Why Do I Hate My Mother?
Almost everyone has said it at one time or another. "I hate my mother" or "I cannot stand my mom." In fact, those who say this rarely mean what they say and they are usually just mad at the time. However, some people really do hate their mother, and usually have good reason.
Of course, there are those who blame their mothers for something that is not their fault, but most of the time, if the person really hates someone (especially a parent) there is a logical reason. Sometimes it is because of abuse (physical, mental, or sexual) or because their mother left them at a young age. Whatever the reason, if you are feeling hatred for your mother, there must be an explanation.
Is It Okay to Feel This Way?
Your feelings are valid no matter whether others agree with them or not. Nobody can say "oh, you do not really feel that" and mean it. The way you feel is personal and nobody else can tell you not to feel that way. Well, they can tell you, but nobody can actually make you stop feeling something that you feel. In fact, a lot of the time, you cannot even change how you feel even if you want to. For example, if you are reading this, it is probably because you do not want to hate your mother but you cannot control that feeling unless you figure out what is causing it. To do this, you will need to speak to someone, preferably a professional, about these feelings.
Why Do I Hate My Mother?
You can make an appointment with a psychiatrist, psychologist, or therapist if you want to. However, if you are like most of the population, you do not have the time to go to a bunch of sixty minute meetings to talk about your mother. And nobody wants to have to wait six months for an appointment either. There are other alternatives now such as videoconferences, online meetings, phone calls, or even texting with therapists. BetterHelp.com has over 2,000 licensed professionals who can be available to talk to you right now.
Do Not Let It Ruin Your Own Relationships
It is important to your mental health to confront these feelings and deal with them. Harboring the hatred and allowing yourself to feel that way every time you think about your mother can affect all of your relationships with others. This includes relationships with your own children, if you have any. This does not mean that you have to forgive your mother and build a relationship with her. Absolutely not. Unless you want to. It just means that you should find out why you feel this way and let it go so you are not carrying that around with you all the time.
Why You Should Let It Go
Hatred can make you bitter and wear you out emotionally. Even if you still hate your mother, you have to figure out why so you do not blame yourself. Talk to someone today and find out what is going on inside you so you can move on.