I’m Going To Love You Forever: How To Build A Lasting Bond

Medically reviewed by Paige Henry, LMSW, J.D.
Updated April 26, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Fulfilling, long-lasting romantic relationships can be highly rewarding, but cultivating a lasting bond can be challenging at times. It may help to remember that communication is crucial, that you don’t need to be afraid to apologize after an argument, and that it’s important to make time to spend together. It can also be beneficial to embrace your individual interests, take action to keep the romance alive, and support your partner in any way you can. Setting goals for the future together and creating plans to achieve them may also help you build a lasting bond. Another strategy that could potentially strengthen your relationship is attending online couples therapy together.

Remember that communication is crucial

Online couples therapy can help you build a lasting bond

One of the first things to think about if you want to build a lasting love may be the way you’re communicating. Communication can be crucial in any type of relationship. You may not be able to form a lasting bond if you can’t talk to each other about your feelings. It may not always be easy to open up about certain things and process emotions, but it can be important to try.

You may wish to confirm to your significant other how you feel, such as telling them, “I’m going to love you forever.” If you can’t communicate with them, then they may not be able to tell what’s going on in your mind. Remember that your partner likely wants the best for you, and they probably want you to let them in so that they can understand and support you. Sometimes you might need to find the courage to be able to let your guard down and talk.

Improving your communication can also mean changing the way that you speak to one another. Couples that are prone to conflict might have shouting matches or say mean things to each other from time to time. Having disagreements can be normal in a relationship; you may not agree on everything all the time. It can be helpful to avoid speaking to each other in harmful ways so that you can resolve your disagreements healthily.

Don’t be afraid to apologize after an argument

Arguments sometimes happen in a relationship, but a fight with your significant other may not need to prevent you from loving them or feeling content. Some couples can make the mistake of letting arguments linger for too long. They may stop speaking or act unusually for days on end. This may not be a good way to cultivate a lasting bond with your partner.

If you intend to love your partner forever, then remembering this might help put arguments in perspective. Try not to be afraid to apologize after you’ve had an argument. Instead, try to be honest with yourself about your previous choices and recognize when you are in the wrong. It can be wise not to let a momentary disagreement rob you of your love.

Make time for each other

Another thing you may consider when trying to build a lasting love with your partner is how much time you make for each other, especially in the current digital age. Failing to make time for your partner may harm your relationship. It may not always be easy, but remember that you can enjoy each other’s company from the comfort of home rather than feeling like you must go on extravagant dates. The small moments together can make a big impact as long as you are fully present.

Embrace your individual interests

Sometimes, spending every waking moment together can result in unnecessary conflict. Even when you love someone and enjoy your time with them, it can be possible to need time for yourself to focus on your own hobbies and interests.

You might want to play a game of basketball with your friends, attend local events, read, create art, or engage in other hobbies. It can be beneficial to make time for yourself and ensure that your partner makes time for their own independent pursuits as well.It can be important to encourage your partner to pursue the things that they love, even if you aren’t going to be an active part of them. A balance of independence and separation can be healthy in a relationship.

Keep the romance alive

Remember that to feel content and have a love that lasts, romance can be vital. If you don’t make time for romance, you may not have a very fulfilling relationship. It might not be practical to make grand romantic gestures all the time, but a little bit of effort now and then can go a long way.

You might pay attention to the little things in order to show your partner that you care about them. You could plan date nights and make room for special moments together. These experiences as a couple can be things that you remember and cherish for a long time.

This can also mean making time for physical romance, although it’s important to note that many people have differing needs for physicality, and relationships can be healthy without it. Still, many people desire physical affection, and it can help them feel loved. Showing your partner love with regular kisses, hugs, and handholding can be an important part of a relationship. It may also be helpful to make time for regular sex.

Support your partner whenever possible

Online couples therapy can help you build a lasting bond

Being a supportive partner can help you build a lasting bond. It’s very likely that your partner will need support in certain ways over the years. If you can be there for them both emotionally and physically, it can make a difference in the success of your relationship. Being steady enough to support the person that you love through the downs and be there to cheer them on during the ups can be a great way of showing your love.

Plan for the future and make it happen

Do you have goals for the future? Do you want to have children, or are you hoping to achieve certain milestones in your career? What are your plans for the future of your relationship, and how do you want to make them happen? These are questions that you may ask your significant other to facilitate a conversation about what each of you would like to experience in your the future. You may even wish to create a checklist of goals you want to achieve together and hang it up as a reminder. Not only can it be important to set goals, but it may be just as crucial to create plans to achieve those goals so that they can become a reality.

Online relationship therapy may strengthen your relationship

If building a lasting bond with your significant other is a priority for you, you may wish to consider couples therapy. Working with a licensed therapist may help you to strengthen your connection and work through any conflicts that arise. It may be the case that you and your partner have busy schedules or have children at home, making it challenging to fit therapy into your week. Online therapy may be a solution, as you can attend sessions from anywhere with an internet connection.

You may experience initial doubts about the efficacy of online couples therapy, similar to the couples in this study. However, it’s likely that you, like the couples in the study, will also find the experience to be beneficial and positive for your relationship.

Takeaway

Having a long-lasting loving relationship can be a beautiful part of life, but determining exactly how to maintain a lasting bond can be difficult. Here are a few general guidelines that may help:

  • Engage in healthy, effective communication.

  • Don’t be afraid to apologize after an argument.

  • Make room in your schedule for quality time.

  • Embrace your individual interests.

  • Take action to keep the romance alive.

  • Support your partner whenever possible.

  • Set goals for the future together and make plans to achieve them.

If you and your partner are experiencing conflict or other relationship challenges, online couples therapy may help you work through them.

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