I am a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor. I began my college education, located in a humble community of Laie, Hawaii where I was raised until the age of 21. After leaving my hometown,
I completed my remaining undergraduate degree in psychology through distance learning and later earned my Master’s degree in Mental Health Counseling in 2007 from the University of Phoenix. I currently practice via online telehealth only and have done so since the beginning of the COVID pandemic.
My therapy approach is eclectic, meaning I combine different therapeutic approaches based on the presenting concerns and goals that are adapted to the needs of the person via the use of cognitive-behavioral, person-centered, brief therapy and solution-focused therapy with particular attention to the psychoanalytic processes, which emphasizes how life events and relationship experiences both past and present may be affecting your current relationships, issues and/or circumstances. What I can bring to the counseling environment to help you with this is a style that I believe to be approachable and warm so that my patients are able to 1) actively process and explore, 2) find their way, 3) learn about themselves and 4) grow to be directors of their life.
In short, to help you have the most successful experience in counseling it is important to me that we work together in establishing what your needs are and how I can be of most benefit to you. With that comes responsibility for your mental health and dedication of your time to your mental health needs. To be more specific, I ask that you not just do therapy sessions once a week for 30-45 minutes but that also be proactive and committed with working on your mental health needs outside of therapy as well via homework that is completed in a timely manner as opposed to completing it right before your sessions as I need time to look over said homework and cannot do this effectively when it is sent back the day of.
I am genuinely interested in what brings you to therapy and hope that you would feel comfortable working with me as I look forward to working with you.
Lani
Professional experience
18 yrs in practice
Stress and anxiety Trauma and abuse Anger management Depression
Additional areas of focus:Coping with addictions, Relationship issues, Family conflicts, Coping with grief and loss, Intimacy related issues, Sleeping disorders, Parenting issues, Motivation, self esteem, and confidence, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Coping with life changes, Compassion fatigue, Concentration, memory and focus (ADHD), Abandonment, Antisocial personality, Attachment issues, Avoidant personality, Caregiver issues and stress, Co-morbidity, Codependency, Commitment issues, Communication problems, Control issues, Dependent personality, Dissociation, Emptiness, Family of origin issues, Family problems, Forgiveness, Guilt and shame, Impulsivity, Infidelity, Isolation / loneliness, Jealousy, Life purpose, Midlife crisis, Mood disorders, Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD, Personality disorders, Phobias, Post-traumatic stress, Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling), Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Self-harm, Self-love, Sexual assault and abuse, Social anxiety and phobia, Workplace issues, Young adult issues
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She is wonderful so far , just started better help but she very understanding and open hearted with my concerns. She’s gave me good feedback and worksheets that truly help. She seems very sweet and knowledgeable.
Written on Sep 14, 2026 after therapy with Lani for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, bipolar disorder, and adhd
she is wonderful
Written on Sep 07, 2026 after therapy with Lani for 1 year and 8 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, self esteem, and coping with life changes
She helps me feel seen, heard, and disciplined in a good, healthy way. I love Lani, and she has helped me become a better person.
Written on Aug 04, 2026 after therapy with Lani for 1 year and 7 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, bipolar disorder, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue
Lani listens well, and goes out of her way to be clear. I can tell she values precise communication, and helps me to thoroughly explore why I'm feeling the way I am.
Written on Jun 10, 2026 after therapy with Lani for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, grief, self esteem, coping with life changes, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Lani is a very knowledgable and experienced therapist. She is a good therapist
Written on Apr 24, 2026 after therapy with Lani for 9 months
Lani is amazing at what she does. She listens attentively and without judgment at everything I had to talk about. Thank you for your work Lani!
Written on Feb 22, 2026 after therapy with Lani for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, anger management, and coping with life changes
I have loved working with Lani. She listens to me and gives advice that works. She doesn't talk about herself and what she has been through, and I appreciate that.
Written on Dec 08, 2025 after therapy with Lani for 1 month on issues concerning stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, career difficulties, coping with life changes, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Enjoying it so far I’m gaining a great perspective on a path to recovery.
Written on Nov 18, 2025 after therapy with Lani for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, and parenting issues
Lani has really helped me to be a less stressed, more confident person, and helped me to be able to navigate relationships and show up for others in better ways and without being overwhelmed. She has really helped me change the way I see the world to reframe things in a more balanced way. She has done so much to identify thought patterns and beliefs to challenge and taught me more functional and effective thought patterns. She supported me through these transitions with compassion and empathy and supported me as I navigated some tough interpersonal situations too. I would definitely recommend her as a therapist!
Written on Nov 09, 2025 after therapy with Lani for 1 year and 6 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, self esteem, career difficulties, and adhd
Great opportunity to have a guidance through mental health, which is a maze to try to navigate.
Written on Sep 15, 2025 after therapy with Lani for 3 weeks on issues concerning addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue
She’s very professional and understanding. She is great with communication which helps me a lot.
Written on Jun 03, 2025 after therapy with Lani for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, and adhd
Thank you so much for your help. You are very knowledgeable and kind. After talking with you, I feel much better and more clear in my mind. I really appreciate you and your help.
Written on May 04, 2025 after therapy with Lani for 3 months on issues concerning depression, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, eating disorders, parenting issues, coping with life changes, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Lani has been very professional and very helpful. I glad that I got her as a therapist.
Written on Apr 23, 2025 after therapy with Lani for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, sleeping disorders, and anger management
Humble expertise. Validated me when I was emotional, and also challenged my stinkin’ thinkin’.
Written on Jan 31, 2025 after therapy with Lani for 2 weeks on issues concerning grief, and coping with life changes
Lani does an excellent job of listening + picking up on subtle things that you say to elaborate + focus on what the meaning they have. She provides an educated, experienced + outside the box perspective.
Written on Jul 11, 2024 after therapy with Lani for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, and intimacy-related issues
Lani is great to work with. She listens to my concerns when I have them, but also provides me with other things to work on when there isn’t something specific I need to talk about.
Written on Jul 02, 2024 after therapy with Lani for 1 year and 11 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, lgbt, relationship issues, family conflicts, sleeping disorders, parenting issues, self esteem, career difficulties, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue
In a few sessions, I’ve had with Lani, she has already been able to change my pattern of thinking as we work together on things that are holding me back in life that I didn’t even know about.
Written on Jun 24, 2024 after therapy with Lani for 3 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, self esteem, and adhd
Lani is amazing. She’s helped me gain self confidence. She is so kind and loving 10/10 would recommend to anybody
Written on May 07, 2024 after therapy with Lani for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, and self esteem
I am excited to work with Lani again! I took a small break because of financial and schedule conflicts, but Lani is amazing and welcoming
Written on May 06, 2024 after therapy with Lani for 1 year and 8 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, coping with life changes, adhd, and compassion fatigue
As I have leverage 4 of 8 available session (half). I am appreciative and grateful for the professionalism, patience, and instructions received up to this point. I will be happy to recommend Lani in the future.
Written on Apr 15, 2024 after therapy with Lani for 1 month on issues concerning stress, anxiety, self esteem, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, compassion fatigue, and adhd
I love lani, she listens to ALL of my concerns. She helps guide me in finding solutions myself instead of telling me how to.
Written on Jan 24, 2024 after therapy with Lani for 8 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, and coping with life changes
Lani listens and give suggestions for the best possible outcome.
Written on Aug 14, 2023 after therapy with Lani for 3 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, anger management, and coping with life changes
Lani has been wonderful. She is a great listener, she is extremely knowledgeable, and gives good advice. She follows up with me on goals I've made, and I truly feel like she cares.
Written on Jun 12, 2023 after therapy with Lani for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, parenting issues, self esteem, and anger management
I have been through 20 therapists in 20 years and she is the best! She feels handpicked just for me. She has changed my life
Written on May 30, 2023 after therapy with Lani for 4 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, anger management, and adhd
Lani is an amazing therapist. She is very thoughtful, understanding and empathetic. She helps me think through things to understand myself better and what are the things that I need to improve. take action and develop. She is also a big help to me adjusting in the US as an immigrant. I feel like I have a friend that I am talking in every session we have. She is an amazing therapist!
Written on Feb 06, 2023 after therapy with Lani for 2 months on issues concerning family conflicts, self esteem, and coping with life changes
Lani was great at helping me to see how my thinking was keeping me from the things I wanted. She is very understanding and easy to talk to.
Written on Jan 09, 2023 after therapy with Lani for 10 months on issues concerning relationship issues, and self esteem
Thanks for your time & consideration Lani!
Written on Dec 21, 2022 after therapy with Lani for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, self esteem, coping with life changes, and adhd
She’s the best
Written on Nov 22, 2022 after therapy with Lani for 3 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, family conflicts, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Lani has been an amazing therapist to me who truly cares and truly values me as a person and I’m thankful to have her as a therapist
Written on Nov 09, 2022 after therapy with Lani for 6 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, bipolar disorder, coping with life changes, coaching, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Only two sessions and we’ve already gotten to the core!
It took a lot of courage to make that step but I am so thankful I did!
Written on Aug 19, 2022 after therapy with Lani for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, and self esteem
She’s greatly empathetic, patient, and honest! So thankfuly
Written on Jul 11, 2022 after therapy with Lani for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, career difficulties, and adhd
An amazing therapist that truly listens and gives advice that is manageable to use in everyday life
Written on May 10, 2022 after therapy with Lani for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, self esteem, anger management, coping with life changes, compassion fatigue, and adhd
She is amazing.
Written on Dec 21, 2021 after therapy with Lani for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, self esteem, and coping with life changes
Lani's been the most helpful therapist I've had. We worked through some heavy anxiety and mild depression, but also spent a lot of time really digging into childhood traumas and the impact those have on my thinking and outlook on situations. Plus, understanding those really helped me reframe my thinking. Nothing was about putting blame on anyone else. It was all about realizing where thoughts and feelings may have developed and finding a new way to create self-compassion.
Written on Nov 22, 2021 after therapy with Lani for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety
Lani Ete is wonderful. She's patient, kind, caring and knowledgeable. I highly recommend her expertise!
Written on Oct 25, 2021 after therapy with Lani for 8 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, parenting issues, and self esteem
I first I was nervous about her because her picture looks a little grumpy in her picture but she is a big sweet softy and cares about her patients.
Written on Jun 28, 2021 after therapy with Lani for 1 week on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, lgbt, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, self esteem, and career difficulties
Really awesome and helpful
Written on May 05, 2021 after therapy with Lani for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, coping with life changes, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Lani is a great listener and really validated what I was going through, as well as provided me a few tools to deal with my anxieties in the future.
Written on Apr 07, 2021 after therapy with Lani for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, parenting issues, self esteem, and coaching
I engaged in counseling with Lani for about 2 months during an anxiety crisis. She helped me find the courage to start medications and gave me resources to use on the daily to combat my anxiety. I feel so much more hopeful and optimistic from my time with Lani. I don’t feel like anxiety controls my life anymore. When I have intrusive thoughts creep in, I have better ways to deal with them. This app is such an incredible resource, and Lani Ete is a great counselor.
Written on Mar 09, 2021 after therapy with Lani for 1 month on issues concerning stress, anxiety, family conflicts, self esteem, and compassion fatigue
I have been in counseling with Dr Lani a couple weeks now, she is very empathetic supportive and attentive, she makes it easy to communicate with her what I’m feeling, she listens really well and offers suggestions and ideas to assist in my treatment, I truly believe if I continue working with her I will be able to resolve the issues I’m facing.
Written on Jan 29, 2021 after therapy with Lani for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, anger management, and coping with life changes
I’ve been with Lani for a few months now, and I feel like I’ve made such good progress! She really gets me and I just feel like we have a great relationship. I’m so so glad BetterHelp connected me with her!!
Written on Dec 17, 2020 after therapy with Lani for 4 months on issues concerning depression, family conflicts, and trauma and abuse
I have been so happy to work with Lani. She provides many insights into my situation. She is quite attentive to what I say and provides valuable feedback. I like that she would never tell me what to do, I stead she would challenge me to think about some things I had brought up and helped me find my own solution to the problems I was facing. So grateful to work with her.
Written on Nov 17, 2020 after therapy with Lani for 2 months on issues concerning depression, relationship issues, family conflicts, parenting issues, and coping with life changes
As my first therapist, Lani helped me figure out how to figure out my core problems that I wanted to focus on and how to address them. Lani helped me figure out how to take action on the important things in my life so I can accept change and move forward, which I was really struggling with. Lani was understanding and helpful.
Written on Sep 11, 2020 after therapy with Lani for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, self esteem, and career difficulties
Lani is very good at searching out the root of the issue and discovering how multiple facets are connected. She offers a lot of really good and easily accomplished techniques for better functioning.
Written on Aug 10, 2020 after therapy with Lani for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, lgbt, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, eating disorders, and self esteem
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