Be True To Yourself: How To Be Cold Hearted

By Toni Hoy

Updated February 04, 2019

Reviewer Laura Angers

Improving Your Self-Care Techniques:

Choosing to focus on caring for yourself is not something that you should hesitate about. Somehow, it has come to a time where concentrating energy on yourself is regarded as a selfish attitude as if it shows a lack of consideration for those around you. Life is short, and it's important to make the most of the time that you have so that you can tune in to your passions, goals, and dreams. Self-care, defined as any necessary human maintenance function that is deliberate and under personal control, is something that we need to practice in order to function well and feel our best. Everyone with a busy schedule knows how these acts can come to be habitually overlooked or misinterpreted as a treat or privilege. By learning how to be cold-hearted, you can begin to shape your life in ways that are best for you.


Sometimes History Isn't a Good Thing:

Loved ones can be the worst for eroding our mental health or emotional well-being, as they know us best. Even if they don't mean to, they can use this intimacy against us. They sometimes can't help but ooze their negativity into every interaction, unknowingly transferring it to those around them. Breaking away or distancing yourself from family or friends may not be what we want at the moment, but recognizing an emotional vampire can be easy once you open your eyes. Cutting these people out may make a bigger difference than you think. Just because you've known someone for years doesn't mean that they have a healthy influence in your life.

How to Be Cold Hearted:


Sometimes you'll have to cut people out of your life to do what's best for yourself, which may come off as being cold-hearted. When your nose is to the grindstone working towards your goals or making ends meet, it isn't uncommon for people to fail to keep up with taking care of themselves. We may build up a tolerance for discomfort which can end up with you feeling poorly rounded or out of control.

Many people fall into the familiar cycle of running themselves too thin until they reach a burnout period, where they begin to take care of themselves again until things get busy and the cycle simply repeats itself. Making time for physical activity, quality time alone, and for extracurricular activities outside of the workplace is important. What's the point of busting your way through life if you're miserable and not taking care of yourself? You need to find what balance of social time and alone time is best for you, and how you can make this a priority in your existing schedule.

Opening Up Can Help:


Opening up and talking to someone about what is going on in your head helps to make sense of the things that you are worried about. Talking out loud can often make things seem less scary and seem less confusing. Deciding who you want to open up to is important. You need to trust who it is your opening up to and make sure that they are a trained professional who can give you sound advice.

Whether it be cost or insurance barriers, finding a therapist with a sympathetic ideology, or being near practitioners, there can be several hurdles in getting effective mental health care. Online interfaces like BetterHelp serve to connect you with the advice that you need, remotely and affordable. Our society has boxed people into believing that certain careers, forms of relationships, and other norms that we live by are the only possible ways in which to act. Being psychologically healthy means being honest with yourself and open to the possibilities that life can offer.

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