Are You An INFJ? Depression Could Be A Risk -- Here's Why
Updated September 02, 2021
Medically Reviewed By: Rashonda Douthit , LCSW
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is arguably the most popular personality test in the land, used by websites and employers alike. Many who take this test find personality type information informative, spot-on, and fun.
MBTI Personality Inventory
For those unfamiliar with this test, the MBTI Personality Inventory is a set of questions designed to assess your personality in four key areas. When you complete each of the questions, you will be placed on four spectra, which measure introversion/extraversion (I/E), intuition/sensation (N/S), thinking/feeling (T/F), and judging/perceiving (J/P). The letter closest to your placement on each spectrum produces your four-letter personality type.
This article is written for the INFJ—the introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging-oriented individuals. If you are an INFJ, your friends may identify you as the “advocate” or “confidant” of the group. You are easy to talk to, trustworthy, and more than willing to stick your neck out for the people you hold dear. These are qualities that make you extremely likable and can lead to an abundance of substantive, lifelong relationships. Sounds like a great life, right?
Being an INFJ comes with its advantages, but also its drawbacks. LovableINFJs experience the same pain, struggles, and sadness that others do—they often just do so in private. This may contribute to depression as experienced by INFJs. In this article, we’ll discuss a few reasons why INFJs are prone to experiencingdepression.
The Atlas Personality
Atlas is a character from Greek mythology who literally holds the weight of the world on his shoulders. In an emotional sense, INFJ personalities frequently carry the weight of their worlds: their loved ones’ needs and burdens alongside their own.
This personality type is known as “the confidant” for good reason. When the people they love are hurting, INFJs will hurt right alongside them, and they will not stop until the problem is successfully resolved. When this pain is very strong and comes from several different sources, it is easy to see why this can contribute to INFJs being prone to depression.
Most people prefer to be surrounded by positivity—happiness in others that contributes to happiness in themselves. However, the INFJ, as the “advocate,” is willing to stay beside someone who is unhappy because they just cannot stand to see someone suffering. Most people would agree that it feels good to help others, but INFJs are susceptible to helping too much, taking on burdens that aren’t theirs to carry. Living with—and trying to solve—others’ problems can indeed be stressful.
When you are known as the “confidant,”you can feel a lot of pressure to maintain that role indefinitely. But what about when you need a shoulder to cry on? For many INFJs, the answer is simply, “you don’t get one.”
In caring for their social circle, INFJs can focus so thoroughly on the needs of others that they may neglect their own needs, including emotional needs. They may experience feelings of frustration, loss, or anger without confiding in anyone. The internal pressure of this “quiet pain” can build, and if left unchecked, it might push a well-meaning INFJ into depression.
Any INFJ feeling this kind of pressure may benefit from speaking to a mental health professional. INFJs deserve and need support in times of struggle just as much as anyone else. If you find yourself hesitating to “burden” your loved ones with your own thoughts or challenges, you might find comfort and relief in talking with a mental health professional, someone who will give you the space to express yourself. You are worthy of a safe space to vent just as much as any loved one who confides their worries to you!
Social, Yet Isolated
Being an introvert may mean parties and social gatherings are not your preferred activities. INFJsoften maintain a tight-knit group of friends characterized by deep, strong relationships. As empathetic, sensitive friends, INFJs can build close friendships with many other personality types.
INFJs are the rarest classification of the MBTI—estimated at one to two percent of the population—which means that they might experience feelings of distance or separation from others who do not perceive relationships in the same way. Even in a crowd, an INFJ might feel lonely. Social interaction and feelings of connectedness with others are important contributors to overall mental health, and INFJs may find it more challenging to work through these interactions to build relationships.
What Can I Do About My INFJ Depression?
If you are an INFJ who is dealing with depression, or if you know an INFJ who is struggling, therapy is a great place to start. Therapy is a way for an individual to have their voice heard and their concerns addressed by a licensed mental health professional. If you sometimes feel like you have to carry everyone’s burden, it might be nice to know that there is someone who will carry yours.
In addition to this support, licensed mental health professionals are able to use a number of effective treatment methods to help address depression. For example, a therapist might ask you to keep a journal (which INFJs often find comforting), try new hobbies, or get in touch with old friends and family. They can help you manage the stress of life, whether it stems from loved ones, school, or work.
INFJs are rare, and that is something to be appreciated, not feared. If you are an INFJ, then you are in good company; a recent feature article from TODAY highlighted the experiences of one of its own journalists, Joan Raymond, an INFJ. As Raymond notes, though, “Just remember: You are more than a four-letter combo of personality.” It can be difficult to extricate yourself from classifications that may seem to restrict what you are capable of or what sort of life you will lead. More than any personality test, online therapy can provide steady support as you navigate the challenges of your life, INFJ or not.
If you are considering therapy, BetterHelp can help you find a professional near you. Withthe guidance of a mental health professional, you maysoon feel relieved and more energetic.Tell your therapist that you consider yourself an INFJ; they can guide you through addressing depression in ways that fit your personality. By taking the time to unburden yourself and tend to your own needs, you can continue to care for your loved ones with a renewed spirit. If you are an INFJ, you may want to save and help everyone around you, but remember that you are a person, too—and you deserve the same love and care that you freely give to others. These BetterHelp users have found renewalthrough online therapy, too:
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