Nicole Thomte

(MS, LMFT)

About Me

Welcome! My name is Nicole Thomte, my pronouns are she/her or they/them, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #3853 in Minnesota. My focus in my practice is to serve those individuals, couples, and families who live outside the confines of dominant society's expectations. I offer affirmative therapy for LGBTQIA+/kink/CNM/polyam/etc persons, using a largely solution-focused approach from an intersectional feminist lens. I know that these populations are underserved in current society, and my goal is for you to have the inclusive support you deserve to improve your life the way you want. I am also interested in sex-positive therapy and sex therapy, while still recognizing the validity of asexuality in its own spectrum.

My therapeutic style is non-directive, exploratory, accepting, and acknowledging the humor that often leavens the stress of life. You're the expert in your life, and I'm here to provide support and an outside perspective to help find patterns and connections that may not be visible to you in the midst of your troubles. What you bring to the session is what interests me, rather than relying on labeling and constraints of diagnoses.

Choosing to sit with people in a therapeutic connection as my third career path has been one of the longest and most complex decisions I have made in my life thus far. It has also been one of the most rewarding and transformative experiences I have ever encountered.

I worked at a behavioral health agency once I was approved for my state intern license in 2013. The population we served were most often persons who have the most difficulties: often already on disability or in the interminable waiting period after having applied, with multiple health troubles, and with the least access to needed resources.

Since before even starting my work as a state intern, I had begun attending supervision groups and co-facilitating survivor groups under the auspices of Gender Justice Nevada in November, 2012. Over the nearly six years until my hiatus in July, 2018, I learned from the bravery of survivors of sex/gender based violence, oppression, and discrimination, including sex/gender diverse young persons, the families and loved ones of sex/gender diverse persons, and sex workers, as I provided therapeutic group facilitation in addition to individual, couple, and family therapy, due to my drive to advocate for marginalized communities.

I am a compassionate, driven, tireless advocate for those who are forced into the margins of society, and I look forward to the gift of what you wish to share with me.


Specialties

  • Stress, Anxiety
  • LGBT
  • Relationship issues
  • Intimacy-related issues
  • Self esteem
Also experienced in:
Family conflicts , Trauma and abuse , Grief , Anger management , Career difficulties , Bipolar disorder , Depression , Coping with life changes , Compassion fatigue , ADHD , BDSM, Kink, Alternative Sex Culture , Read more...

Clinical approaches:
Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy

Years of Experience: 9

Services Offered


  • Messaging

  • Live Chat

  • Phone

  • Video

Licensing

LMFT #3853 (Expires: 2021-12-31)


Reviews

Written by J.U. on Apr 07, 2021 after counseling with Nicole for 1 year and 9 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, self esteem, and career difficulties

Nicole offers me various coping skills for issues I deal with on a regular basis. Has always listened to me and offered support.

Written by S.A. on Feb 26, 2021 after counseling with Nicole for 11 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, lgbt, family conflicts, anger management, career difficulties, compassion fatigue, and adhd

Nicole is a fantastic counselor. She's super chill and easy to open up to, keeps things low stress and she's super understanding. She's not what most people think of when they think about therapy, she's fun, relaxed and not super clinical as to make you feel under a microscope. I've been seeing her for about 2 years now and I've made a lot of progress in my mental health thanks to her. Highly recommend her.

Written by S.Y. on Aug 14, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 4 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety

Nicole has been key for me since I started my sessions with Better Help. She is extremely professional and empathic to my thoughts or experiences. I couldn’t have asked for a better counselor!

Written by P.H. on Jun 25, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, and compassion fatigue

Nicole is amazing to work with. She can hold space for queer and trans folks, which can be so hard to find. Also, she has done a lot of anti-racism work, so I recommend her for other white folks looking to unpack implicit bias and racist social conditioning.

Written by A.L. on Jun 03, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 8 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, career difficulties, and coaching

Nicole is a great listener. She’s nonjudgmental, and she is always willing to be there. Not only is she very good at getting to the root of the issues, she also offers great expertise, as well as is very open and honest if you need to look at the issue from a different perspective. Which is refreshing as well.

Written by S.H. on May 31, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 6 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, self esteem, and career difficulties

Nicole was great with holding space for me when I needed to process some really complicated emotions. I feel like she truly supports me and cares about my well being and gives so much great input.

Written by D.E. on May 24, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, and coping with life changes

I don’t know where I would be without Nicole. She has become such a wonderful support system and has helped me become the best version of myself. My appreciation for her is significant and if you are looking for help to gain footing in the world with yourself, re-establish reality, develop healthy coping strategies, and interact with someone who can bring humor into your life - I hope you get matched with her!

Written by R.O. on Mar 25, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 9 months

She is a wonderful lady. Keen insight into what I am sharing. She has a great calming effect

Written by P.A. on Mar 16, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, self esteem, and adhd

I’ve only chatted with Nicole a couple of times so far, but she has been really helpful and supportive, and offered some good ideas and insights. She is also proactive in communicating and flexible in scheduling and how we communicate.

Written by C.H. on Feb 25, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 6 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, lgbt, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, career difficulties, coping with life changes, and adhd

I have had Nicole as my counselor for about six months now. She has helped me find the tools to better my day to day life in so many little ways that make such a huge difference. I feel validated and really supported in a way I really haven't before. She's personable and easy to talk to and I have sessions where I spend a good chunk of it laughing and coming away from them feeling more secure in the steps I need to take to better myself.

Written by S.A. on Feb 21, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, coaching, and compassion fatigue

Nicole has been the best! Supportive, listens, and respects my concerns while giving me excellent advice. I would definitely recommend her.

Written by R.E. on Jan 25, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, family conflicts, eating disorders, self esteem, anger management, coaching, and compassion fatigue

Nicole really gets it...so grateful for her assistance in navigating my anxiety!

Written by A.N. on Jan 07, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, anger management, coping with life changes, coaching, and compassion fatigue

I haven't been speaking to Nicole for a long time, but the conversations we have had so far are very helpful, productive, and reassuring. I feel we are going to make great progress on my mental health concerns and feel confident moving forward with her is a positive life choice.

Written by V.A. on Nov 11, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, self esteem, and coping with life changes

Nicole has been helping me through one of the hardest years of my life. She is kind, empathetic, and understanding. I would recommend her 100%.

Written by M.I. on Oct 28, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, intimacy-related issues, and self esteem

She’s so cool!

Written by C.H. on Oct 16, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 1 month on issues concerning relationship issues, and intimacy-related issues

Both open minded and respectful...a great therapist!

Written by C.A. on Aug 15, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and coping with life changes

Nicole has been extremely understanding and compassionate. She has offered me a variety of resources throughout our sessions to help me tackle my issues and goals. I feel very comfortable messaging her and she always responds in a timely manner!

Written by A.N. on Aug 08, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 months on issues concerning lgbt

Nicole keeps it real, cares, and sees the heart of the matter quickly and is dedicated to helping. I’m massively grateful for my time with her!

Written by C.H. on Jul 26, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, and self esteem

I have tried so many other (in person) therapists and have not made much progress. Within the first week, Nichole was giving me resources and getting into the stuff that I’ve been trying to get other therapists to treat as a primary concern FOR YEARS. I cannot begin to express how much difference Nicole and BetterHelp have made.

Written by K.A. on Jul 14, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, grief, sleeping disorders, self esteem, and coping with life changes

Nicole is professional, knowledgeable, and empathetic. She has really helped me in such a short span of time. I was really in a bad state of mind and she talked me through things. She encouraged me to not feel down on my mental illness dx, and with her I feel hopeful for the future. Do what you must do to keep her/promote her. She has truly helped me.

Written by M.E. on Jul 07, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, and self esteem

I am more than happy with the care I’ve received from Nicole thus far. I feel heard and supported by her and our communications and sessions have been very helpful for me.

Written by L.I. on Jul 04, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, self esteem, career difficulties, coaching, and compassion fatigue

Nicole is a wonderful counselor! She is relatable, caring, and insightful. She encourages me to grow, cry, and laugh. I absolutely adore working with her!

Written by E.R. on Jun 29, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 1 month on issues concerning relationship issues, and trauma and abuse

She has absolutely amazing! I have never felt more understood by a therapist. I adore Nicole and look forward to her insights.

Written by Z.. on Jun 24, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and bipolar disorder

One of the nicest and most caring people I've spoken with. She listens really well, and always speaks the truth. I respect her expertise and advice a lot. Thank you, Nicole!

Written by C.A. on Apr 17, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 4 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, eating disorders, self esteem, and adhd

Nicole is thoughtful and knowledgeable. She genuinely cares about the wellbeing of her patients.