Friendships are great, but sometimes they have to come to an end. The two of you may have drifted apart, or no longer see eye to eye. Sometimes, friendships end with no explanation at all. You may be left with bad blood, the nostalgia of a long-time friendship, or the happiness of just a few good memories with that former friend. Here are some quotes that tackle the subject of losing friends.
"New friends may be poems but old friends are alphabets. Don't forget the alphabets because you will need them to read the poems." -William Shakespeare
Sometimes, friendships end because your friend found some new friends, spends more time with them, and slowly drifts away from you. In the perfect world, people would balance their new friendships with their old, but sometimes people can only concentrate on the newest friends, making their old friends feel alienated and forgotten. It's good to keep in touch with your old friends, because they may have been there before anyone else was.
"No one is busy. It all depends on what number you are on their priority list." -Anonymous
Growing up means having responsibilities. You have a job, family and other commitments, and you can't see your friend all the time. With that said, some friendships end because one person claims always to be busy. And people are often quite busy. However, a friend who is interested in being a friend will still figure out how to make time for you. It may not be right away, but if they are interested, they will make some time.
"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down." -Oprah Winfrey
Sometimes, people are friends with you not because they care about you, but because you benefit them in some way. Maybe you have money or something else they desire. When it comes to hanging with your friend when they don't need anything, they'll ignore you and put you off. This can lead to you distancing yourself from a friend.
"It's true: lives do drift apart for no obvious reason. We're all busy people, we can't spend our time simply trying to stay in touch. the test of a friendship is if it can weather these inevitable gaps" -William Boyd
Some friends drift away, but one party still has affection for the other. They may not talk to the other friend in order to give them space but they long for the day when that friend will contact them and want to rekindle the old friendship and start anew.
"In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." -Martin Luther King, Jr.
One reason friendships end is because some friendships are fair weather. When everything is going well for you, your friends are around. However, when everything is going badly, your friends aren't there to help. If someone is attacking you, your friends don't defend you. Friends can sometimes hurt you more than any enemy ever could, and that's why you need to pick your friends wisely.
"Friendships cause heartbreakstoo." -Anonymous
Breaking up with someone you love can be devastating, and it's been the subject of many pieces of media throughout the years. However, one form of breakup that is less observed is breaking up with a friend. Sometimes, a friendship ending can be almost as bad, if not just as bad, as breaking up with a lover.
"The most painful goodbyes are the ones that are never said and never explained." - Anonymous
In a perfect world, when a friendship ends, there would be some form of goodbye. The goodbye would be bittersweet, and explain why the friendship ended. Friends would be able to tell one another what went wrong so they can improve themselves. Perhaps, by airing out their grievances, there is a way to fix the friendship. Many friendships and relationships end due to simple miscommunication.
However, this is not the case sometimes. Sometimes, the person ends up ghosting you—in other words, cutting off communication without an explanation. There are some understandable reasons why someone would ghost a friend. Sometimes, the friend doesn't listen and will keep pestering the other person.
However, in other cases, a friend is suddenly blocking all form of communication from you without giving you a reason, and this can be heartbreaking. Ironically, the reason some end up ghosting is because they don't want to hurt the other person's feelings.
"Sometimes you just have to accept the fact that some people only enter your life as temporary happiness." - Anonymous
Some friendships are only temporary. Like a temporary job or a casual fling, a temporary friendship comes and goes before it can even blossom. These can be hard to understand, but the phenomenon does exist. Some people are just wanderers, moving locations and friendships like it's nothing.
"Too many friendships end with, 'We just stopped talking.'" -Anonymous
Again, some friends just drift away. Many don't intend for a conversation with their friend to be their last, but then the friends no longer talk. Why it happens depends on the situation. Tastes change, distractions happen. No matter the case, keep in touch with your old friends. You'll be glad you did.
"Not friends, not enemies. Just strangers with memories." -Anonymous
When a friendship ends, you usually expect it to end on bad terms. However, this isn't always the case. Sometimes friendships end because they drift away. There is no bad blood between the two former friends. Just some memories. They don't feel a connection any longer, yet the memories are still there.
Of course, if a friendship did end with distance, there's a good chance the two of you can become friends again in the future. Always remember to keep in touch with your friends and don't let them drift apart.
"'In a relationship' does not mean you should stop talking to your friends.” -Anonymous
One of the biggest reasons why many friendships end is because of a romantic relationship. Most of us have that friend who was inseparable, but the second they got into a serious relationship, they went radio silent.
It's understandable that during the early stages of a relationship, the person may be less focused on their friends. However, some people do not know how to balance their friendships with their relationship, and this can cause serious problems down the road.
Others may not hang with their friends as much because their relationship needs may be met. They may not even realize the reason why.
Also, if your partner is making you avoid your friends, you should examine whether the relationship is a healthy one to begin with. A good partner will let you balance your love and friendship lives.
Remember to keep your friends and don't be too blinded by love. If your relationship ends, your friends will support you unless you've alienated them.
The “Friendship Ended With” Meme
A popular meme, which has been around since 2015, is "Friendship ended with X, now Y is my best friend."
This meme involves a man named Asif Raza Rana. He posted a picture of himself shaking hands with another man, with the caption, "Friendship ended with Mudasir. Now Salman is my best friend." In the bottom corners, pictures of Mudasir that were crossed out appeared.
The meme gained traction because of its bluntness and the fact that it came across as an awkward way of announcing your friendship. Since then, it's become a meme template to show the end of old relationships and the beginning of new ones, both in pop culture and in fiction.
What is less known about this meme is that Rana later on posted that he became friends with Mudasir again after Mudasir changed his attitude. This teaches us the one value many friendships tend to forget: forgiveness. Friendships will go through ups and downs. There may be times when you swear you're done with a friend. However, a good friendship will have the two of you burying the hatchet and continuing to be the best of friends.
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If you feel as though you’re struggling holding on to relationships, a counselor may be able to help you figure out why. And remember, friendships can last a lifetime, or like a firework, they can explode and then fade away. Don't feel upset because the friendship ended. Be happy that it happened.