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Dabney Hayes, LMHC, LCMHC

Stress, Anxiety Family conflicts Trauma and abuse Depression Compassion fatigue
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About me

Dabney has a passion for working with people struggling with a variety of issues, including dysfunctional behavior rooted in shame, addiction, self-loathing, low self-esteem, perfectionism, trauma and abuse and grief/loss. I am driven to help individuals heal their wounds, develop a new relationship with their thoughts and transform their lives. I am passionate about helping my clients reach their full potential by living their lives more confidently and authentically. I have over twelve years of experience as a therapist and have provided therapy in individual and group settings. I also have experience helping clients navigate everyday sources of stress such as relationship problems, family conflicts, depression, anxiety, parenting issues, anger management, and school/work issues. I have worked with children, adolescents, young adults and families, and provide compassionate, non-judgmental care. I use an integrative, client-centered orientation that draws from multiple theories and techniques which includes: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy and Trauma-Focused Therapy. I am a welcoming and caring therapist who respects and empathizes with my clients' experiences without any judgement. You don't have to carry your pain and burdens alone. I look forward to working with you!
Years of Experience: 12 years

Professional experience

14yrs in practice

Additional areas of focus: Addictions, LGBT, Relationship issues, Grief, Intimacy-related issues, Eating disorders, Sleeping disorders, Parenting issues, Anger management, Self esteem, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Coping with life changes, Coaching, ADHD, Abandonment, Adoption and Foster Care, Aging and Geriatric Issues, Attachment Issues, Autism and Asperger Syndrome, Avoidant Personality, BDSM, Kink, Alternative Sex Culture, Blended Family Issues, Body Image, Cancer, Caregiver Issues and Stress, Chronic Pain Illness and Disability, Co-morbidity, Codependency, Commitment Issues, Communication Problems, Control Issues, Coping with Natural or Human-Caused Disaster, Dependent Personality, Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD), Dissociation, Divorce and Separation, Domestic Violence, Drug and Alcohol Addiction, Eating and Food-Related Issues, Emptiness, Family of Origin Issues, Family Problems, Fatherhood Issues, Fertility Issues, First Responder Issues, Forgiveness, Guilt and Shame, Hoarding, Hospice and End of Life Counseling, Impulsivity, Infidelity, Intellectual Disability, Isolation/Loneliness, Jealousy, Life Purpose, Men's Issues, Midlife Crisis, Military and Veterans Issues, Money and Financial Issues, Mood Disorders, Multicultural Concerns, Narcissism, Obsessions, Compulsions, and OCD, Panic Disorder and Panic Attacks, Paranoia, Personality Disorders, Phobias, Polyamory / Nonmonogamous Relationships, Postpartum Depression, Post-traumatic Stress, Pregnancy and Childbirth, Prejudice and Discrimination, Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling), Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Self-Harm, Self-Love, Sex Addiction, Sexual Assault and Abuse, Sexual Dysfunction, Sexuality, Social Anxiety and Phobia, Somatization, Women's Issues, Workplace Issues, Young Adult Issues

Clinical approaches: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), Existential Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Narrative Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Somatic Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy

License information


NC LCMHC 14628

WA LPC LH61246990

CO LPC 0016842


These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Dabney Hayes. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with BetterHelp might be different.

I’d be lost and confused without Dabney’s help in identifying unhealthy behaviors and setting boundaries. Her natural ability to actively listen and empathize has helped me find sanity during a very insane time in my life.

Written on Sep 12, 2022 after therapy with Dabney for 1 year and 5 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, sleeping disorders, self esteem, coping with life changes, coaching, and adhd

I came in with a lot of prior knowledge and experience in myself, but her expertise has helped me more than I ever thought. I didn't know where I could go from where I was. I had tried a lot of methods to get me on the right track. She's very kind and thoughtful and patient. I would definitely recommend giving her a try even if you think you know yourself well. You never know what may help : )

Written on Aug 15, 2022 after therapy with Dabney for 3 months on issues concerning depression, and trauma and abuse

Dabney is such a kind and good therapist 10/10

Written on Aug 05, 2022 after therapy with Dabney for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, bipolar disorder, coping with life changes, and adhd

Amazing and professional, I truly appreciate her work with me. Great help!

Written on Aug 02, 2022 after therapy with Dabney for 5 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, career difficulties, coaching, and adhd

Dabney has been very helpful and responsive with my work to manage my anger.

Written on Jul 27, 2022 after therapy with Dabney for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, relationship issues, family conflicts, self esteem, and anger management

Dabney has always been attentive and understanding. She listens, offers excellent advice, and is a great troubleshooter. I would recommend Dabney to anyone!

Written on Jun 06, 2022 after therapy with Dabney for 1 year and 3 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, family conflicts, grief, parenting issues, and self esteem