Welcome to my therapist's webpage. As we all know, life can be pretty hard and it takes courage to reach out for support. I really do believe that you have within you the resourcefulness you need in order to live a life with depth, meaning and self-compassion. I feel that my role is to help you recognize this and empower you to find a way of tapping into your own wisdom. I currently specialize in men's mental health, mental fitness and emotional resilience. Although 95% of my clients are men I also offer my services to women.
I have been practicing counselling and coaching for the last 25 years and am a qualified MBSR Mindfulness teacher having trained with the University of California San Diego School of Medicine, USA. I have worked both in a government NHS psychiatric hospital and have served as the director of the Dorset Mindfulness Centre. I also have a good understanding of medication used for common mental health difficulties and feel able to guide my clients in navigating this area of their lives. Besides this I am the author of Managing Depression with Mindfulness for Dummies and am currently writing another book on men’s mental health.
I feel fortunate that I have had the opportunity to spend five years living at a Zen Buddhist monastery in South Africa where I studied mindfulness based psychology and human behaviour.
My interest in counselling and the “inner work” has been inspired by my own healing journey through PTSD and it is this very journey that has inspired my passion in empowering others towards a more compassionate life. As a trauma survivor I feel blessed that I can now draw on this lived experience for inspiration and empathize wisely with my clients and their struggles.
My style is pretty casual, yet structured, relaxed and solution focused. I work in a trauma informed and compassionate based way and like to think that I offer my clients a safe and nourishing space in which to express themselves just as they are.
At this moment in time I only offer video based therapy.
My counselling work includes the following:
# Emotional Resilience Coaching – A fantastic approach for people who wish to develop a greater awareness of their feelings as well as learn practical emotional regulation skills.
# Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) – Excellent for clients who wish to engage in cognitive attention training who might be struggling with light to moderate anxiety and low mood.
# HSP - Highly Sensitive Person Coaching - This form of coaching is incredibly helpful for individuals who struggle with being overwhelmed by other people's emotions, moods and or energies and feel burdened by the world around them, struggling to maintain their own emotional balance.
# Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) – A wonderful modality for people who struggle with chronic stress as well as illness and for those who simply wish to learn mindfulness meditation.
# FLASH Therapy – This is based on EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and is an incredibly powerful intervention used to treat symptoms of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) as well as for the processing and releasing of difficult emotions.
# Coaching for bisexuals: This form of coaching will support you in finding happiness as a person of bisexual orientation. This modality is for you whether you feel confused about your sexual identity or whether you wish to develop and or refine your own sense of integration of your bisexuality into your life and or relationships.
# Mindful Self-compassion Training – This evidence based modality can be helpful for those of us who struggle with a strong inner critic as well as feelings of shame and wish to learn how to be kinder to themselves.
# De-prescribing Coaching (coming off mental health medication) – This a useful modality for clients who would like to gradually come off their anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medication as part of their deeper healing journey. The coaching protocol is done with the support of the medical prescriber. (Please never stop your medication without consulting your medical practitioner).
# Transpersonal coaching – An incredibly empowering non-religious modality that is suitable for people who wish to explore their existential landscape and inner depth as well as transcendental aspects of our human experience. This can include integrating deep meditational experiences, shifts in consciousness as well as experiences relevant to psychedelic use.
I am based in the UK and live near the sea with my wife and our five-year-old daughter. Whenever time allows I enjoy drinking a milky coffee sitting in a coffee shop and watch the world go by. I’m also learning to play the piano and of course enjoy soaking up the sun at our beautiful local beaches.
I offer therapy in English as well as Polish.
I am an accredited member of the following professional organisations:
The National Counselling & Psychotherapy Society (NCPS)
British Association of Mindfulness Based Approaches (BAMBA)
NHS Psychological Professions Network (PPN)
DBS certified
Please note that at this moment in time I only offer therapy via video and or and do not at present offer instant messaging therapy.
Additional areas of focus: LGBT, Family conflicts, Trauma and abuse, Grief, Intimacy-related issues, Eating disorders, Anger management, Self esteem, Career difficulties, Coping with life changes, Coaching, ADHD, Abandonment, Attachment issues, Autism and Asperger Syndrome, Body image, Cancer, Caregiver issues and stress, Chronic pain, illness, and disability, Codependency, Commitment issues, Communication problems, Control issues, Dissociation, Divorce and separation, Drug and alcohol addiction, Eating and food-related issues, Emptiness, Family problems, Fatherhood issues, First responder issues, Forgiveness, Guilt and shame, Hospice and end-of-life counseling, Immigration issues, Impulsivity, Isolation / loneliness, Jealousy, Life purpose, Men's issues, Midlife crisis, Veteran and Armed Forces Issues, Money and financial issues, Mood disorders, Multicultural concerns, Narcissism, Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD, Panic disorder and panic attacks, Phobias, Postpartum depression, Post-traumatic stress, Pregnancy and childbirth, Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling), Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Self-harm, Self-love, Sex addiction, Sexuality, Smoking / vaping cessation, Social anxiety and phobia, Somatization, Traumatic brain injury, Workplace issues, Young adult issues
Clinical approaches: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Existential Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Gottman Method, Hypnotherapy, Mindfulness Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy, Somatic Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems
NCPS Therapist - Accredited Member (MNCPS Accred) #RG00P02
These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Robert Gebka. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with BetterHelp might be different.
Robert has helped me tremendously by using several techniques to address various challenges I've had. He is immensely experienced.
Written on Apr 22, 2026 after therapy with Robert for 1 year and 8 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, career difficulties, and coaching
Rob is helping me a lot in incrumentaly building up my skillsets to deal with all the chalanges in my life
Written on Mar 17, 2025 after therapy with Robert for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, and coping with life changes
Super therapist, he’s helped me a lot
Written on Mar 04, 2025 after therapy with Robert for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, and career difficulties
Robert has been great. He is very thoughtful therapist who uses his knowledge of Buddhism and practical therapy to create the best approach. He's a good listener and offers very practical advice. I give him much credit for the amount of progress I've had tackling the challenges in my life.
Written on Dec 29, 2024 after therapy with Robert for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, and intimacy-related issues
Robert has been the best therapist I’ve ever used. Better Help matched me perfectly with the correct therapist for my specific requirements at this time. Robert has given me lifelong tools that I will be able to use in certain situations for the rest of my life. He always asks the right questions and has the perfect balance between giving you the knowledge and allowing you the time and space to consider the information. As a person I am in a much better place than I was when I started with him and I believe I now have the ability to improve my own life and my relationships moving forward. Thank you, Robert
Written on Dec 24, 2024 after therapy with Robert for 2 months on issues concerning relationship issues, trauma and abuse, and intimacy-related issues
Great therapist
Written on Dec 09, 2024 after therapy with Robert for 2 weeks on issues concerning family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, eating disorders, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue