Darlene Tando, LCSW
About me
Hi there! I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker licensed in both California and Virginia with over 25 years of experience working in clinical practice.
My approach to therapy is warm, genuine, and empathetic. I believe meaningful healing happens through authentic connection, and sometimes through humor, too. Laughter can be a powerful tool in therapy, especially when navigating complex or vulnerable experiences.
I specialize in gender-affirming therapy for youth and adults and have over 20 years of experience working with transgender and gender nonconforming individuals. I support clients and families through all stages of the gender journey, including coming out, navigating relationships, and accessing affirming medical and mental health care. I strive to create a space where you feel seen, respected, and supported as your full self. I have served as a co-facilitator on a symposium for years training professionals and parents on the intricacies of gender affirmation. I have also written a book in support of parents who wish to affirm their child.
In addition to gender-affirming care, I work with individuals facing life transitions, mood disruptions, and family conflict. If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, we can work together to build insight, resilience, and practical coping strategies.
Teletherapy can be incredibly useful as it allows you to access support from the comfort and privacy of your own home. I also provide flexible support between sessions through BetterHelp’s messaging system, which many clients find helpful for ongoing reflection and connection.
Due to scheduling constraints, I am not able to offer weekly sessions at this time. Session frequency is typically every two weeks, every three weeks, or monthly. I look forward to the possibility of working together and supporting you on your journey.
Professional experience
Additional areas of focus: Body image, Caregiver issues and stress, Family of origin issues, Family problems, Forgiveness, Gender dysphoria, Guilt and shame, Mood disorders, Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships, Self-love, Sexuality
License information
CA LCSW 21699
VA LCSW 0904017083