10 Depression Quotes That May Change Your Life
Updated March 17, 2020
Reviewer Deborah Horton
Sometimes the only way to understand depression is by hearing the wisdom of others. When we get wrapped up in our point of view, we may not be able to see things clearly. This is why we've compiled ten depression quotes that can help put life and mental illness in a proper perspective. Some of the quotes might hit close to your heart, while others may challenge you to expand your mindset on an issue.
- "Human bodies are designed for regular physical activity. The sedentary nature of much of modern life probably plays a significant role in the epidemic incidence of depression today. Many studies show that depressed patients who stick to a regimen of aerobic exercise improve as much as those treated with medication."
-Andrew Weil, MD Guru of Alternative Medicine
There are many studies available about how exercise can be useful for fighting depression. Some studies even claim that regular exercise can be used in place of antidepressants. Here is one study with confirmed results. It's quite technical, so here is an article from the Washington Post that breaks down the findings. This study helps to confirm what has been researched for years: regular exercise can help relieve the symptoms of anxiety and depression.
- "The so-called 'psychotically depressed' person who tries to kill herself doesn't do so out of quote 'hopelessness' or any abstract conviction that life's assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise. The variable here is the other terror, the fire's flames: when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors."
-David Foster Wallace, Author
Perhaps many of us, depressed or not, could benefit from understanding more of what suicidal urges are and what they feel like. This may help everyone to comprehend what depression is and how to help those who suffer from it. Beyond the statistics, everybody surrounding the sufferer needs to offer an open and understanding ear, so that the sufferer can make the most important step in recovery: asking for help. If the person in the burning building could see the pilot in the helicopter shouting, he or she would have no need to jump.
- "Depression has been called the world's number one public health problem. In fact, depression is so widespread it is considered the common cold of psychiatric disturbances. But there is a grim difference between depression and a cold. Depression can kill you."
- David D. Burns, adjunct professor emeritus in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Stanford University School of Medicine
According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, 50 percent of all people who commit suicide suffer from major depression. This means that as a society, we need to develop ways for depressed individuals to seek and access treatment. Depression is a psychological illness that requires medical treatment, the same way that strep throat is a physical illness that requires medical treatment.
The worst advice anyone can give you is to say, "Don't worry, the depression will pass. You'll get over it." These people may mean well, but they don't know all the factors and thus are dangerously under-qualified to tell you something like that. In many cases, major depression and bipolar disorder can be untreated and undiagnosed for years. The individual suffers greatly during this time when help could be right around the corner. Don't let other people think for you or make you suppress your fears. Talk to a professional who can offer you guidance when you're feeling depressed.
- "Getting better from depression demands a lifelong commitment. I've made that commitment for my life's sake and for the sake of those who love me."
- Susan Polis Schutz, Poet
This may well be a forgotten truth about depression. Depression, bipolar, and other disorders can be long-term or lifelong conditions. After your life gets better, doctors may choose to focus on maintenance therapy or continuation therapy. According to Dr. Dunner and Dr. Keller, who researched recurrent depression, the difference is that continuation therapy helps to prevent relapse-to suppress symptoms. This type of therapy lasts for several months. Maintenance therapy prevents a recurrence once the initial continuation treatment phase ends. Maintenance therapy may also turn into lifelong treatment if the patient and doctor think it's necessary.
- "Keep yourself busy if you want to avoid depression. For me, inactivity is the enemy." - Matt Lucas, Comedian
Someone telling you that you should "get busy and stop feeling depressed" can be quite offensive. If a person has major depression, more aggressive treatment is required before that person can feel motivated to get busy. However, there is also some truth to the idea that more mental activity and more active tasks can be a part of effective therapy. One study from the University of Chicago and Shanghai Jiaotong University found that busier subjects reported greater moods of happiness than subjects who were instructed to remain idle for an extended period.
Dr. Christopher K. Hsee expanded the argument suggesting that people instinctively "dread idleness…" and they tend to want to stay busy. However, they must feel what he calls "justification" for staying busy, or else they'd rather choose idleness than do something just because someone suggests they do it. Therefore, after the initial depression treatment, a doctor or counselor will work with you to find activities that stimulate your passion in life, your creativity, and your desire to socialize with others. It's only natural that we thrive in an active social environment and by excelling in something that gives us pride.
- "In a strange way, I had fallen in love with my depression. Dr. Sterling was right about that. I loved it because I thought it was all I had. I thought depression was the part of my character that made me worthwhile. I thought so little of myself, felt that I had such scant offerings to give to the world, that the one thing that justified my existence at all was my agony."
- Elizabeth Wurtzel, Author
Depression is more than just negative thinking. But we can often forget how much negative thinking can worsen the symptoms of depression. Over time, you may begin to think of depression as a part of your personality or a flaw that defines you and your existence. But as the quotes for depression suggests, this is the result of low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem contributes to depression. Multiple studies have shown the correlation between negative thoughts and the decisions it causes us to make, which results in predictable unhappiness. For example, one 2013 study from the Florida State University College of Medicine found that normal-weight teenagers who thought negatively and saw themselves as overweight were more likely to become obese in adulthood. Simply put, our negative thoughts could quickly influence how we treat others, and in the case of depression, how we treat ourselves. In the words of Deborah Serani, Psy.D, patients with low self-esteem and depression should be presented with questions that challenge negative thoughts.
- What evidence supports my conclusion?
- Do others say this, or is it just you?
- How does thinking this way make me feel?
People who have a healthy self-image are better able to feel good about their accomplishments and take pride in what they achieve. They are also able to set realistic goals and accomplish them, which is something a depressed person may not be able to do without guidance.
- "You are not your illness. You have an individual story to tell. You have a name, a history, a personality. Staying yourself is part of the battle."-Julian Seifter, Author
Most doctors and counselors that you speak to will warn you that depression, bipolar disorder, and other personality disorders, do not have to define you. And some, if not all, have no quick fix. Rather it's a gradual and sometimes lifelong process of discovering ways to cope and reduce the more severe bouts of depression. An article in Psychology Today illustrated this fact by quoting two different studies suggesting that among "prominent authors," 80 percent of them reported at least one episode of severe depression, mania, or hypomania.
So while we're not suggesting that you ignore symptoms, the medical community does suggest that you stop viewing depression solely as an illness that characterizes you as a person. You are not your illness, in the words of John M. Grohol, Psy.D., who writes, "Please stop referring to yourself as nothing more than a diagnostic label. It gives short shrift to and doesn't honor your complexity and uniqueness as a person. You deserve better."
The truth is many people who have suffered from depression have lived full, exciting, and very productive lives. Many innovative new technologies have given inspiration to others with their art. A diagnosis of depression is certainly not a death sentence or any limitation on what you, as a complex individual, can accomplish.
- "A thickening of the brain cortex associated with regular meditation or other spiritual or religious practice could be the reason those activities guard against depression - particularly in people who are predisposed to the disease…"
- Lisa Miller, professor and director of Clinical Psychology and director of the Spirituality Mind Body Institute at Teachers College, Columbia University.
One of the most interesting studies of religion and spirituality and the effect on depression came from Miller and her team. Her findings, published in the American Journal of Psychiatry, showed a "90 percent decrease in major depression in adults who said they highly valued spirituality or religiosity." However, it was not necessarily a faith-based opinion. After all, regular meditation was listed as well as a spiritual meditation.
This certainly proves that our thoughts have great power over our minds and bodies. Clusters of negative or positive thoughts can begin to make shifts in our mood and continue to motivate us to more productive and happy lives. Finding your higher power may lead you to religion or more secular-based meditation. What matters, however, is that you can find peace of mind through thought transformation.
- "Happiness is only real when shared."
- Jon Krakauerm, Author
The simplicity of the quote is heartfelt and true. We cannot find happiness in isolation. Money doesn't equal happiness if we lock ourselves away in a mansion far removed from the rest of society. We need people to be sociable with, to confide in, to share in their joy, and help to ease their pain. In return, they do the same for us.
Whether we enjoy large crowds or small groups of friends and family, the effect is the same. A study done by the American Psychological Association determined that even introverted people receive joy from talking to people, even strangers, according to the test. The study revealed introverts who "acted in an extroverted way" reported more positive feelings than the introverts who remained instinctively quiet. When depression is a factor, social anxieties can be worsened, which is why doctors and counselors will recommend talk therapy, counseling, or even support group therapy to patients in addition to medication.
Depression quotes about being alone help us to confront the fact that we are not really "our own universe" all onto ourselves. We need other people to feel complete, even if our groups are local and small. Counselors may recommend talk therapy or more aggressive cognitive behavioral therapy, which seeks to alter our thought processes and actions. This form of therapy cannot be underestimated since it directly relates to our instinctive need to be happy when socializing with important people in our lives.
- "If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person."
- Fred Rogers
Lastly, don't forget the beloved Mr. Rogers and his advice on being happy. It's easy to become engrossed in our flawed and singular perspective. But never forget how important you are to other people…most of all, your friends and family who consider you an important part of their life and their happiness.
If you are suffering from mental illness, you may not believe Mr. Rogers' statement. I challenge you to challenge that thinking. People care about you. Really, they do. You could even say that getting help with your depression (a condition that affects you and the people you love) is an act of love. You can contribute to someone else's peace of mind and in turn, may feel a great weight lifted off your shoulders when you finally do sit down and talk about your feelings. Hopefully, these quotes about depression have helped you realize that you are not alone in your struggle, and there are always sources for help.
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