How To Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

Updated September 04, 2018

It has happened to all of us at one time or another. Nobody is able to say they have never felt a bit sorry for themselves. However, it should not consume you and make your life miserable. While it is natural to feel sad for a short period of one or two days, feeling unnaturally sad for more than two weeks is a sign of something more serious such as depression.


Why are You Feeling that Way?

First, you have to figure out why you are feeling sorry for yourself. Did something bad happen that started this feeling or did you just wake up sad and have not been able to explain it or get rid of it? For example, if you and your significant other got into an argument or you lost your job, this can cause you to feel sorry for yourself for a while. But, if you just all of a sudden realize you are sad and do not feel like doing anything you normally do, you may need to get screened for depression.

Different Types of Depression

Apathy depression is the natural feeling of sadness that occurs because of an event or situation that happened in your life. With this type of depression, you will likely already know the cause and may be able to help yourself get out of that funk by talking to someone about it, getting out, and hanging out with friends and family. Clinical depression is another type of depression that is longer lasting and sometimes needs to be treated with medication. This can be recognized by symptoms such as:

  • Inability to concentrate
  • Lack of interest in activities you usually enjoy
  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Weight loss or gain
  • Eating less or more than usual
  • Prolonged sadness
  • Feeling hopeless
  • Chronic pain
  • Aggravation or irritability
  • Extreme fatigue
  • Withdrawing from family and friends
  • Suicidal thoughts


What Causes Depression

There are many different theories and there is no simple answer to this because depression can be triggered by many things. Some say it is a genetic factor because mood disorders like depression do seem to run in families. It can also be a major traumatic incident such as divorce, loss of a loved one, or abuse. Changes in brain chemicals can also cause depression and may have something to do with hormones. Drug or alcohol abuse can also be a cause of depression. In fact, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), about 30% of those with substance abuse conditions have depression.


What You Can Do About It

There are many ways to treat depression, whether it is apathy depression or clinical depression. If you have apathy depression, talking to someone can help you feel better immediately. If you do not feel comfortable talking to someone you know, there are websites that have professional therapists and counselors who are available 24 hours a day. You do not even have to make an appointment or go see them. You can do it right on your phone or another electronic device. Other choices include exercise, brain stimulation therapy, psychotherapy, light therapy, and medication. However, the first step to take is to talk to someone, so what are you waiting for? The sooner you reach out, the sooner you will feel better.


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