12 Fun Facts About Love And How It Can Affect You

Updated October 08, 2021
Medically Reviewed By: Rashonda Douthit , LCSW

If you're in love, it probably feels like nothing could ever be better, right? If you're just starting, you probably think your partner is the best person in the world and that the two of you could never have a bad moment. If you've been in it a little longer, you probably realize that there are going to be good and bad times, but that doesn't mean you don't love them. It just means you might have to work a little harder at your relationship sometimes. But maybe you're curious about love in general, so let's take a look at some interesting facts about love.

12 Facts About Love

  1. The ancient Greeks believed there were seven types of love. These included different types for platonic love (philia), familial love (storge), unconditional love (agape), enduring love (pragma), passionate love (eros), self-love (philautia), and playful love (ludus). Each one described a different way that you might feel about someone, and defined what those different types of love mean. There are different levels of emotional connections entwined throughout these types of love, and they may occur over a long period or a short one. It all depends on the individual.

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2. In modern day, we consider there to be five different love languages. These languages, popularized by the book by Gary Chapman, discuss different ways that people feel love and show love. These include acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, and gift giving. Each person has a different love language and finding out your partner's love language is the best way to show your love for them. Knowing your partner's love language means that you know what means the most to them.

3. Did you know that love can make you healthier? Research shows that humans are meant to be in companionship. We're meant to have people around us, whether family or friends or a significant other that we can love and spend time with. These things make you happier, releasing specific chemicals in your brain that help to improve your overall health. So, when you love someone, you're improving your own life in more ways than you might think, and you're more likely to live longer than someone who doesn't feel that type of love.

4. Animals are monogamous in many instances, too. Several different species mate for life, just like we do (or try to). These animals include otters, wolves, seahorses, barn owls, and beavers, and each of them will find a single partner to stay with. While we tend to see much about lions and other animals that don't stay with only one partner, these animals find it just as important and must feel some version of love in a similar way to what we do to remain together all those years.

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5. Here's a really interesting one. When you stare into someone's eyes, it causes your heartbeats to sync. Now, this doesn't happen with just anyone, but when you stare into the eyes of your partner, it has been known to happen. Researchers have even been able to replicate this by having couples stare into their partner's eyes for a full 3 minutes. After this time, they checked their heart rate and found it to be nearly the same. The idea is that because of the level of physical and emotional connection that the two of you have, this can happen.

6. If you suffer from pain, it can help if you are in love. That's because studies show that when you are happy and in love, such as those warm fuzzies that we all talk about, it impacts your brain. The result is a feeling that's very much like what a painkiller will do for you. Of course, this doesn't work on all types of pain, and it's not going to eliminate all of your problems, but it's interesting to consider.

7. Being in love helps you with several different aspects of your health. For one thing, it can help with pain, as we already mentioned. For another, it can help with blood pressure, decreasing your numbers. It also helps you to heal better and faster, as well as cutting down on your trips to the doctor. In fact, research has even found that those who get married have shorter hospital stays as well. That means those who have health problems are more likely to overcome them faster and to be healthy again because these individuals are getting health benefits from being in groups.

8. You'll find out how you feel about someone within the first four minutes. And if that seems fast, you should know that most of what you're going to find out is based on their body language. In fact, we derive a lot of what we think or know about a person from their body language, even after we've known them for a long time. In that first experience, approximately 55% of what we find out about someone and our initial impression of them comes from what their body language tells us.

9. The love that you feel is something that evolved within us. What researchers have determined is that it activates different parts of the brain, making you more attracted to specific people. Women tend to be more driven by behavior and memory, whereas men tend to be more driven by visual aspects of a woman.

10. Falling in and out of love is a lot like an addiction. When you fall in love, it releases a number of the same chemicals within your brain (and can affect your brain in much the same way) as would be released if you were to take drugs. On the other hand, when you are falling out of love, it will feel a lot like trying to overcome drug addiction. That means you could experience actual, physical pain, as well as the release of negative chemicals within your brain, affecting the way you can overcome the feelings.

11. People tend to be more attracted to those who are similar but not too similar to them. We all hear that opposites attract but that's not necessarily true. On the opposite side of things, someone too similar to you may also be a problem for you. Rather, can be important that you find someone who is a good balance between being like you and being different. This gives you and your partner things to do together, but you can also have things to do on your own as well.

12. The triangular theory of love says that there are three different types of love that you can create, depending on the different qualities that are joined together. Romantic love is a combination of passion and intimacy. On the other hand, companionate love is the combination of intimacy and commitment. Finally, fatuous love is a combination of passion and commitment. If you're looking for the strongest form of love, however, you'll want passion, commitment, and intimacy all combined. This will give you the love that you're looking for in a partner and the type of love that's designed to last for the rest of your lives.

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Navigating Love With Online Therapy

With online therapy through BetterHelp, you can participate in counseling from the comfort of your home, via videoconferencing, messaging, voice call, or live chat. The qualified therapists at BetterHelp can help you give and receive love in a healthy manner. Read below for counselor reviews, from those who have been helped in the past.

Counselor Reviews

“Stephanie is a gem! She's very thoughtful, thorough, honest, insightful but most of all helpful. This is coming from a person that never wanted to do counseling and just "knew" I didn't need it. She's been key in helping my wife and I find our better place. She made us grow as a couple and individually. Thanks Steph!”

“Mark has been extremely attentive to everything that I disclose. He’s not only provided me support but insight and encouragement to let me know I’m on a good path to self improvement and discovery. Furthermore, Mark has provided me valuable insight on my romantic relationship, specifically with learning more about the relationship dynamics and how to build a stronger, healthier relationship.”

Conclusion

No matter what you've been experiencing or feeling about love, it's extremely important that you carry it out in a healthy way. Healthy love is going to be a happy experience for you and the person you are in love with. Unhealthy forms of love can be counterintuitive for everyone involved. That's why you should seek out professional help if you find that you struggle with forming healthy attachments or creating a healthy relationship with someone in your life. Whether you're struggling with relationships with family, your romantic (or potentially romantic) partner, your children, or even your friends, you'll want to work with a professional to find out more.

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