Learn Ways To Release Anger Productively

We’ve all had weak moments in our lives when we let our emotions and frustration get the best of us. We reacted in ways we later regretted or embarrassing ways, not using productive ways to release or let go of our emotions. Maybe it was when someone was rude or when a situation didn’t go our way, and we acted irrationally. Learn ways to get rid of this pattern, get rid of outbursts, and instead balance your emotions in a healthy way.

Learn Ways To Let Go Of Difficult Emotions And Stabilize Moods

Anger is a common emotion and can actually be healthy to feel when it’s handled correctly. But sometimes it can feel so hard to keep rage under control. Learning how to release your emotions appropriately can help you stabilize your moods, have healthy relationships, and improve your health.

Mayo Clinic says that anger is a natural response when faced with perceived threats - a survival instinct that activates the body’s fight or flight reaction. Muscles tighten, and the face and hands begin to flush. Often this rage inspires powerful, and sometimes aggressive, feelings and actions which defend ourselves when we feel attacked. Prioritize finding how to express your anger in healthy ways.

What Causes This Rage And Anger?

Not only do people experience strong negative emotions for different reasons, but they also learn to release anger in different ways. The Mayo Clinic talks about three typical categories in which people stay in control:

• Expression: This is conveying the message of being mad. The expression could be reasonable, rational discussion, or lashing out in a violent outburst. The healthiest way of expressing anger is being assertive rather than aggressive.
• Suppression: This involves holding in negative emotions like anger in hopes of converting them into more constructive behavior. Suppressing anger turns them inward which can affect your health and well-being.
• Calming Down: By controlling your outward behavior and managing your internal responses, you could let the intense anger subside. This involves knowing yourself, how it affects you, and coping strategies that work for you.

The Negative Effects Of Suppressing Anger

As discussed above, some people choose to suppress their anger in hope of the situation changing or simply going away. Suppressing your emotions and not having a way to express it can have significant impacts on your health, including heart disease, stroke, weakened immune system, and an increase in anxiety and depression.

Strategies And Ways To Release Intense Anger: Get Rid Of It

Let Go Of And Release Your Negative Emotions

You know that suppressed anger is a problem for your physical health, mental health, and relationships. What can you do about it? There are several techniques people use to express their emotions, discussed below. Remember, everyone handles moods differently, so try the following tools to determine which method works best for you when you’re feeling anger.

  

Physical activity is a great way to express anger and put yourself in a better mood. The chemicals activated in the brain while doing the physical activity are natural mood stabilizers. Working out also lets you redirect the anger into a healthy activity. Though exercise may not solve the problems that caused your initial mood, it will neutralize the difficult emotions so you could think more clearly about solutions.

When you’re feeling anger, your breathing may increase. You may find that you take short and shallow breathes. This can trigger other physical symptoms in your body which can lead to things like high blood pressure. Breathing exercises are an easy way to calm down from the body’s fight or heightened state of alertness. Taking a few deep breaths helps activate a calming reflex in the body. Practice the following techniques often so they will be easier to apply when anger strikes.

Practice taking slow, controlled breaths. Imagine the air going in through your nose all the way to your belly. Follow the breath as it leaves your body. Another great deep breathing exercise involves mentally counting. Inhale while counting to four, hold your breath for another count of four, then exhale counting to four again. Count to four as your rest, then repeat as necessary.

While you’re deep breathing, it may be helpful to imagine a relaxing experience or a pleasant memory. Try to picture it with all of your senses. For instance, if you imagine yourself on a beach, mentally hear the waves, feel the sun on your cheeks, smell the ocean air, etc.

When you feel rage, you may notice that the muscles seem to tense up throughout your body. One way to express rage is to address this tension. Slowly tense and relax each muscle group one at a time. This will help your body feel more relaxed from anger’s muscle tightening response.

In addition to these techniques, guided meditations can help calm rage or other emotions. Several websites offer guided meditations for calming the nerves. You could even install a meditation app on your smartphone to use whenever you’re mad.

Sometimes writing thoughts and emotions on paper helps get them out of your head and puts them in perspective. Consider journaling, creating poetry, or writing a letter or email to someone who wronged you (that you may or may not send). Writing helps organize your thoughts and may provide insights into the situation. When you write, don’t just focus on the adverse aspect of the event or situation, try to brainstorm solutions or how to handle things differently in the future. You can write until your feelings of rage are expressed.

You may even want to keep a notepad with you at all times so the next time you feel anger, you can start writing right away.

Sometimes it’s simply best to walk away from the source. It could be permanent or temporary, but either way, it can be helpful to take a break from the triggers consistently causing rage. If you must end a relationship or find a different job, do it. Change is not always easy, but it is necessary if the situation is causing you difficult emotions.

• Avoid words like “always” or “never” when thinking or talking about the person or situation making you mad. These absolute words justify your rage and alienate others helping you find a solution.
• Understand rage has a way of quickly making thoughts irrational. By taking a few of the breaths above then trying to determine if your thoughts are irrational, such as “everyone should like me,” or “the world is out to get me.” Replace the irrational with more logical, constructive thoughts.
• Translate expectations into desires. Demanding fairness, appreciation, etc. when feeling mad is easy. That doesn’t always sit well with others. Don’t believe you deserve everything. Request your desires. It may not always work, but this type of assertive communication will help get your point across in a much more amicable manner.

Anger Is Natural

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Seek Mental Health Treatment

Unfortunately, not everyone has the luxury of a supportive friend or loved one. Many people struggling with intense rage turn to therapists, who are trained to provide insights into thought processes, management, and changes they could make to constructively and assertively deal with rage.

A therapist can work with you to help you determine where your rage is coming from and how to treat it. It’s not just that you’re a mad person and they can help you discover how come you feel such angriness. They can also help you learn how to express your rage so you can overcome the mental and physical symptoms that you experience as a result of it. Then, the next time you’re feeling angry, you’ll have an idea of what you can do to express this rage and move forward healthily.

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Conclusion: Take Control Of Your Mental Health With Therapy

Learn Ways To Release Emotions

While angriness is a normal emotion, it can be difficult to manage. If you’re struggling with anger management, the tips in this article can help you make the positive changes that you need in life. A counselor can help you stay on track, while you move at a pace that’s comfortable for you.

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