How To Stay Calm When Dealing With Anxiety, Stress, And Panic Attacks

Medically reviewed by April Justice, LICSW and Julie Dodson, MA, LCSW
Updated April 24th, 2026 by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Sometimes, life can feel overwhelming, and it may seem like you’re spiraling out of control. It doesn’t usually help when emotions run high, and it can be hard to focus on what your next steps should be. The key is generally to recognize when anxious thoughts may be taking over your day-to-day life and focus on productive thoughts and actions to help you get through the moment. When you feel life spiraling out of control, it can be helpful to recognize that you do have control, take deep breaths, face and challenge your feelings, and stay busy. A life assessment can identify any areas of your life that may require action or change. Working with a therapist can help you discover the anxiety management strategies that are most effective for you.

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How to stay calm when dealing with anxiety and panic attack 

Staying calm when dealing with anxiety or panic attacks can be an important skill that you can learn to improve your quality of life. Mastering various techniques may help you navigate difficult situations calmly. 

Addressing your anxiety: Habits to prevent anxiety spirals

When you sense that life is spiraling out of control, it may seem as if you have no control, especially when things seem to happen with or without your influence. Sometimes, you may go through things you don’t want to experience because they bring unwanted feelings and remind you of a person or reality you don’t feel comfortable recalling. Other times, you may perceive that you can’t get a break or that nothing is in your control. While there may be times when things happen that are out of your control, it can be crucial to recognize that this is part of life, and you can still take control of the way you respond to these situations. Developing coping strategies to manage your anxiety can help you practice self-compassion and cultivate a sense of control in your life.

Take a deep breath when faced with stress and anxiety

The moment you become aware that things are spiraling out of control, try to take a step back and breathe. Feeling overwhelmed can be related to your body’s fight-or-flight response.

This response is typically what contributes to the physical aspects of anxiety. As you stop to reflect on the moment, you might take a deep breath and relax. Learning breathing techniques may reduce the effects of anxiety quickly.

You can use breathing techniques and guided imagery to visualize yourself in a state of calmness. Keep the image you create in your mind and refer to it when you feel anxious. 

Challenge your thoughts to avoid a panic attack

It can be helpful to ask yourself questions to readjust your thinking. Try to assess your ideas and identify ways to handle difficult situations that usually trigger panic attacks. This is a common strategy practiced by people who reach out for professional help with anxiety disorders. Therapists often help clients identify cognitive distortions that may trigger their symptoms. 

For example, someone who made a small mistake at work may believe they’re going to lose their job, despite an otherwise excellent record. Challenging that irrational thought may help them avoid feeling anxious and potentially spiraling out of control.   

Engage in activities that enhance your mental health

Other things you can do when confronting anxiety may include listening to music, relaxing your body by lying down and resting, and journaling to write out what is triggering such feelings. You may also wish to consider holistic remedies like acupuncture, which can provide relief by inserting needles into pressure points throughout your body.

Focus on sleep, nutrition, and regular meals

Other habits that may help with anxiety include practicing better sleep hygiene, eating nutritious foods, and maintaining a regular meal schedule. These habits may help you improve mood and keep your energy levels stable.

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Physical activity to improve your mental health

Excessive worry can have negative implications for mental health. Self-care strategies, including regular physical activity, can help alleviate stress and worries. 

Reasons why physical activity can be one tip on how to stay calm when dealing with anxiety

  • It increases endorphins, a feel-good hormone.
  • Physical activity can improve your mood.
  • Exercise
  • Exercise can help improve an individual’s stress response.

Gentle movement practices

Individuals who experience anxiety may find that gentle movement practices, such as yoga or tai chi, help to reduce the intensity of their anxiety. You might set small targets, such as 10 minutes per day, which may be enough to reduce anxiety levels.

Panic attacks vs. anxiety spirals

Some people may experience something more intense than anxiety: panic attacks. Panic attacks can last from several minutes to an hour or more and can cause a variety of symptoms, including: 

  • Shortness of breath
  • An increased heart rate
  • A sense of impending doom
  • Nausea
  • Sweating
  • Trembling
  • Chest pain

Panic attacks often don’t pose a serious danger, although individuals may feel like they are having a medical emergency. Implementing grounding techniques may help reduce the frequency or intensity of these attacks. 

When to seek help and address anxiety, panic attacks, and mental health challenges in therapy

If you perceive that life is spiraling out of control, you might consider working with a therapist for some extra support. It can be hard to move forward when you have the sense of being out of control, but there may be ways to tackle these perceptions and gain a clearer picture of your situation. Understanding how your thoughts and feelings influence your anxiety can be a significant step forward. One of the best ways to understand this may be by talking things through with a therapist. 

How to stay calm when dealing with anxiety through CBT

There are typically different types of talk therapy that can provide comprehensive support for anxiety. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), which usually focuses on identifying and changing thought patterns contributing to your emotions and behavior, is usually one of the most popular approaches to therapy for anxiety. CBT helps clients identify and change their unhealthy thought patterns. 

Control panic attack symptoms with online therapy

Connecting with a therapist often has advantages you can benefit from in the long term, and now it can be done from the comfort of your home. Many research studies show that online CBT can be just as effective for anxiety and feeling out of control as in-person therapy. 

Connect with an online therapist to reduce stress and stop feeling anxious

Connecting with an online therapist can provide convenient support when you need it most. You may schedule sessions that fit into your daily life and speak with a licensed mental health professional via online chat, phone call, or video call. 

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Takeaway

When it seems like life is spiraling beyond your control, it can be helpful to take a moment to stop, think, and reflect. Sometimes, you may need to step away from the situation to breathe so you can think clearly. Try to recognize the emotions you’re feeling and why. Working with a licensed therapist online may help you exercise your own power and control to navigate trying moments and practice skills to reduce your daily stressors.
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This article provides general information and does not constitute medical or therapeutic advice. Mentions of diagnoses or therapy/treatment options are educational and do not indicate availability through BetterHelp in your country.
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