Shallymar Bender


About Me

Hello and welcome to BetterHelp!

My name is Shallymar Bender and I have been working as a therapist for 5 years. I earned my Masters in Social Work in California in 2013 and have practiced in California since. I have experience in working with children ages 0-21 in individual and group settings, as well as working with parents to provide parenting skills and techniques to help achieve the child's goals. I have worked with children independently in school settings, office settings, as well as in their homes. My focus was helping to stabilize crisis situations (i.e. depression, anxiety, bipolar, etc.) as well as helping to maintain progress that had been made. In providing services, I have also acted as a parent partner in team treatments, and with this I helped parents learn and apply skills and techniques to promote positive behaviors and improve relationship with child and parents. The majority of work that I have done has been with 16 year olds and older which as been working on depression, anxiety, providing support in meeting personal goals, as well as providing education about future goals individuals may have (i.e. college, work force, etc.). I use skills from Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) as well as other areas to help individuals work toward feeling better. I feel that being open minded and non-judgmental is important when someone shares their personal story with me, as well as the client's comfort in working with a therapist. I do want to ensure that you are comfortable in the therapy relationship with me as it is important for you to get the best fit as possible. My focus is strength based, meaning I see strength in all my clients and will use this to empower clients to improve and work through life's struggles.

I look forward to working with you and help you to meet your goals. Feel free to message me and we can connect and discuss best therapy methods for you.

Thank you,


  • Stress, Anxiety
  • Family conflicts
  • Self esteem
  • Bipolar disorder
  • Depression
Also experienced in:
LGBT , Relationship issues , Trauma and abuse , Grief , Intimacy-related issues , Eating disorders , Parenting issues , Coping with life changes , Compassion fatigue , ADHD
Years of Experience: 5

Services Offered

  • Messaging

  • Live Chat

  • Phone


LCSW #LCSW89353 (Expires: 2021-06-30)


Written by E.M. on Jul 27, 2020 after counseling with Shallymar for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, and compassion fatigue

Really appreciate speaking with Shallymar, she's very open & honest. She listens to you, then asks the questions, or gives you the feedback you need. Very supportive, friendly, and emits a warmth/care through her messages and over the phone.

Written by M.A. on Feb 11, 2020 after counseling with Shallymar for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, eating disorders, self esteem, and adhd

Shallymar is such an amazing counselor! I came into sessions not sure and uneasy because this was all new to me but Shallymar definitely made me feel at ease and talked through all my concerns with me! She is an amazing counselor and glad I was paired with her for my sessions!