Nicole Thomte

(MS, LMFT)

About Me

Welcome! My name is Nicole Thomte, my pronouns are she/her or they/them, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #3853 in Minnesota. My focus in my practice is to serve those individuals, couples, and families who live outside the confines of dominant society's expectations. I offer affirmative therapy for LGBTQIA+/kink/CNM/polyam/etc persons, using a largely solution-focused approach from an intersectional feminist lens. I know that these populations are underserved in current society, and my goal is for you to have the inclusive support you deserve to improve your life the way you want. I am also interested in sex-positive therapy and sex therapy, while still recognizing the validity of asexuality in its own spectrum.

My therapeutic style is non-directive, exploratory, accepting, and acknowledging the humor that often leavens the stress of life. You're the expert in your life, and I'm here to provide support and an outside perspective to help find patterns and connections that may not be visible to you in the midst of your troubles. What you bring to the session is what interests me, rather than relying on labeling and constraints of diagnoses.

Choosing to sit with people in a therapeutic connection as my third career path has been one of the longest and most complex decisions I have made in my life thus far. It has also been one of the most rewarding and transformative experiences I have ever encountered.

I have worked at a behavioral health agency since I was approved for my state intern license in 2013. The population we serve are most often persons who have the most difficulties: often already on disability or in the interminable waiting period after having applied, with multiple health troubles, and with the least access to needed resources.

Since before even starting my work as a state intern, I had begun attending supervision groups and co-facilitating survivor groups under the auspices of Gender Justice Nevada in November, 2012. Over the past nearly six years, I have learned from the bravery of survivors of sex/gender based violence, oppression, and discrimination, including sex/gender diverse young persons, the families and loved ones of sex/gender diverse persons, and sex workers, as I provided therapeutic group facilitation in addition to individual, couple, and family therapy, due to my drive to advocate for marginalized communities.

I am a compassionate, driven, tireless advocate for those who are forced into the margins of society, and I look forward to the gift of what you wish to share with me.


Specialties

  • LGBT
  • Relationship issues
  • Intimacy-related issues
  • Self esteem

I also have experience in Stress, Anxiety, Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse, Grief, Anger management, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Depression

Years of Experience: 8

Services Offered


  • Messaging

  • Live Chat

  • Phone

  • Video

Licensing

LMFT #3853 (Expires: 2020-12-31)


Reviews

Written by D.E. on Jan 13, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, and coping with life changes

Nicole has one of the most compassionate and understanding people I have ever encountered. Her ability to be down to earth and realize that being human isn’t always the easiest task has made her incredibly relatable to me during a very dark time. She presents information in a variety of ways and I have been able to make significant strides from where I was when we first started connecting on BetterHelp. Nicole truly is one of my favorite people.

Written by A.N. on Jan 07, 2020 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, anger management, coping with life changes, coaching, and compassion fatigue

I haven't been speaking to Nicole for a long time, but the conversations we have had so far are very helpful, productive, and reassuring. I feel we are going to make great progress on my mental health concerns and feel confident moving forward with her is a positive life choice.

Written by V.A. on Nov 11, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, self esteem, and coping with life changes

Nicole has been helping me through one of the hardest years of my life. She is kind, empathetic, and understanding. I would recommend her 100%.

Written by M.I. on Oct 28, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, intimacy-related issues, and self esteem

She’s so cool!

Written by R.O. on Oct 22, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 4 months

She listens well repeats back my own feeling and concern. Gives possible solutions & challenges me.

Written by C.H. on Oct 16, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 1 month on issues concerning relationship issues, and intimacy-related issues

Both open minded and respectful...a great therapist!

Written by A.L. on Sep 28, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, career difficulties, and coaching

Nicole is a person who truly believes in the goals clients want to achieve. She us a great listener and has a great passion for helping clients. Her support and timely manner make her a fit for anyone who really needs someone to go the extra mile with them.

Written by C.A. on Aug 15, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and coping with life changes

Nicole has been extremely understanding and compassionate. She has offered me a variety of resources throughout our sessions to help me tackle my issues and goals. I feel very comfortable messaging her and she always responds in a timely manner!

Written by A.N. on Aug 08, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 months on issues concerning lgbt

Nicole keeps it real, cares, and sees the heart of the matter quickly and is dedicated to helping. I’m massively grateful for my time with her!

Written by C.H. on Jul 26, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, and self esteem

I have tried so many other (in person) therapists and have not made much progress. Within the first week, Nichole was giving me resources and getting into the stuff that I’ve been trying to get other therapists to treat as a primary concern FOR YEARS. I cannot begin to express how much difference Nicole and BetterHelp have made.

Written by K.A. on Jul 14, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, grief, sleeping disorders, self esteem, and coping with life changes

Nicole is professional, knowledgeable, and empathetic. She has really helped me in such a short span of time. I was really in a bad state of mind and she talked me through things. She encouraged me to not feel down on my mental illness dx, and with her I feel hopeful for the future. Do what you must do to keep her/promote her. She has truly helped me.

Written by M.E. on Jul 07, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, and self esteem

I am more than happy with the care I’ve received from Nicole thus far. I feel heard and supported by her and our communications and sessions have been very helpful for me.

Written by L.I. on Jul 04, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, self esteem, career difficulties, coaching, and compassion fatigue

Nicole is a wonderful counselor! She is relatable, caring, and insightful. She encourages me to grow, cry, and laugh. I absolutely adore working with her!

Written by E.R. on Jun 29, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 1 month on issues concerning relationship issues, and trauma and abuse

She has absolutely amazing! I have never felt more understood by a therapist. I adore Nicole and look forward to her insights.

Written by Z.. on Jun 24, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and bipolar disorder

One of the nicest and most caring people I've spoken with. She listens really well, and always speaks the truth. I respect her expertise and advice a lot. Thank you, Nicole!

Written by C.A. on Apr 17, 2019 after counseling with Nicole for 4 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, eating disorders, self esteem, and adhd

Nicole is thoughtful and knowledgeable. She genuinely cares about the wellbeing of her patients.