“I Need Help”: It's OK To Ask

By Nicole Beasley |Updated April 5, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Wendy Galyen, LCSW, BC-TMH

All of us have needed support at some point or another. It’s normal and healthy to have it sometimes. Sometimes, however, it can be incredibly hard to ask for help. For whatever reason, we may tell ourselves that we don’t really deserve it or that we can manage just fine on our own, or that asking for it somehow means that we are weak.
Failing to face our problems head on and get the necessary support generally only worsens things, unfortunately. Luckily, getting help doesn’t have to be expensive or inconvenient anymore, thanks to the power of the internet and our smart devices. 

"I Need Help"

Read on to learn more about why it can be life-changing to recognize the simple phrase and then act on that recognition. Simply asking for help has been shown to improve patient outcomes in primary health care, and you can reap the same benefits by doing so yourself. 

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Recognizing And Getting Help In Five Steps

Denial

No matter the nature of our problem, whether substance use disorder, interpersonal problems, or depression, to name a few very common issues, denial is often the first step that needs overcoming.

If you already recognize that you need help, that’s wonderful. Unfortunately, many people tell themselves that everything is fine, even if deep down they know that that’s not truly the case.

Denial is a complex issue that can be worsened by sociocultural factors. For example, some men experiencing what very well may be depression may feel discouraged from recognizing their condition and seeking help. This is especially true if he comes from a family, town, country, etc. where it’s considered “weak” to be depressed or discuss emotion in general.

Ultimately, denial keeps us spinning in place rather than allowing us to move forward. Until we can overcome denial, it can be quite difficult to find improvement for whatever issues we may be having.

Acceptance

Acceptance is essentially the antidote to denial. By accepting that we need help, we help ourselves begin the pathway toward healing.

Unfortunately, acceptance can be quite difficult. It is, after all, often the “harder” path to take as it takes consistent work to reach acceptance. It can seem easier, in the short term, to lie to ourselves and try to convince ourselves that everything is fine. It can seem downright impossible to accept that you need help, especially if you have issues with avoidant behavior and attachment styles.

When acceptance comes, however, you will likely feel a burden lifted. While it can be scary to think about getting the help you need, how you might pay for it, etc., this is often an absolutely vital step on your journey to a happier life.

Considering Your Options

Once you’ve come to terms with the fact that you need help, it’s time to weigh your options. Here are a few possibilities you might consider when it’s time to ask for help:

  • Talk to a trustworthy friend or family member
  • Talk with a mentor
  • Talk with a religious advisor
  • Turn to a support group
  • Try a hotline
  • Find a helpful internet forum
  • Seek the help of a mental health professional

It’s important to recognize that all of the above options besides the last one will likely lead you to discuss your issues with people who are not licensed mental health experts. Nonetheless, sometimes just opening up to a friend or loved one can be enough to help you feel better and provide you with some alternate perspectives that could be helpful.

Trial And Error

After noting your various options, it’s important to try different things. Sometimes, it may not seem as though sharing what you’re going through with one person will make a difference, but the perspective of another person could be life changing and give you a way of thinking about things that you’d never considered before.

Trying different forms of help can help you determine what you need, as well as what works for you and what doesn’t. For some issues, talking with a trusted friend or loved one may be incredibly helpful. For others, seeking out a group forum or in-person support group focused on things similar to what you’re going through (such as depression, an eating disorder, relationship troubles, and so on) might provide you with a greater sense of understanding, belonging, and support. In still other cases, a mental health professional may be the most able to provide you with the care and support that you need. There is no way for you to know unless you try! It can be hard to put yourself out there, but it is undoubtedly worth it when we find genuine care and support that helps us to heal and grow.

What To Do When You Think Yo Yourself "I Need Help"

It’s often worth pursuing different options to see what works for you. Everyone is different and depending on the severity of the issue(s) you’re facing, you may need the help of a licensed counselor like those available through BetterHelp, an online therapy platform.

Feeling Better

Overcoming denial, coming to accept that you need help, and then considering and pursuing your options can lead to a much happier and more self-aware life. If you want to feel better, sometimes it’s essential to ask for help. No matter what you’re going through, you can confront your issues and talk through them. This can easily open up a new horizon of possibilities for you and have you feeling like you can see light at the end of the tunnel for the first time in a while, perhaps even years if you’ve long been in denial.

When you are willing to make a positive change, know that help is always around in many forms. One such outlet you might pursue is BetterHelp, which allows you to find a licensed therapist, counselor, or psychologist who can work with you through your specific struggles.

Talk Therapy With BetterHelp

Thanks to the internet and our smart devices, it’s never been easier to get help via therapy. You could be anywhere you feel comfortable talking about your issues: traveling, at home, at a park – just about anywhere you have an internet connection and feel secure and private.

The licensed mental health experts at BetterHelp are ready to help you as soon as you are ready to receive help. Once you’ve accepted that you need help, you’ve overcome one of the hardest parts of your journey toward better days. That takes a great deal of self-awareness and strength! From there, BetterHelp can help you get the specific help you need and accompany you every step of the way.


Help Is Out There If You Want It

Online therapy has been found to be just as effective as in-person therapy for a variety of mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, and PTSD, among many others. Specifically, a study focused specifically on the effectiveness of BetterHelp  in regards to depression and its symptoms found that most users reported greater satisfaction, a greater improvement in symptoms, more ease of access, greater affordability, a higher therapeutic alliance rating (which is essentially the degree to which they feel as though they and their therapist are on the same page and trust one another), and 100% convenience. All of these categories and ratings were in comparison with in-person counseling, the latter’s figures also being included in the study.

Studies Suggest Therapy Can Improve Mental Health

Similarly, another study conducted by the University of Zurich found that those dealing with anxiety and depression experience greater benefit from online therapy over the medium and long term than those utilizing in-person therapy, though perceived improvement may feel slower in the short term.

Continue reading below to find reviews of some of BetterHelp’s licensed and experienced therapists from people seeking help for a variety of issues.

Therapist Reviews

“Marie and I worked together for over a year. We just had our last session today and honestly I cannot say enough great and nice things about her. Marie is by far one of the most attentive, thorough, and supportive therapists I have ever had. She really puts in a lot of time and effort into each session and takes detailed notes so that she can follow up to see how you are doing in each area. She is excellent at both holding you accountable and giving you the tools to do so yourself. Our sessions were both challenging and encouraging, as Marie helped me own up to the hard truths we don't always want to hear, but she also helped me find my inner strength to embark on the path to self improvement. If you want a therapist that is all about dedication, positivity, accountability, self improvement, and teaching people to be self reliant, then Marie is the therapist you should choose. I would highly recommend her to anyone. 10/10 experience for me!”

https://www.betterhelp.com/marie-elanus/

 

“She has been the best thing to happen to me. I was really in a bad place and was avoiding therapy or any time to dedicate to fixing me. She was the first therapist i matched with and now I couldn’t picture myself communicating with anyone else. I’m so thankful.”

https://www.betterhelp.com/eileen-madden/ 

 
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