8 Ways To Increase Your Willpower
Willpower is an important tool for leading a healthy lifestyle and achieving your goals. It’s what allows us to control our behaviors, actions, and interactions with ourselves and others. Like a muscle, it needs to be exercised regularly to be strong and effective when you need it. Let’s take a look at eight different ways you can do this.
What Is Willpower?
The dictionary definition of willpower is “the ability to control one’s own actions, emotions, or urges” or a “strong determination that allows one to do something difficult”. It may also be referred to as self-control. There have been a wide variety of studies on and conclusions drawn about the topic over the years. Today, it’s commonly described as a two-system framework made up of cold and hot tendencies. The hot tendencies are your ego and emotions dictating what you want in the moment. The cold tendencies are the things that you do to counteract those emotions and cool off the desire for whatever it is you’re trying to avoid. Thinking of it in this manner can be helpful when you’re facing temptation in the moment.
8 Tips For Strengthening Your Willpower
As with anything else, practice is key for developing a strong sense of willpower so that you can embrace healthy habits and achieve what you want for your life over both the short- and long-term. Here are eight different ways to improve this skill.
Increase Your Glucose Levels
While willpower is very much mental, there are physical components to it as well. One study suggests that glucose levels may directly affect willpower. It found that when glucose levels were low, subjects had little to no willpower. Those who were given a glucose drink, however, were better able to increase their motivation and resist temptations. Next time you find yourself in a situation where your willpower feels weak, you might try eating a piece of fruit to give yourself a sugar boost. Upon returning to the situation after your snack break, you may find it easier to stick to the rules or goals you’ve set for yourself.
Try Purposeful Self-Distraction
Another tool you can use to avoid getting off track with your goals or intentions in the heat of the moment is purposeful self-distraction. All you have to do is think about or do something that is completely unrelated to the thing that you’re trying to avoid doing. You can shift your focus by changing tasks, doing a quick meditation or visualization exercise, or immersing yourself in a distraction like watching a video or cleaning up your space. Forcing your brain out of its laser focus on the thing you want but are trying to avoid can be effective.
Practice Cognitive Reframing
Cognitive reframing is a key technique used in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). CBT is a style of talk therapy that’s based on the idea that thoughts cause feelings and behaviors—so it follows that adjusting your thoughts can help you adjust your feelings and behaviors. To practice cognitive reframing, you’ll need to learn how to start noticing automatic thoughts that arise in your mind when you’re faced with a temptation. (Beginning a mindfulness practice may help with this.) Then, you can work on reframing these thoughts in a more positive, helpful way.
For example, let’s say you’re training for your first marathon. You can start by noticing whenever you have a negative or unhelpful thought about your progress, such as, “I have such a long way to go until I’m ready for this race. I’ll probably never be able to complete this training program, so maybe I’ll watch TV instead of going to running practice today.” Next, consciously reframe the thought you noticed in a more positive way, such as, “While I may have a long way to go until I’m ready for this race, I’m excited to see my own progress over time, starting with run practice today.”
Display Images Of Your Goals
One study found that displaying images of your goals where you can see them regularly may help you increase your willpower. If your goal isn’t something tangible, you may be able to come up with images that you can associate it with. For instance, let’s say you’re trying to avoid shopping online in order to save up for a vacation. You could print out pictures of your dream destination and place them near your computer so that you see them when you’re tempted to browse your favorite online stores. You may find that they help motivate you to avoid buying anything.
Cultivate A Meditation Practice
Meditating regularly—even for just 10 or 15 minutes per day—can have a host of benefits. Research over the years has linked it to many different positive mental and physical health outcomes. In addition, a 2014 study showed that it may also be a useful tool in increasing your willpower over time as it “ improves activation and connectivity in brain areas”.
Manage Your Stress Levels
Doing what you can to keep your stress levels in check can be crucial for cultivating a stronger sense of willpower. As an article on the Stanford Medicine website, “any time we’re under chronic stress it’s harder to find our willpower.” This is because stress forces the body into the fight-or-flight response. So much brain power is funneled into this response that there’s not as much left over for rational decision making. Eating and sleeping well, exercising, and taking care of your mental health may help you manage your stress levels.
Choose Goals That Resonate With You
What’s your motivation for wanting to avoid or encourage a certain behavior in yourself? Your chances of success will likely be higher if it’s something that’s authentically motivating to you personally. A 2014 study found that participants “whose autonomy was supported while exerting self-control” performed better on a willpower test than those “who had more pressure placed upon them while exerting self-control”. In other words, making a change to your lifestyle or habits for a reason that resonates with you may be easier than making one because it’s what someone else wants.
For example, let’s say you’re trying to cut back on junk food and soda. If you’re doing it because your spouse is going on a diet and doesn’t allow these items in the house anymore, your willpower for sticking to the new diet will likely be lower. On the other hand, if you’re trying to cut back on these items because you want to improve your own health so you can be a good example for your kids, summit a mountain peak next summer, or some other motivation that’s meaningful to you, you’re more likely to stick with it.
Don’t Overdo It
There’s a reason that weightlifters take rest days in between workouts. Our muscles can only perform so much within one period of time, and then they need rest to recover before being expected to perform again. Willpower, as a growing body of evidence suggests, likely works the same way.
Let’s say you’re trying to cut back on sugar, and you successfully avoided the donuts and the birthday cake in the breakroom at work all day. When you get home and see your child’s leftover Halloween candy on the counter, you may have greater difficulty resisting that temptation since your levels of self-control have been depleted throughout the day. As a review of studies by the American Psychological Association (APA) relates, “people whose willpower was depleted by self-control tasks showed decreased activity in the anterior cingulate cortex, a brain region involved with cognition. When your willpower has been tested, your brain may actually function differently”.
Get Help Building Healthy Habits And Reaching Your Goals
There are all kinds of different reasons you may want to increase your level of willpower or self-control, and speaking with a mental health professional can be a great resource in this process. You may want to learn to challenge negative or unhelpful thoughts more regularly, avoid falling into unhealthy patterns in relationships, get your spending under control, or cut back on drinking, for instance. A therapist can help you identify these behaviors, set realistic goals, and offer you a safe, nonjudgmental space to process any emotions or challenges that may come up along the way.
The most effective therapeutic format is usually the one that makes the individual feel the most comfortable. Some people prefer meeting with a mental health professional face to face, in person. Others prefer connecting with a therapist virtually, from the comfort of their own home. If you’re interested in the online format, a virtual therapy platform like BetterHelp can match you with a licensed counselor with whom you can meet via phone, video call, and/or online chat. Research suggests that online therapy offers similar benefits to in-person sessions, so if you choose to pursue support from a professional, either method has the potential to make a positive impact on your life.
You can think of your sense of willpower or self-control like a muscle. Overusing it will result in fatigue and weakness until you have time to rest and replenish, but regular exercise will make it stronger. The tips on this list can help you increase your level of willpower over time.
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