I Want To Stop Crying All The Time But Can’t
Updated December 02, 2019
Reviewer Christine Baker
Crying around others can be uncomfortable, especially as an adult. Society provides us with many negative messages about crying. In part, it may be that another person's inability to empathize makes them question other people's tears in situations where they would not cry. Some people interpret uncontrolled crying as a sign of manipulation, something intentional you are doing to get the outcome you want from a situation. This bias likely comes from being taught that crying can sometimes mean other things than what crying actually is, a natural response to overwhelming emotion. While crying is not something that we should teach people they need to be embarrassed by, there is definitely societal pressures to not get "too emotional," especially in certain situations. If you are someone who cries easily, this can add anxiety to situations and even limit you if you find yourself avoiding doing things because you might cry.
And it can be difficult to deal with when the people around you just keep telling you to stop crying. The truth is that some people cry more than others, and you may physically not be able to stop crying at the moment, even if you want to. If you find yourself crying all the time for inexplicable reasons, then it may be beneficial to take a closer look at why you keep shedding tears.
Believe it or not, you aren't alone. Some people cry when they watch a sad video or movie. Others cry at funerals. Certain people cry when there is any change of emotion for them at all. Essentially, crying is an emotional response that is usually associated with sadness or fear. How much crying is too much crying, though?
Why am I crying all the time?
Emotions are complex. They are affected by physiological changes, such as fluctuations in hormone levels. Tears are a normal response to strong emotions. In addition to physiologic changes, other issues may cause extreme emotional responses. A few examples include:
Lack of Sleep
Sleep has a purpose of restoration for our minds and bodies. Lack of sleep may create symptoms such as irritability, difficulty concentrating, poor judgment, and heightened emotions. Prolonged lack of sleep may cause excessive emotional responses and result in uncontrolled crying.
People who suffer from generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) tend to feel anxious for no apparent reason. Usually, the anxiety is caused by excessive worry over anticipated future events. Those who experience generalized anxiety disorder may exhibit exaggerated responses to stressors that other people may not find troubling. For example, one may worry about the possibility of getting stuck in traffic or being late for work even if it has never happened before. A person who suffers from anxiety may cry for no apparent reason.
Depression is a mood disorder that causes persistent feelings of sadness, usually lasting more than a few weeks. Feeling hopeless, gloomy, or fatigued are symptoms. When depression is present, the affected person may cry over the slightest thing or not be able to explain why they are crying.
Depression can affect emotion regulation. Excessive crying is one of the clinical criteria used to diagnose depression. Crying related to depression may get better if you seek treatment for your mental health issue.
When an individual experiences a stressful situation, the body's natural response to relieve that stress is to cry. While some stress is common if the symptoms persist it is important to seek help. This is because uncontrolled stress can lead to issues with physical health as well as emotional health.
Emotions are linked to several external factors. For example, the smell of freshly baked bread may bring the memory of childhood. Feeling the wind in your hair may remind you of a boat ride that you enjoyed with someone close to you. At times, these emotions can feel overwhelming and may cause one to cry.
When Is Crying Too Much?
While crying is a natural response, if it becomes excessive or uncontrollable talking with a professional may be in order. Visit with your primary care provider for a wellness exam, they will be able to monitor lab values and see if you have any hormonal imbalances that could be affecting your emotions. Further, talking with a counselor or therapist is one way to discuss your feelings and to learn coping strategies.
With increased awareness regarding mental health and well-being, resources for counseling are increased as well. Today, individuals who are interested in seeking the services of a counselor or therapist can choose the traditional route of in-person sessions in a physician or counselor's office. Some schools have in-house student counselors that offer services. Further still, a growing trend in the field of mental healthcare is online counseling.
While many people could benefit from the help of a counselor, not everyone feels as though they have the time, financial resources, and or the ability to open up to someone face-to-face. This is where online counseling may be a great option. Online counseling services, such as those provided by BetterHelp, offer a network of licensed mental health professionals to help clients navigate through life experiences. The platform is completely anonymous and you can access it from the comfort of your own home.
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Crying is a natural emotional response to times of sadness or stress. However, there may be times when crying occurs more than usual or when it feels uncontrollable. During times like these having effective coping mechanisms and knowing when to reach out for help is important. Take the first step.