How To Stop Blaming Others: Start Making Positive Changes In Your Life

Updated July 25, 2022 by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Sometimes life isn’t going to go the way that you want it to. Everyone encounters setbacks in life and it’s normal to fail a certain amount of times before you can succeed. However, there are people who blame others instead of taking responsibility for their shortcomings. Playing the blame game isn’t actually going to help you in any way, though. If you’re in the habit of blaming others, then it’s going to be beneficial to make positive changes in your life. You can turn your life around and start becoming the successful individual that you have always wanted to be. It might take time to make these positive life changes, but it’s definitely going to be worthwhile.

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Educate Yourself

One of the first things that you should do to stop blaming others is to educate yourself. Your mistakes or shortcomings might stem from a lack of education when it comes to certain topics. Some people blame others when they don’t do well in school. You could try to use the blame game to cover up for inadequacies, but this doesn’t do you any good. It’s actually much healthier to try to dig deep and start educating yourself so that you can improve. You shouldn’t be ashamed of doing bad in the past if you’re willing to step up and do better.

It can be very beneficial to take the time to learn more about various topics. This advice doesn’t just apply to people who are in school. Educating yourself and gaining more knowledge is a lifelong process. There will always be new things to learn and you can keep on getting better at whatever it is that you do. Whether you’re trying to learn new techniques to be better at your job or if you just want to pursue knowledge as a hobby, it’s going to be beneficial. You can stop blaming others and become better at various things through your own efforts.

Start Working Harder

Have you been passed up for promotion several times in your company? Maybe you’ve been stuck in an entry-level job for years and you blame others for your life situation. It’s true that extenuating circumstances can hold people back in life sometimes, but it’s also possible to take control of your life and work harder. Instead of playing the blame game, it would be more productive to just try to work hard to achieve your goals. Whatever you want to do in life is going to be easier if you put a lot of effort into it. Working hard to achieve a goal makes it much more likely that your goal will become attainable.

Putting in hard work isn’t always easy. It’s a lot simpler to blame others and you might sometimes be tempted to play the blame game. Don’t let yourself fall into bad habits and stop blaming others for shortcomings. Believe in yourself and know that if you try your hardest that great things are possible. The blame game will seem like a thing of the past when you’ve worked hard and attained the success that you have always dreamed of. If you have the time to start playing the blame game, then you should know that this time is better spent doing something productive. Change your ways and your life will improve.

Dedicate Yourself To Exercise

Another area where many people struggle is with physical health. You might not be in the best shape right now and you might even feel like this is holding you back in life. Don’t blame others for your current physical condition. If you avoid the blame game and dedicate yourself to working hard, then your physique can change. It isn’t easy to get into good shape and some people will struggle more than others due to medical conditions or other situations. Regardless, dedicating yourself to exercise will be a positive thing and it’ll change your life for the better.

Getting into good shape is a process and it takes time to start seeing results. You actually shouldn’t worry so much about the results and should think of this as a permanent lifestyle change. It isn’t necessarily about getting six-pack abs or anything like that. Those things can happen when you put in the work, but it’s about committing to the process of exercising consistently. Try to come up with an exercise routine that works for you and you’ll be able to get in better shape over time.

Remember that it’s a good idea to talk to your doctor before starting a new exercise routine. Some people might need help with coming up with exercises that are appropriate. You could have medical conditions that make some exercises more dangerous than others. If you speak to your doctor and get your exercise routine approved, then that will be a good way to move forward with confidence. You can let your doctor know that you’re trying to get out of the habit of using the blame game as an excuse and they will likely be very supportive of your positive life decision.

Make Changes To Your Diet

Changes to your diet can also be very positive and they will help you to stop blaming others for certain issues in your life. Weight problems can be very problematic and they can actually cause people to develop mental health issues, too. Know that your struggle with diet does not make you unusual and that many people are going through the same thing. Even so, it’s going to be best to take responsibility for your diet problems and make the necessary changes. Coming up with a solid diet that will meet your nutritional needs while helping you to stay at a healthy weight will be perfect. Sometimes it’s tough to come up with a good plan on your own and it might be worth reaching out to professionals.

If you don’t know much about what you should be eating, then it might be helpful to speak to a nutritionist. Your doctor might be able to connect you with a nutritionist who can speak with you about diet changes. Sometimes doctors will also have ample advice for what you should be doing given your medical history. It might be appropriate to cut out some foods completely while learning to appreciate others that you haven’t been eating much. Work with your doctor and consider contacting a nutritionist if you need assistance.

Those who might be experiencing eating disorders could use more help than this. For some people, getting on track is going to involve more than just going on a diet or changing out certain foods. If you or someone you love is struggling with an eating disorder, then please reach out for help. Doctors and therapists can work extensively with those who are struggling and will be able to come up with solutions. You don’t have to face this alone and your problems might not be a simple case of playing the blame game. Support is available and you can reach out whenever you are ready.

Find Hobbies That Enrich Your Life

Hobbies can also be very good for helping you to live a more positive life. You might be in the habit of blaming others for being bored or not having anything to do. Taking control of your life and learning that it’s up to you to figure out how to enjoy life makes sense. Certain hobbies can even help you to feel more fulfilled as a person. For instance, many people decide to learn how to play music and it opens up new doors for them. Others might be interested in playing sports or learning some type of craft. These hobbies can become important parts of your life that will make you feel better about things.

You can stop blaming others for how you’re feeling and just enjoy life. Your happiness doesn’t have to be tied to other people and you can find things that speak to you. Consider what types of things you enjoy and then find a hobby that makes sense for your situation. There are so many possibilities that it shouldn’t be hard to find a hobby that will work. You’ll be ready to stop blaming others and you’ll be more focused on enjoying life again. This is good for people who are struggling with feeling fulfilled and also those who play the blame game for social issues.

Stop Fearing Mistakes

For many people, playing the blame game starts because they don’t know how to deal with failure. Everyone makes mistakes in life and some of your choices will likely cause you to fail. Your first reaction when you fail at something shouldn’t be to find a scapegoat. Saying things like “I only failed because of someone else” will not do you any good. This is just passing the buck and playing the blame game is detrimental to your personal growth. The most successful individuals in the world have all learned to deal with failure and they no longer fear to make mistakes.

Mistakes and failure can actually be very good teachers. You might have heard that you can learn more from failure than you ever will from success. This doesn’t mean that you should want to fail, but it does mean that you can use your failures to inform your future success. You can’t learn from your mistakes if you don’t have the strength to acknowledge them, though. If you blame others and distance yourself from your failures, then you’ll be stuck in the same rut forever without ever having learned anything of value. Luckily, you can get out of this cycle and start owning up to your actions. Don’t let the fear of failure keep you from trying things and never play the blame game when you should be learning from what went wrong.

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Consider Therapy if You Need More Help

Some people are going to have a tougher time than others when it comes to this issue. If you’re having difficulties and you can’t seem to stop blaming others for your problems, then you might need to talk to someone. A therapist can work with you to help you come to terms with your situation. It can take time to acknowledge what is going wrong in your life, but you’ll be able to enjoy the support of a dedicated therapist if you reach out.

Some people decide to reach out to online therapists because they find it to be more convenient. Online therapy allows people to get help without having to leave home and it’s very discreet. It’s an affordable option that appeals to many people. Both in-person therapy and online therapy will be a good solution if you need to talk to someone about what is going on in your life. You never have to try to deal with things alone and support is readily available.

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