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I am licensed in Virginia with 30 years of professional work experience. I have experience in helping clients with stress and anxiety, coping with addictions, relationship issues, & family conflicts. I believe in treating everyone with respect, sensitivity, and compassion. I will tailor our dialog and treatment plan to meet your unique and specific needs. It takes courage to seek out a more fulfilling and happier life and to take the first steps towards a change. I am here to support & empower you in that journey. I have 20 years working with adult's, adolescents with adhd and other mental heath disorders. My experience includes clinical supervision in mental health , substance abuse,therapeutic day treatment and in intensive in-home therapy.
Professional experience
37yrs in practice
Stress, AnxietyAddictionsLGBTQ+DepressionADHD
Additional areas of focus:Relationship issues, Family conflicts, Grief, Intimacy-related issues, Parenting issues, Anger management, Self esteem, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Coping with life changes, Coaching, Aging and Geriatric Issues, Autism and Asperger Syndrome, Blended Family Issues, Body image, Codependency, Commitment Issues, Control issues, Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD), Divorce and separation, Domestic Violence, Drug and Alcohol Addiction, Family of Origin Issues, Family Problems, Fatherhood Issues, Forgiveness, Guilt and shame, HIV / AIDS, Hoarding, Impulsivity, Infidelity, Isolation / loneliness, Jealousy, Men's issues, Midlife crisis, Mood disorders , Multicultural Concerns, Obsessions, Compulsions, and OCD, Polyamory / Nonmonogamous Relationships, Post-traumatic stress, Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling), Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Self-love, Sex Addiction, Sexuality, Smoking/Vaping Cessation, Social anxiety and phobia, Workplace issues, Young Adult Issues
These quotes represent just a few of the many positive reviews that we have received for Rufus Alkebu-Lan. We don't pay anyone to provide their review and they are all made voluntarily. Some people's experience receiving therapy with BetterHelp might be different.
A very positive experience.
Written on Jul 17, 2024 after therapy with Rufus for 9 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and coping with life changes
He’s there when you need him.
Written on Jul 09, 2024 after therapy with Rufus for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, bipolar disorder, coping with life changes, and adhd
Rufus, is the best therapist I've ever had to the point I would love to suggest him to family and friends
Written on Jun 12, 2024 after therapy with Rufus for 1 year and 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, lgbt, relationship issues, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, anger management, coaching, and adhd
I’ve had therapy for most of my life, and not one of them was as successful as this one with Rufus. He basically changed my life and I’m now able to enjoy it.
Written on Jun 05, 2024 after therapy with Rufus for 1 year and 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, eating disorders, parenting issues, and anger management
He has a kind and relaxed energy. He is never late for appointments. He listens intently and I feel seen.
Written on May 19, 2024 after therapy with Rufus for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, lgbt, and self esteem
10/10
Written on Apr 05, 2024 after therapy with Rufus for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, eating disorders, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, compassion fatigue,
Great guy , Looking forward to getting to know each other more
Written on Mar 02, 2024 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, bipolar disorder, coping with life changes, coachi
Rufus insights are a game changer. A caring therapist!!!!!
Written on Feb 18, 2024 after therapy with Rufus for 4 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, and self esteem
He is extremely helpful and intuitive. Rufus provideds tasks and assessments that truly force you to take a stern look at yourself and the tools to help cut through your issues.
Written on Feb 02, 2024 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, compassion fatigue, and
He’s really helped me and my partner navigate through some things. We are in a relationship where we have experienced things that we have never had to face before and had no idea what to do or how to look at it. Rufus has helped us with some tools to figure things out.
Written on Dec 15, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 months on issues concerning relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, and coping with life changes
Rufus has been extraordinary and a lifeline for me through my struggles. He has provided incredible support and sage advice throughout my time meeting with him. He is an excellent listener and superb therapist. I’m so grateful that I finally found the right therapist for me!
Written on Dec 13, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 8 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, lgbt, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, career difficulties, and coaching
Rufus is very approachable, caring, and understanding therapist, I'm happy with how he has been in my two therapy sessions.
Written on Sep 08, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, lgbt, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, compassion fatigue, and ad
Great listener
Written on Aug 18, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, intimacy-related issues, and self esteem
10 out of 10 would recommend! Rufus is kind-hearted, gentle, and straightforward. He understands the benefit of working through tools in layers on ones own in between session and chooses just the right "homework" to benefit my process in nurturing stronger mental health. As a white, perimenopausal female, I had my concerns that we would not be a good fit. I'm thankful I was open to the process and the professionalism of Betterhelp's methodology.
Written on Jun 19, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, relationship issues, grief, self esteem, career difficulties, and coping with life changes
Rufus is intuitive, kind while to the the point and shares his positive energy and outlook
Written on Jun 01, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 6 months on issues concerning adhd
He’s an excellent therapist. He listens, and is always ready with advice. He also takes interest in your non-clinical life, and will offer solutions to problems that aren’t necessarily related to your mental health. Unlike with other therapists, talking to Rufus doesn’t feel like you’re in the hot seat. I can’t recommend him enough, he is the only example of therapy actually helping me, personally. 10/10 would recommend.
Written on May 22, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, lgbt, trauma and abuse, grief, sleeping disorders, and self esteem
Rufus listens and gives feedback in each area you need help in. One of my favorite therapist by far!
Written on Apr 14, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, self esteem, and adhd
Wonderful person and a great listener. Rufus explained and helped further understand where are the areas in which I may need help in. He gave tips and exercises to work on so that I may be successful and improve upon myself more.
Written on Apr 11, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and adhd
I think Rufus focus more on listening to you and helping you through worksheets, if you want comfort he will give it to you, if you want answers he will give them to you, honestly, he is a really easy person to talk to and let your thoughts go out. It’s all about defining what you want and he will go along with you.
Written on Apr 10, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, parenting issues, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, coping with life changes, and adhd
Very helpful
Written on Apr 05, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 weeks on issues concerning addictions, relationship issues, and trauma and abuse
Rufus is a great listener and very good at empathy. His experience and quality definitely shows in his demeanor. 10/10
Written on Mar 31, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, lgbt, coping with life changes, and adhd
Rufus gives me confidence and safe company to be candid about my feelings and thoughts. I get epiphanies every time we talk and it feels like he's very progress oriented, not a guy who'll let anyone admire the problem till it goes away. His advice sounds drawn from a lot of personal and professional experience, but tailored and relevant to you without being dry or dispassionate. He's a hundred percent on my team.
Written on Mar 08, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 months on issues concerning relationship issues, grief, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue
Rufus is a great therapist and genuinely great to talk to as well! Textbook therapy based on effective methods, he had me asking questions I had never thought of before.
Written on Mar 01, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 6 months on issues concerning depression, relationship issues, and intimacy-related issues
Rufus does an outstanding job of listening to the issues that I need help working through. He simplifies the important points of my problems and gives me suggestions and recommendations on how to manage and lessen the effects of them.
Written on Feb 22, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 5 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, anger management, and coping with life changes
Rufus is a solid therapist who's quick at getting to the root cause and working out solutions. He's quick to understand what your goals are.
Written on Feb 15, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 months on issues concerning depression, addictions, relationship issues, career difficulties, and coaching
Great guy with straight forward advice! Great listener and highly recommended.
Written on Feb 15, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 weeks on issues concerning lgbt, and relationship issues
Rufus listens intently to my concerns and responds with the best plan of action.
Written on Feb 15, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, lgbt, sleeping disorders, self esteem, and coping with life changes
Allows opportunity to speak and work through thoughts and gives proper assignments to assist in getting clarity on my concerns. Thank you Rufus!
Written on Feb 05, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, lgbt, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, parenting issues, and self esteem
Rufus is a wonderful therapist, especially to first time therapy users. He is very kind and understanding and willing to work with you wherever in life you may be. I greatly appreciate the time that I spent being his client and it has helped me change view and understanding of therapy and it's importance.
Written on Jan 26, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, lgbt, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, eating disorders, self esteem, and coping with life changes
Rufus is a great listener. My favorite thing about our sessions is that we don't hide who we are and we speak to each other crystal clear on hard topics. I really enjoy my sessions because I do feel listened and seen.
Written on Jan 06, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 1 month on issues concerning relationship issues, self esteem, coping with life changes, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Rufus is a Great listener with succinct and on target input. His guidance has helped me weather a lot of storms
that hit all at once. When I need his advice again—and I am sure I will—I will be back. For now, thanks to Rufus’ help, I’m moving in the right direction.
Written on Jan 03, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 3 months on issues concerning relationship issues, grief, parenting issues, and coping with life changes
I had great sessions with Rufus— he listens well and is very perceptive.
Written on Jan 02, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, eating disorders, self esteem, career difficulties, and adhd
Rufus helped me greatly with some work-related productivity and motivation issues. He was attentive and supportive, but also wasn't afraid to challenge me on my bad habits and incorrect assumptions. His sense of humor and ability to avoid jargon in favor of clear terminology helped me connect with the advice he gave.
Written on Jan 02, 2023 after therapy with Rufus for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, self esteem, and coaching
He’s been awesome he is so fun to talk to
Written on Dec 19, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, and self esteem
Rufus was a very straight shooter right from the start. He asked me questions that were simple and to the point and got to the root of the issues I needed to address. He challenged me by sending ample worksheets and very helpful thought activities which addressed my confidence, communication skills, and emotional maturity. I appreciated his direct approach and his ability to help me set achievable goals.
Written on Dec 17, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, self esteem, and compassion fatigue
Good Work
Written on Dec 12, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 3 months on issues concerning family conflicts
Rufus is a very relatable therapist who displays incredible empathy and understanding. Conversations are easy and there is no feeling of judgment whatsoever.
Written on Dec 03, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, and adhd
I feel safe and comfortable with Mr. Rufus!!
Written on Nov 29, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, and anger management
Mr. Alkebu-Lan was very kind and empathetic during my first session. He was very invested in my wellbeing and did his best to make me laugh and to listen to what I had to say. I will be working with him more going forwards.
Written on Nov 28, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, and adhd
Rufus is very kind and helpful while pushing me to think in the right direction instead of spiraling. He's relatable and professional and I can't recommend him enough.
Written on Nov 21, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, lgbt, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, anger management, coping with life changes, and adhd
I had an excellent experience with Rufus as my therapist. When I first started therapy I was a hot emotional mess and having loads of anxiety/insecurities/uncertainty related to a relationship I am in. Rufus was amazingly helpful and supportive. I appreciated his empathetic directness and room for me to figure things out at my own pace.
I’m taking a break from BH - and when I return, I’ll ask for Rufus to be my therapist.
Written on Nov 21, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 2 months on issues concerning relationship issues
He’s very personable and easy to talk to. He feels like an old friend.
Written on Nov 16, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, parenting issues, and adhd
He is attentive and insightful. I look forward to seeing what our work together will produce.
Written on Oct 22, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, parenting issues, self esteem, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, and adhd
Wonderful listener who provides smart, actionable counseling. Best therapist I’ve had.
Written on Sep 27, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 1 month on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, and anger management
Space filler
Written on Sep 17, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning addictions, relationship issues, grief, and intimacy-related issues
So far my encounters with Rufus has been helpful. He seems to listen and understands my concerns and provides constructive feedback.
Written on Aug 22, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, grief, and coping with life changes
Rufus has been amazing in helping me deal with the sudden loss of my fiance. He has helped me realize that I need to take time for myself and grieve as needed.
Written on Aug 04, 2022 after therapy with Rufus for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, and coping with life changes
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