What Is Tinder And How Do I Use It To Find A Relationship?

Updated March 23, 2023by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Tinder is one of the most well-known and widely used dating platforms currently on the market. However, like many of the other dating platforms that are currently available, there are no instructions that tell you how to get the most of the platform itself. If you are new to Tinder, or if you are interested in using it to find a partner, here is an explanation of what Tinder is and how you can use it to find a relationship.

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What Is Tinder?

Tinder is a location-based dating app that was released late in 2012. Using the app, individuals can find potential matches in the area, select those that they like the most, pass on people who don't catch their attention, and chat with the people who are interested in them. The app is simple to use and has a web-based application for users who do not have a mobile device.

Tinder Features

  • Upon opening the app, the front page will display users in your area depending on your sexual orientation and distance limits. This amount will increase, decrease, and change as you go through these users and new users arrive in your area.

  • If you find someone that you might be interested in, you can click on the profile picture and scroll down to read their profile and learn more about them.

  • If you like someone, you can swipe right or press the green “check” button.

  • If you aren't interested in someone, you can swipe left or press the red “x” button.

  • If you are very interested in someone, you can press the blue heart in the middle.

Tinder Dating Tips To Attract More Potential Partners

There are some common formulas used by users across all dating sites and applications that help them land more dates and lead them to success in their dating lives, whether it's through traditional in-person dating or the world of internet dating. Here are some of the most common tips.

  1. Leave A Good Impression With A Great Profile Picture

We all know the profile pictures that often leave people with a feeling of dread or even disgust. For example, shirtless profile pictures, fuzzy profile pictures, and pictures with a large group of people fall into this category. Leave a good impression with the other users on the app by taking a clear, semi-professional profile picture that gives them an idea of who you are. Make sure to smile!

  1. Follow Up Your Main Profile Picture With Others Of Equal Quality

Tinder gives you the opportunity to fill your profile with more than one profile picture, and you can seize this opportunity to improve your chances of landing a date. In fact, it is recommended that you use these additional photos to show off some of your favorite hobbies. If you like playing frisbee on the beach, capture a clear picture that shows you doing exactly that. Photos that help people learn more about you can inspire a better connection.

  1. Write A Brilliant Bio Section (Short, Sweet, And Polite)

The bio section of any dating profile is arguably the most important section of your profile. Through your bio section, people learn more about who you are, what you like to do, and what type of person you are looking for. People might not want to read an entire autobiography when they click on your profile picture, though. They may just want to know a little about who you are as an individual and what you are looking for if they choose to date you. Use common sense when you are crafting this portion of your profile. You may want to avoid being too negative, direct, or desperate.

  1. Be Realistic In Both Your Photos And Your Description

There is nothing more disappointing than reading a profile or seeing a picture on a dating app and then meeting someone in real life and finding out that they are not quite who you expected them to be. Yes, it may be helpful to focus on some of your best traits, and you might want to impress your would-be date. However, you should never mislead someone else through fake or deceptive profile pictures and descriptions. That is the quickest way to end a potential relationship before it even starts.

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  1. Include Job Information And Any Other Information That Will Improve Your Status

Although people may not judge you solely on your profession, education, or status in society, it could help to add this type of information to your profile. Make sure to include your current job, any college education that you have received, and any other information that says, "Hey, I am a mature adult who has worked very hard to get to where I am in my life". This type of information may impress people who are interested in you and might encourage them to swipe right!

No matter how much effort you spend building a Tinder profile, it may all come down to chemistry and connectivity. You can have the most dates out of anyone on the platform, but there is no guarantee that these dates will lead to something permanent. Keep your hopes up and do your best to build relationships while using the platform!

Get Support

Dating is hard, and so are relationships. If you’re experiencing any difficulties in this area of your life, it could be beneficial to seek support from a professional counselor. Of course, a clinical office setting is not always the most comfortable environment for talking about your love life. Some people prefer a less intimidating setting like an online setting. With online therapy, you can discuss details of your dating life and relationship issues from the comfort of home. Plus, scheduling these types of appointments is more convenient since appointments are available anytime day or night. 

Online counseling has been proven effective for addressing matters of the heart. One study highlighted its ability to make couples feel more in control and at ease during sessions. This helped them overcome hesitations to tell their feelings, which can help in the therapeutic process. 


Do you have any dating questions or are you currently getting out of a rocky relationship and need help working through it? BetterHelp is an online counseling platform dedicated to providing affordable and convenient online counseling. If you think you could benefit from online counseling, just answer a few questions that will help you connect with the right online counselor for you.

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