and lasting impact on client well being.
She creates a safe and non-judgmental space for individuals to explore complex emotional issues. Her approach is both compassionate and evidence-based, drawing from a range of therapeutic models tailored to support individual needs.
Written on Jun 18, 2025 after therapy with Abolanle (Bola) for 5 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and compassion fatigue
Bola was fantastic and guided me through issues with appropriate interventions and exercises that allowed me to better understand myself and be better version of me in the future.
Written on May 28, 2025 after therapy with Abolanle (Bola) for 3 months on issues concerning depression, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, self esteem, and anger management
Shes been great, she understands my concerns and gives the right level of feedback and exploration.
Written on Feb 14, 2025 after therapy with Abolanle (Bola) for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, parenting issues, and anger management
Bola is kind and gives me a different opinion and has improved my mental healyh
Written on Nov 01, 2024 after therapy with Abolanle (Bola) for 2 months on issues concerning depression, relationship issues, and anger management
I'm happy that I found such a professional, experienced, kind, respectful therapist like Bola! She really helps me change my life for the better!
Thank you!
Written on Oct 11, 2024 after therapy with Abolanle (Bola) for 1 year and 2 months on issues concerning relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, parenting issues, self esteem, and anger management