An Overview Of Misogyny
Misogyny is defined as the "dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women." Additional reports from Wikipedia state that misogyny often presents itself in the forms of marginalizing femininity, degrading women, objecting women, subjecting women to violence, and other heinous treatments. There are many thoughts, beliefs, and studies conducted into misogyny.
For decades, various individuals have attempted to understand the causes, roots, and underlying factors of misogyny. Even today, misogyny remains as a subject of interest to many people. However, before new breakthroughs can be made regarding misogyny, a thorough understanding of already know information and factors is paramount.
A Thorough Review Of Misogyny
While the overall definition is widely agreed upon, some people have various ideas on the purposes and endgames of individuals who identify as misogynists. However, Psychology Today affirms that misogynists ultimately aim to control women, suppress their opportunities, and control their thoughts, behaviors, and actions. Many misogynistic individuals have no qualms with resorting to threats or violence as a means of achieving the objectives above.
Misogynists are furthermore in favor of placing, or if need be, forcing women into roles where they are downtrodden, powerless, and unheard. Most of these people despise having to compete with women in the workplace or other settings.
Do Misogynists Hate All Women Or Certain Women?
Despite the general definition of misogyny, there are still ongoing debates regarding whether misogynists truly hate all women as a whole or simply detest women who do conform to certain standards and behave as they (misogynists) believe women should. Further reports from Psychology Today cite that a true misogynist has disdain for women who conduct themselves in manners that the latter disagrees with.
For example, the majority of misogynists believe that women have a certain "place" in the society and the world. Nine times out of ten, this "place" entails working within in the home as a housewife or homemaker and limiting one's work to having babies, cooking, cleaning, etc. In most cases, a misogynist will not express anger or hostility towards women who fall into the categories above. After all, they are behaving as the misogynist believes they should.
However, the disposition of a misogynistic individual is guaranteed to change towards women who defy the preceding expectations and choose not to conform. For instance, misogynists are most likely to despise and openly express their despisement of women who are outspoken, career-oriented, or averse to having children. Granted, there are always exceptions, but in virtually every case, misogynists follow certain patterns, behaviors, and ways of thinking, especially regarding women.
Signs Of A Misogynistic Individual
Upon reading the above information about misogyny, one might believe that spotting a misogynistic individual can be done with ease. However, Romper states that detecting misogyny is not always as easy as one might think, especially in the beginning. Thankfully, there are some telltale signs that each person can remain on the outlook for.
Notable Charm…At First
Contrary to popular belief, a misogynistic will often exude charm during initial interactions. In most cases, they are hoping and counting on a woman having her guard down. To facilitate this, a misogynist may flirt, offer compliments, and display charisma. However, like all things, eventually, a misogynist will eventually reveal they're true colors. Flirtations become aloofness, compliments morph into insults, and charisma turns into disdain. This is not to say that all charming individuals will turn out to be misogynists. However, the majority of misogynistic persons are charming and charismatic throughout initial interactions.
Declarations Of Love/Support For Women In General
Like most bad seeds, misogynists often attempt to hide their true nature, at least in the beginning. Sometimes this takes place in the form of charm or charisma, other times it could manifest as vocalizations of strong support for women. A misogynist may claim to be a feminist, frequently discuss how great and powerful he thinks women are, or even go as far as saying that women are innately better than men.
Of course, in these cases, the misogynist is making the classic mistake of attempting to overcompensate for their shortcomings. Granted, many men do truly love, cherish, and respect women; however, over the top, 'pro-woman' declarations can be indicative of more sinister beliefs lurking beneath the surface.
Nine times out of ten, a misogynistic person is not going to reveal they're true colors in the beginning. So while charm and seeming adoration of women may seem apparent, eventually these facades will fade. One of the first signs of a misogynist's true colors coming to the surface is mood swings.
A misogynist may be sensitive and caring in one instance, only to turn cold and different in the next moment. There can be other reasons for mood swings, such as mental illness. However, rapid and drastic signs of behavior and emotions towards women is a dead ringer for misogyny rearing its ugly head.
Extreme Views And Gender Expectations
As alluded to earlier, most misogynists have absolute views on gender and how women should behave and conduct themselves. The expectations above and views include women in subservient and serving positions. Most misogynists also believe that men should be aggressive, bold, and dominant, while women ought to be feeble, meek, and submissive.
Misogynists can furthermore become very angry when women defy their expectations or conduct themselves in ways which clash with their archaic notions regarding gender. Individuals with misogynistic views may even go so far as to act out violently towards women who fail to behave as misogynists want them to.
Disregard For The Time And Value Of Women
At their core, misogynists view men as superior to women. This, therefore, leads to the belief that the time of women is not as important, critical, or valuable as the time of men. Therefore, a misogynist may frequently fail to exhibit punctuality or timeliness for meetings or gatherings with women. Conversely, said misogynist will always appear on time to confinement with men.
Moreover, when confronted by women about their lack of timeliness, misogynists may either brush it off, feign regret, or even lash out. Virtually everyone is late on occasion; however, if an individual frequently lacks punctuality when women are involved, it may be indicative of misogyny. The likelihood of such increases even more if other signs of misogyny are apparent as well.
Extreme Competitiveness And Preferential Treatment Towards Men
Misogynists are inherently egotistical individuals. Due to their contempt and disdain for women, they may be extremely competitive and showmen certain levels of respect which misogynists will not extend to women. For instance, misogynistic individuals will despise being bested, outsmarted, or otherwise outperformed by any woman at any time. While they may simply like to win and be number one on a general basis, their antagonism towards women who best them will far greater than towards men who commit the same "offense."
Due to a misogynist's lack of respect and care for women, they are very likely to treat women differently from the way they treat men. If a misogynist is in a position of professional power, this can get even worse. A misogynistic boss may give their male employees promotions for certain accomplishments while declining to even acknowledge women for an identical, similar, or even better achievement. A misogynistic employer may also let certain grievance slide with male workers, but reprimand or terminate female workers who commit the same grievance.
Can Women Be Misogynists?
Although misogynists are male, there are some cases and instances of female misogynists. This is clinically referred to as "internalized misogyny," cites Wikipedia. According to sociologist Michael Flood, internalized misogyny is the existence of misogyny within women. Misogynistic women will treat other women unfairly, distrust women, and favor men over women.
However, women who suffer from internalized misogyny are linked to mental health ailments such as eating disorders, depression, low self-esteem, and social isolation from women in general.
A Final Word
At its core, misogyny is a very dark and insidious force; it is not indicative of a healthy state of mind. There are many speculations regarding what causes misogyny. Some specialists have cited experience with abusive or neglectful female figures while believing that exposure to situations where women are mistreated can breed or harbor misogynistic leanings. Nevertheless, women who come into contact with misogynists are unlikely to have pleasant experiences, especially if contact is ongoing.
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