How To Respond When Your Boyfriend Ignores You
Relationships aren't always perfect, and sometimes, issues that you do not know how to handle come up, such as when your boyfriend ignores you. The good news is that just because you feel neglected, doesn't necessarily mean that your boyfriend doesn't care about you anymore and it doesn't mean the relationship is falling apart. But it may mean that you need to take some steps that can help improve the relationship. Yes, you. Remember, you can only control your behavior, not your partner's.
When your boyfriend ignores your texts
First of all, take a breath and allow yourself to calm down for a moment. It's natural to start worrying or let anxiety take over if you haven't heard from your partner longer than is usual. Try to access the logical part of your mind rather than the panicking part. Understand that whatever is going on in your mind (Is he with someone else? Did he have an accident? Am I annoying him?), it's all your imagination at this point because if he hasn't told you why he is unresponsive, then you just don't know. He could be busy or be somewhere he had to ignore his phone.
Even if your boyfriend is at home and could easily access his phone to return your texts, another thing to keep in mind is that he is not obligated to respond to every message you send him immediately.You don't need to take offense to that. Sometimes individuals in a relationship need a little space or time for their own interests and it doesn't necessarily indicate that anything is wrong.
If your texts go ignored on a regular basis, then you may have more of a problem in your hands. In this case, you should choose a time when you are calm, and in person, to discuss with your boyfriend how it makes you feel when you send a text and he doesn't respond for a long time. Be honest without being hurtful to your partner.Be open to letting him explain his reasons.
When your boyfriend ignores you in person
Being ignored in person is also called the silent treatment. It may just be that your partner doesn't say anything to you unless you specifically address them. Either of these situations can be a red flag in your relationship, and often lead the ignored partner to feel like the other person doesn't care about them.
Sometimes in these situations, your boyfriend may not even realize that you feel ignored. So the best thing to do is to approach him calmly. He may not even realize that you are upset or that there is any problem. If this is the case, you can try discussing solutions to help you feel like you get more attention from him.
If he is intentionally ignoring you because he has a problem, then, now is the time to set aside your own feelings and be the caring partner in order to find out how you can fix the issue that started this silent treatment. Of course, you should still be honest that his reaction hurt your feelings, but try to focus on how you can help him feel better about the relationship again. After trying these tips, if your partner is still ignoring you, you may want to seek assistance from a trained couples counselor.