In my experience, people seek counseling for many different reasons. Although life can be challenging and sometimes difficult, I believe that with support and effective strategies, we can all find a way to thrive in any situation at any stage of life. There are times when we need help processing losses and painful situations as well and I believe therapy can help anyone find relief from pain in these distressing situations.
Through non-judgmental and supportive listening it may be possible to help you identify the causes of your distress as well as to explore strengths you can use to improve your overall sense of well-being when life’s difficulties confuse and overwhelm you. The use of long term and short term goals can also be very helpful for anyone in determining treatment strategies and the direction of therapy. I have found Dialectical Behavioral Therapy to be very effective in strengthening self-esteem and confidence, as well as increasing independence, and in improving decision making, relationship health, emotion regulation, and a more positive mood. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be very effective in helping you to identify and replace damaging, distressing and ineffective thinking patterns with those that can help you achieve your goals in life and improve your emotional health.
My name is Toni Kooy and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Colorado. I have been working in the substance abuse and mental health field since 2004. I have a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and a Master’s Degree in Counseling, both, from the University of Colorado.
I have worked with clients primarily, in the rural and urban community mental health center setting and have worked with a variety of clients from the age of 4 years old to the age of 80 years old . I have extensive training and experience with clients who struggle with problems related to mood and emotions as well as trauma and grief. I have received extensive training in trauma, which included EMDR. Thus, I have worked with many clients who were experiencing the symptoms of trauma in my past employment. In the past, I have worked as a musician, a construction worker, a nanny, a home-maker, and an assembly worker as well as my current 21-year career as a therapist, so I bring a varied and non-judgmental life perspective to the therapeutic process as well as a flexible schedule.
You have already gained insight into your situation and have utilized strength to seek help. If you would like to continue in your journey toward a life in which you can thrive, I would be honored to join you in your walk.
Additional areas of focus:Addictions, LGBT, Relationship issues, Grief, Intimacy-related issues, Parenting issues, Anger management, Career difficulties, Bipolar disorder, Guilt and shame, Mood disorders, Panic disorder and panic attacks, Post-traumatic stress
Clinical approaches: Client-Centered Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy, Trauma-Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems
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Toni has been great. She is patient, caring, and transparent. I truly appreciate having her as a resource.
Written on Mar 17, 2026 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, coping with life changes, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Toni has been my best therapist ever. She has been through many of the experiences that I have. She is very understanding, yet challenging in a very kind way.
Written on Feb 17, 2026 after therapy with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, bipolar disorder, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue
Toni is a wonderful and experienced therapist that has helped me overcome major adversities in my life. Started working with her when I was going through a long depression. With her helped I was able to see what was causing it, and got the strength to take action. I live a much better life nowadays thanks to therapy.
Written on Feb 09, 2026 after therapy with Toni for 3 years and 8 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, self esteem, and coping with life changes
Toni is an adaptable therapist who follows and leads at the same time. She is willing to keep learning and trying new methods with me. She is calm and waits until I can hear, is willing to repeat with kindness and patience. I am lucky to have found her.
Written on Sep 29, 2025 after therapy with Toni for 8 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and coping with life changes
Amazing just truly amazing so kind and warming it feels like she understands you from the beginning.
Written on Jan 11, 2025 after therapy with Toni for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, eating disorders, self esteem, anger management, bipolar disorder, coping with life changes, and adhd
Toni was excellent in helping me get through a really difficult time in my life and helping me address my issues head on. I would recommend her to anyone.
Written on Sep 19, 2024 after therapy with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, coping with life changes, and adhd
Helpful
Written on Jun 10, 2024 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety
Toni is a knowledgeable, skilled, compassionate therapist. She has been a tremendous resource as I have been processing trauma and hurt.
Written on May 21, 2023 after therapy with Toni for 3 years and 1 month on issues concerning depression, family conflicts, grief, sleeping disorders, self esteem, coping with life changes, and adhd
Toni is one of the greatest!
Written on May 08, 2023 after therapy with Toni for 2 years and 5 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, grief, and self esteem
Toni is Amazing! I Fat fingered and accidentally said “strongly disagree” for her response time which is inaccurate. She ALWAYS responds in a timely manner I could not go back to fix it. :(
Toni is always in my corner but also gently pushes me when I need it. I have been seeing her for over two years now. She’s the best therapist of many I have seen. She’s real.
She got me through the roughest two years of my life in dealing with my late Mother’s decline due to Alzheimer’s.
I know she cares for me and it helps so much to truly feel that even through the internet!
I have insurance to cover therapy now, but I pay to stick with Toni because she’s irreplaceable to me.
Written on Feb 04, 2023 after therapy with Toni for 2 years and 5 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, and coping with life changes
I have been seeing Toni for 2 years now and I enjoy talking with her so much. She has helped me through so much and I appreciate having her for a therapist!
Written on Oct 12, 2022 after therapy with Toni for 1 year and 9 months on issues concerning depression, and stress, anxiety
She’s great
Written on Sep 26, 2022 after therapy with Toni for 1 year and 5 months
I appreciate the ability to work through and solve current problems and getting strategies that can make me a better person.
Written on Sep 17, 2022 after therapy with Toni for 9 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, parenting issues, and self esteem
Toni is so supportive and compassionate. I am so grateful to have been paired with her right from the get-go.
Written on May 03, 2022 after therapy with Toni for 2 years and 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, and eating disorders
Toni has helped me greatly! I look forward to continuing counseling with her.
Written on Apr 20, 2022 after therapy with Toni for 1 year and 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, career difficulties, and bipolar disorder
When I didn't even think I could believe in myself, Toni believed in me. And as time goes on, im beginning to see and love myself more and more. Toni's demeanor and helpful validation inspired me find the hope to continue trudging, crawling, and eventually walk again.
Written on Mar 31, 2022 after therapy with Toni for 1 year and 3 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, grief, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue
Toni not only is a great listener but also gives great advice and tools to help me accomplish my goals. I feel like she is invested in me as a patient and that I can share anything with her.
Written on Dec 05, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, self esteem, and career difficulties
Toni listens to me with open ears and helps calm my anxieties. She helps me understand the way I feel in a more level headed way and validates my feelings making me feel more at peace with myself!
Written on Nov 02, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Immediately from out first session I felt at ease with Toni. We haven't been working together very long yet, but I feel so confident and excited about this journey and working through things together to be a better me!
Written on Nov 01, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, career difficulties, and adhd
Toni is very helpful to help me focus on my goals. I always feel more focused and able to move forward after speaking with her.
Written on Oct 29, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 3 years on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, and eating disorders
I love Toni! She’s extremely compassionate, insightful, resourceful, and, most of all, helpful. She has helped pull me out of the gutters and has done so with a great sense of humor. I highly recommend Toni to anyone needing support.
Written on Sep 15, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 3 months on issues concerning depression, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and coping with life changes
This counselor is patient, professional and skilled at ferring to the roots of issues and presenting solutions. Shes also good at just listening
Written on Jul 01, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 10 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, self esteem, and anger management
Toni has been great. I've only had bad experiences with therapy in the past, but I trust Toni and she helps me build the skills I need to live a happier life.
Written on Jun 29, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, and relationship issues
In the short time I've worked with Toni I have found her to be very competent and professional.
Written on Jun 04, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, self esteem, career difficulties, and coping with life changes
Really listened to my actual concerns, would highly recommend
Written on Apr 12, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, grief, parenting issues, anger management, and coping with life changes
I really appreciate Toni.
Written on Mar 21, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 4 months on issues concerning addictions, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, and coaching
Toni changed my life. Words cannot describe how grateful I am for her guidance. She listens without judgment and truly cares about helping you find your own strength.
Written on Feb 23, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 10 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety
Toni has really helped my identify some of the things that have been bothering me. I’m grateful for her help.
Written on Feb 13, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, parenting issues, self esteem, and adhd
Words cannot express how much I have enjoyed working with Toni, she is wonderful! Very caring, she listens, very helpful and she is very open and honest without any judgement. Grateful for her!
Written on Jan 20, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and anger management
I have seen two other counselors in the past, and found that they were either too schmaltzy for me, or too rough around the edges to relate with. Toni is a really good fit - she is just the right blend of practical with non-judgemental warmth and caring. I like that she provides gentle resistance when needed if I am in a thought process that needs to be explored more & challenged. I also appreciate that she stays rooted in skills-building & psych foundation while integrating my faith. Definitely recommend!
Written on Jan 16, 2021 after therapy with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, career difficulties, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue
I am new to counseling and still pretty new to Toni. I have felt very comfortable being vulnerable with her because she is extremely supportive and does not judge. I am excited to keep growing with her over time and seeking guidance from her. Toni offers a wide range of knowledge and life experience. She is a very relatable woman, and someone I feel safe talking to.
Written on Dec 16, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, grief, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, self esteem, and coping with life changes
Toni is fantastic and my growth personally, professionally, emotionally, etc over the last year has been exponential with her assistance.
Written on Dec 04, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 1 year and 3 months
I’ve had a few therapists in the past couple months and she has been the best. Making me feel heard and I’ve actually made progress in my life to living happier
Written on Sep 24, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, self esteem, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue
Toni tells me straight forward, she doesn’t sugar coat. She immediately jumped into the issues I was facing, which is exactly what I needed. If I forget to reply, she reached back out to me to check on me. I couldn’t recommend her more.
Written on Sep 16, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, bipolar disorder, compassion fatigue, and adhd
Toni has helped me through some of the biggest challenges in my life. I'm learning to love myself more and face life with greater confidence thanks to her support and advice. She's truly been a beacon of light for me these past few months.
Written on Aug 20, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 1 month on issues concerning stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, self esteem, career difficulties, coping with life changes, coaching, and compassion fatigue
Best counselor I’ve ever had :)
Written on Jul 30, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, family conflicts, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, and coping with life changes
Toni was fantastic help for me! If I could afford to continue services with her I would, but unfortunately I am not able to. She is understanding and listened to everything I had to say, I would not be where I am in life without her help!
Written on Jul 02, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, grief, and self esteem
Toni has helped me through the darkest time in my life. She is compassionate, understanding and helpful. She's great!
Written on Jun 01, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 4 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, family conflicts, intimacy-related issues, parenting issues, anger management, and coping with life changes
I am really pleased with her timely response to my e-mails. I am still in the early stages of counseling but so far so good.
Written on Apr 30, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, grief, and coaching
Toni has really helped me in working to develop my emotional intelligence. She is very thoughtful and knows when to listen and when to offer advice. She is also very responsive.
Written on Apr 21, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 1 month on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, self esteem, coping with life changes, and compassion fatigue
Toni is a fantastic counselor. Attentive, encouraging and knowledgeable, she has made me feel listened to and has equipped me with tools to work through my issues with ease and understanding.
Written on Apr 16, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, grief, coping with life changes, and adhd
Toni listens very carefully to my concerns and feelings. She has given me more tools to work on my specific needs than any other counselor I’ve seen. I’m definitely feeling more capable, competent and happier since I’ve started working with her!
Written on Jan 29, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 4 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and career difficulties
Toni not only responds quickly to my messages, but really seems to dig into what I'm struggling with and helps point out a different perspective that I've been blinded to. She is flexible with my schedule and checks in if she hasn't heard from me in a while.
Written on Jan 23, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, and coping with life changes
This service is helpful, convenient and affordable. I love it!
Written on Jan 19, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, addictions, intimacy-related issues, and compassion fatigue
Toni is great at what she does. I always feel listened to and understood. She has knowledge about skills and techniques which makes me feel I like I can wave BetterHelp one day with the skills I need to move forward in life.
Written on Jan 17, 2020 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, and relationship issues
Toni really took the time to understand what I was going through. She offered emotional and practical tips to help me cope with my anxiety. I highly recommend her!
Written on Oct 04, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 1 month
Toni's been extremely helpful and a good listener! Her explanations help me make connections to how I'm feeling, and provide some key strategies that can help me day-to-day. I love working with her!
Written on Sep 30, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks
Toni is caring, understanding and never judges me! She is supportive and I feel like she is someone I can trust.
Written on Sep 22, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 1 year on issues concerning relationship issues, and self esteem
Toni has been the best counselor for me. She immediately understood my needs and was able to "hit the nail on the head" with all of her feedback. She gives personal, immediately applicable counsel. Her real-life experience gives her great empathy and the ability to help me "see beyond" my current circumstances and help me to own my responses to them.
Written on Jul 25, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 3 months
Toni is very sweet and understanding. I have a very busy schedule and she is always flexible to reschedule sessions if I need to. She gives a variety of relaxation tools to help with trauma and anxiety.
Written on Jun 05, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, parenting issues, self esteem, and anger management
I see Toni as a friend that has gotten to know me and actually is invested in me and what is going on in my life. I feel like I have a friend that I can talk to.
Written on Apr 26, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, and intimacy-related issues
Toni has encouraged me to vent and is able to identify main issues. Her communication skills are excellent. Toni's feedback has helped me understand myself better and offered suggestions to move through it. She is straightforward and supportive.
Written on Apr 25, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, addictions, family conflicts, grief, self esteem, coping with life changes, coaching, and compassion fatigue
Toni helped me a great deal. Her insightful questions, comments, and suggestions were spot on. She was always available - responding to my messages immediately. I highly recommend Toni as a counselor!
Written on Apr 23, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 2 months on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, addictions, self esteem, anger management, and coping with life changes
She is very good!
Written on Mar 12, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks
Before Toni, I was crying every day and feeling immensely depressed and hopeless due to childhood trauma and also more recent trauma. She is a great listener, extremely caring, affectionate while also professional and organized, keeping the big picture in mind. She has been methodically guiding me through stages of personal growth and healing via video calls and also sending me reading materials. Whenever I feel down, which happens much more rarely than it used to, I console myself with the thought that my next session with her is scheduled soon.
I highly recommend Toni for anyone dealing with depression, insecurity, heartbreak, trauma of varying severity. My life is getting better every day because of her guidance.
Written on Mar 05, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 4 months on issues concerning stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, and self esteem
Toni is wonderful. She understands depression and anxiety, and does everything she can to help you understand it too. She’s kind, and funny, and I have never once felt judged when talking to her.
Written on Mar 03, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and career difficulties
I really like Toni. She offers a wide variety of advice and ways to get me into my own head if need be. I think my favorite part of BetterHelp is just having someone that you can talk to whenever it may be. It’s helping me with so much and I am so grateful to her.
Written on Feb 24, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, anger management, coping with life changes, and adhd
Ms. Kooy is a wonderful counselor. She is patient, understanding, and insightful. The biblical verses shared with me are timely and uplifting. I'm grateful to have Toni as a resourceful outlet.
Written on Feb 09, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks
Toni has been very helpful. She is very empathetic and clearly understands me and helps me understand my situation better.
Written on Feb 06, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and coping with life changes
Toni seems to genuinely care, and is always ready and willing to talk or listen.
Written on Jan 11, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 3 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, self esteem, anger management, and coping with life changes
Toni is very supportive & understanding. She makes me feel that I'm heard & understood and that she will be there for me when I message her. I'm glad she's my counselor.
Written on Jan 11, 2019 after therapy with Toni for 4 weeks on issues concerning stress, anxiety, family conflicts, trauma and abuse, self esteem, and compassion fatigue
Toni has been a real source of support. She prays for me and takes what I give her and helps me to understand what is happening with me physically mentally and spiritually. She anticipates what will come up for me in future sessions and has sent me a number of handouts to help with things that may come up. Greatly appreciated! I have felt supported. Thanks again Toni.
Written on Dec 31, 2018 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks
She is a great therapist. She has a professional disposition and great attitude.
Written on Dec 18, 2018 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, lgbt, relationship issues, trauma and abuse, grief, intimacy-related issues, sleeping disorders, and self esteem
Toni has been kind and understanding, and with the initial time we've spoken has worked to understand what I'm going through.
Written on Dec 15, 2018 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, anger management, career difficulties, and bipolar disorder
Tony is amazing. I believe God put her in my life because I was truly in need. She is thoughtful, caring and I trusted her from the first session. So grateful to have her as my counselor.
Written on Dec 11, 2018 after therapy with Toni for 3 weeks
Toni has been very responsive and provided an assortment of ideas.
Written on Nov 15, 2018 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks
Tony has been a large help already and has given me some insight on things that I have been struggling with my whole life. I look forward to sticking with her and hoping to advance with her expertise in realizing what I can be and how I can think better and feel better.
Written on Oct 31, 2018 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning depression, stress, anxiety, relationship issues, intimacy-related issues, self esteem, and career difficulties
Toni is helpful and very easy to talk to, I recommend her counselling services.
Written on Oct 23, 2018 after therapy with Toni for 4 weeks on issues concerning self esteem
Toni, has been wonderful during her counseling. She does not mind my long messages, and I know he reads them in depth because of her precise answers. Her questions have helped me to go back in time and relate instances that have altered my present emotional state. I feel I can open up to her and tell her anything.
Written on Oct 19, 2018 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks on issues concerning relationship issues, family conflicts, parenting issues, and anger management
She listens and responds in ways that assist in moving forward through tough situations. Highly recommended.
Written on Oct 16, 2018 after therapy with Toni for 2 weeks
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