Things To Talk About With Your Crush To Get Them To Like You
Can you think of a person that you're interested in but can't seem to think of anything to say? Maybe you resist talking to him or her because you feel that you don't have anything in common. Yes, finding things to talk about with your crush can be difficult and if you're not a good conversationalist by nature, you might even scare that person away.
That's why it's a smart idea to prepare in advance for the next time you see your crush, so that you can have a variety of topics in mind and not keep him or her waiting. Now mind you, this doesn't mean you should rehearse conversations. Conversation requires interaction. If you spend too much time rehearsing what to say, you will leave your crush out of the conversation entirely and create an awkward dynamic.
Instead, think practically about the kind of conversation your crush can contribute to, so that you can create a smooth exchange of dialog.
Things to Talk About with Your Crush that are Safe
- Anything You Might Have in Common
The safest conversation is one where you merely ask about, or make statements of, things you both have in common. You won't always get this opportunity-because you don't always know what you have in common, at least at first. But sometimes you get the opportunity, if you see that your crush likes the same restaurant as you do, or likes the same sports, or knows some of the same friends. This is an instantly "safe" conversation that can help you build a foundation of trust with this person. You're no longer a "stranger" once you start finding common ground.
Compliments are expected in dating conversation, so if your crush is obviously interested in you physically (demonstrated by friendly gestures and undivided attention), and the attraction is mutual, giving him/her a compliment is a good way to start dating communication. However, this is not always a wise move, particularly if your crush is always being complimented and is generally considered "beautiful" or above average by your peers. A better idea might be to avoid giving him/her direct compliments about their body, and instead compliment their fashion choice, their work (or art), or something unique about the individual.
- Talk about Your Crush's Interests
If you can't think of anything to say, then, focus on listening and getting your crush to talk about him or her. We're all a little selfish when it comes to discussing our own feelings, opinions, life experiences, and philosophies. Most people are probably eager to tell somebody about their life, problems, and opinions. Why not create a friendly rapport with your crush, letting them know you are always ready to listen?
A Time magazine article used Dale Carnegie's philosophy to explain the idea of listening. The most captivating people in life are not necessarily showman, but good listeners-they are the people who evoke others to speak from the heart and to confide in a new friend. In theory then, you're not looking for conversations that are generic and respectable, but topics that your crush is passionate about. That will get them thinking, talking and feeling.
If you really want to find things to talk about with your crush, start with something you both have in common, followed by a compliment, and then proceed naturally onto things they really care about. This is what good conversation means!
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