I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Hawaii with 16 years of professional experience in the field. Throughout my career, I have provided therapeutic and consultative services to individuals across a wide age spectrum, including young children (3 through 13 years old), adolescents (14 to 19 years old), and adults (20 years and older). My journey in the helping profession began in 1995, during which I have held both private (non-profit) and public-sector roles.
“The Conversation” in Sessions
I strongly advocate for the significance of "the conversation" in therapy and counseling, aiming to demystify the counseling experience while acknowledging each client's unique perspectives. My objective is to foster a non-judgmental, authentic virtual environment in which clients feel secure sharing their life narratives, including the circumstances that led to our initial engagement. In Hawaiian culture, this approach is often described as "talking story." Clients are regarded as the foremost authorities on their own life experiences, possessing inherent strengths to address their current challenges, whether or not they recognize them. My role, as I perceive it, is to facilitate this process and provide necessary support.
My "Systemic Perspective”
My specific licensure as a Marriage and Family Therapist might suggest a focus on working solely with married couples and families; however, most of my expertise is in providing counseling and therapy to individuals. I approach each case by carefully analyzing the individual's circumstances and the factors that led them to seek help. This is done from a systemic perspective, using a strength-based, solution-focused, and cognitive-behavioral approach. This "systemic" perspective includes the individual's interactions and relationships across different areas of their life, such as work, family, social activities, and personal experiences. It also considers how these relationships may influence their current attitudes, habits, and behaviors. While the systemic perspective might seem broad at first, it serves as a basic framework—an "initial template"—that allows individuals to share their personal experiences during our sessions.
The Approach and Process in Sessions
In my counseling/therapy sessions, I strive to establish a dynamic process characterized by sharing, exploration, and learning. I employ a strength-based, Cognitive-Behavioral, Solution-Focused, and pragmatic approach that emphasizes identifying overarching themes and specific details about the client’s current circumstances that have led them to seek counseling or therapy. This initial phase involves the client narrating their experiences related to their presenting concerns while also expressing their ideal and realistic outcomes.
The primary objective of this process is to formulate pertinent goals and a clear direction for subsequent sessions by pinpointing "exceptions," or instances in the client's life where their presenting concerns either did or did not manifest. Clients are often required to recall particular details surrounding these occurrences, such as the individuals involved, the setting, the time of day, and the relevant time period in their lives—whether past, present, or future. This recollection process may pose challenges and evoke emotional responses.
In instances where a specific memory becomes particularly distressing, the client may choose to take a break, discontinue the discussion entirely, or redirect the conversation to a different subject. It is imperative that the client retains agency and determines when they are prepared to engage with a specific situation.
Assignments and Resources
The BetterHelp platform offers a variety of resources, including worksheets, access to an online journal, and, in certain instances, informational videos. Recognizing that individuals lead busy lives and that their time is valuable, I am careful in my assignment of worksheets, whether they are intended for completion or review. For clients who feel comfortable, I encourage the use of the journal function as a beneficial tool for self-exploration.
Embarking on the journey towards a more fulfilling and joyful life requires courage, commitment, and a readiness to confront the unfamiliar. My colleagues and I, as therapists on this platform, are dedicated to providing support throughout this process.
Professional experience
16 yrs in practice
Career difficulties Coping with life changes Concentration, memory and focus (ADHD)
Additional areas of focus:Stress and anxiety, Relationship issues, Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse, Coping with grief and loss, Parenting issues, Anger management, Motivation, self esteem, and confidence, Compassion fatigue, Communication problems, Multicultural concerns, Workplace issues
These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Joachin Kaaihue. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with BetterHelp might be different.
I felt understood right away, I felt that Joachin is very professional about hearing both sides . He makes it easy for me to talk and when not knowing to talk about he made it possible to have a helpful full session.
Looking forward to another session with Joachin !
Written on Jul 16, 2026 after therapy with Joachin for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and career difficulties
Great listening skills and insight!
Written on Jul 08, 2026 after therapy with Joachin for 10 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, and grief
Always listens and tries to help. He has shown my my main concern and how to work around the matter and issues that have arise in my life.
Written on May 27, 2026 after therapy with Joachin for 3 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, and adhd
Kind insightful man with experience and sensitivity
Written on Jan 17, 2026 after therapy with Joachin for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, and anger management
Great therapist and very helpful in stressful situations.
Written on Dec 09, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, self esteem, anger management, bipolar disorder, and coping with life changes
Very insightful. Gentle
Guidance
Written on Nov 30, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, and coping with life changes
Joachin has successfully helped me on multiple problems I have sought help for. I quit therapy once and went back because of my confidence in his work.
Written on Oct 03, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 1 year and 3 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, and self esteem
Joachin Kaaihue is a very experienced and insightful counselor. Each time I speak with him, he asks thoughtful questions that guide me to reflect more deeply and understand myself better, including why I feel the way I do in certain situations. His approach makes me feel heard and supported, and I always leave our sessions with more clarity. I find talking to him very helpful.
Written on Sep 09, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 1 year and 4 months on issues concerning relationship issues, and intimacy-related issues
I really appreciated Joachin’s personable and relaxed style. We quickly and easily developed a therapeutic relationship, and I felt very supported by him and our sessions. Definitely especially highly recommend to people who live in Hawaii.?
Written on Aug 07, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 2 months on issues concerning relationship issues, trauma and abuse, and adhd
So far I’ve been talking with my therapist for just about 5 months. It’s been helpful to me and I have someone who can hear me out with what’s going on in my life. I think it helps to keep me on track and it gives me a sense of peace. He gives me helpful information when needed. I would recommend for anyone who needs the extra professional support to seek help and possibly connect with Joachin Kaaihue.
Written on Aug 02, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 4 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, anger management, and coping with life changes
He's the best
Written on Jul 31, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 1 month on issues concerning adhd
I feel comfortable opening up and speaking to him with out any judgment, and I trust any advice he gives me.
Written on Jul 25, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, sleeping disorders, and adhd
Joachin not only listens and responds, he’s able to give me an outside professional perspective. I myself value one’s perspective especially in a professional manner he helps me look at my problems from more than one view and calms me and eases me into a way of not only bettering and understanding my situations I bring up with him but also understanding and bettering myself.
Written on Jun 06, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 1 year and 1 month on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, self esteem, and anger management
He is a very good listener. He helps me see both sides of a statement without invalidating my feelings. He is thoughtful when he says something.
Written on Jun 02, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, family conflicts, anger management, career difficulties, and adhd
A kind man, with a very level head, very helpful & offered insight in a wide range of life issues. He’s definitely the right fit for me! Better he’ll did a great job with placement. And an even better job putting him on staff. Aloha.
Written on May 16, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 9 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, anger management, career difficulties, coaching, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Experienced and insightful
Written on May 14, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 7 months on issues concerning depression, relationship issues, family conflicts, parenting issues, and self esteem
Joachin is a very good listener, I feel heard and supported. He shares good insight and helps me to understand what I am going through. After each session I am confident and encouraged to keep working through the issues that I need to overcome.
Written on May 02, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, and self esteem
Awesome comforting genuine down to earth person, always checks in on me and listens to me and helps me with my issues
Written on Apr 17, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 3 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, and anger management
Amazing work and truly understanding of my background history and place based learning. Culturally connected. Mahalo nui.
Written on Apr 11, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 3 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, bipolar disorder, coping with life changes, compa
Excellent listener and very insightful. Would definitely recommend Joachin!
Written on Jan 13, 2025 after therapy with Joachin for 3 months on issues concerning relationship issues
I have excellent session's with Joachin. He’s emotionally intelligent and very engaged. The best therapist I’ve had by far.
Written on Nov 27, 2024 after therapy with Joachin for 7 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, and relationship issues
I have recieved more insight than I set out for. In a short time he has help me navigate my initial issue and then he allowed me to talk through and give me tips on how to deal with the brought up issue at hand.
I am looking forward to exploring the rabbit hole in a light we are both fluid in.
Written on Aug 16, 2024 after therapy with Joachin for 2 weeks on issues concerning parenting issues, coping with life changes, and coaching
Amazing !
Written on Jul 29, 2024 after therapy with Joachin for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, and grief
J. Kaaihue is an extremely talented and professional therapist. I highly recommend.
Written on Jul 20, 2024 after therapy with Joachin for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, sleeping disorders, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, and adhd
Fantastic to talk to about different aspects of difficulties and troubles. Offers good feedback and talks through issues with you. Excellent therapist.
Written on May 31, 2024 after therapy with Joachin for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, and career difficulties
At this time, I have only had one session with Joachim, however so far so good. I found him to very helpful and insightful and I am looking forward to our next session. This is coming from a guy who did not want to go into therapy.
Written on May 17, 2024 after therapy with Joachin for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, and anger management
I sincerely appreciate his focus and opportunity to let the conversation turn into more
Written on Apr 11, 2024 after therapy with Joachin for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, grief, self esteem, career difficulties, coping with life changes, and coaching
Professional and approachable, listens and offers solutions and exercises to implement after each session.
Written on Apr 08, 2024 after therapy with Joachin for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, and self esteem
Joachin is very kind and listens intently. I’m very grateful to have him as a therapist. He seems to really want to help in solving problems by coming up with solutions. Highly recommend!
Written on Mar 02, 2024 after therapy with Joachin for 2 weeks
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