12 Journal Prompts To Cope With Guilt And Grow As A Person

Medically reviewed by April Justice, LICSW
Updated April 29, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team

If you’ve ever felt a sense of dread or sadness after having acted against your morals or harming someone else, you may have experienced guilt—a common emotion that may arise from conflicting feelings about behavior. At times, guilt might make it seem like you’re carrying a heavy burden weighing on your mind and heart, and it might be difficult to shake. 

One potential way to process guilt is through journaling. Journaling involves writing down what you're thinking, feeling, or experiencing. In some ways, it may seem like talking to a friend who's always ready to listen and doesn't judge. Writing things down might help you understand your feelings better, gain a deeper look into yourself, and see your situation from a new perspective. If you’re interested in journaling but don’t know where to start, you can try using journal prompts, which are specific questions or statements meant to help you reflect. 

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Journaling as a coping mechanism

Journaling may offer numerous benefits when processing guilt. It can help individuals gain insight into their inner world and understand the underlying reasons behind their feelings of guilt. By writing about your guilt, you may be able to gain a clearer understanding of what's causing emotional pain for you. 

Journaling may also help you release emotions and improve overall well-being. It can act as a way to pour out your feelings to lighten the weight of guilt you might be carrying. This process of opening up to your journal may help you face your guilt head-on, accept the role you played in the situation, and potentially figure out ways to better the situation or learn from what happened.

Research also demonstrates the benefits of journaling. For instance, one study found that a form of journaling called positive affect journaling (PAJ) delivered online was associated with decreased mental distress and increased well-being.

Choosing the right journaling style

Different people may find different journaling styles more effective for coping with guilt. Some may prefer a more free-form journaling style, where they can freely express their thoughts and emotions without following specific prompts. Others may prefer a structured approach, using specific journal prompts to guide their writing and self-reflection. 

Consider a few approaches and find a journaling style that makes you comfortable. It's your journal, so let it work for you and your needs. Some researchers of expressive writing interventions have suggested that it may be helpful for individuals to “write about events in which they experienced guilt and a desire to make reparations” or how they could make corrections to prevent those types of events from happening in the future. 

Tips for improving your journaling

Journaling may be uncomfortable when you start, but there are several ways to help you maximize the benefits of journaling and better address your feelings, needs, and emotional growth. Below are four tips to get started. 

Acknowledge your emotions

While journaling, remind yourself that it is human to make mistakes and feel guilty at times. Acknowledging your humanity and treating yourself with kindness may make it easier to accept responsibility and learn from your experiences.

Be consistent

Make journaling a regular habit to ensure you're continually addressing your emotions and working through guilt. You can try to set aside time each day or week to write, even for a few minutes.

Take action

Use your journaling sessions to identify areas where you can make amends or change your behavior. With actionable steps, you may be more empowered to confront the guilt and move forward.

Use writing prompts

Writing prompts may help you guide your thoughts and explore your feelings more deeply. These prompts may help you focus on specific aspects of guilt and open your perspective for reflection. With these methods, your journaling may improve. After some time, you may find that journaling helps you manage guilt and meet your emotional needs. You can also use it alongside other methods, such as therapy and coping techniques. 

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12 journal prompts to cope with guilt

Journaling can be a powerful tool for processing feelings of guilt and finding ways to forgive oneself and move forward. Below are 12 journal prompts for diving into these emotions and working through guilt: 

  1. Reflect on a recent situation in which you felt guilty. What happened, and why did you feel guilty? Look at what you did and think about what happened because of it. Consider whether your guilt is justified or if you may be overly critical of yourself.
  2. Write about a time you unintentionally hurt someone. What was their reaction? How did your actions affect them? Think about if there was a way to avoid the situation and if you can do more to resolve it.
  3. Recall a situation where you knowingly let someone down. Describe your reasons for doing so and the outcome of your actions. How did your actions affect your relationship with the person involved? Write down ways in which you can make amends and rebuild trust.
  4. Think about a time you felt guilty because you didn't live up to what you expected of yourself. What were your expectations, and why couldn't you meet them? Were you perhaps pressuring yourself? Think about how you can set more reasonable expectations for yourself in the future.
  5. Write about a specific event in your past that caused you to feel guilty. Reflect on the event, why you feel remorseful, and how those feelings have affected your life. Consider the actionable steps you can take to work through the lingering guilt and how you might prevent a similar situation from happening again.
  6. Think of a time when you revealed a secret about someone you had promised to keep. Recall the situation, the person's reaction, and the consequences of the secret being exposed. Describe your feelings of guilt and how you coped with them.
  7. Describe a situation where you lied and were caught. Reflect on the consequences of your dishonesty and the feelings of guilt that followed. Write down the potential steps you can take to rebuild trust with anyone affected by your lie, and consider how it has impacted your commitment to honesty moving forward.
  8. Write about a time when you broke a promise to someone close to you. Why did you break the promise, and how did it affect your relationship with them? Analyze the guilt and disappointment you experienced and consider ways to rebuild trust and make amends.
  9. Reflect on an instance where you felt guilty for not standing up for someone who may have benefited from your help. Why didn't you help, and what was the effect on the person? Think about how you can stand up for others in the future.
  10. Think about a time when you spoke hurtfully to someone else that you later regretted. What prompted you to say what you said, and how did you feel afterward? How can you make amends with this person, and how can you stop yourself from saying similar statements in the future?
  11. Write about a time when you declined to help a friend or family member who reached out for support, even though you could help. Explain the reasons for not helping and how you felt afterward. What happened because of your inaction, how did you feel guilty, and how can you find a balance between taking care of yourself and being there for others in the future?
  12. Think of a situation where you lacked empathy for the feelings or needs of others. What happened, what was the impact of your lack of empathy on the people involved, and how did you feel guilty? Consider ways to become more empathetic and understanding in future interactions.
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Seeking professional help for guilt

While journaling can be helpful, guilt may be overwhelming or challenging to manage on your own. For additional support in coping with guilt, consider connecting with a licensed therapist in person or online. 

Some people may find that discussing their guilt with someone else in a face-to-face setting adds to the stress and discomfort of an already uncomfortable feeling. In these cases, online therapy through a platform like BetterHelp may be a helpful option, as it allows you to have therapy sessions wherever you have an internet connection, including in the comfort of your home. In addition, you can choose between phone, video, or live chat sessions with your therapist. 

A significant body of research has demonstrated that online therapy can be effective for various conditions and concerns, including those relating to guilt. For instance, a 2019 study investigated the efficacy of an online compassion-focused intervention for individuals with high self-criticism, and it found that the online intervention was effective in increasing self-compassion and reducing depressive and anxiety symptoms.

Takeaway

Journaling can be a helpful way to cope with guilt and other challenging emotions. For guidance, individuals can use journaling prompts to help them explore their thoughts, feelings, and actions and better understand why they're feeling guilty and how they might be able to adjust their behavior moving forward. For example, you could reflect on a time you said something hurtful, why you felt guilty, what the consequences were, how you can make amends, and how you can avoid being unkind in the future. While journaling can be a valuable tool, sometimes feelings of guilt are too much to manage on your own. You can connect with a licensed therapist online or in your area for additional support.
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