Six Ways To Show Love For Your Husband

When we think of love, most people think of romantic love, often visualizing a marriage between a husband and a wife.  For this article, we will define marriage: marriage is the formal, legal union between a man and a woman. We understand there are other marriages, but here we are exploring specifically what men (husbands) desire from a woman in a relationship.

There are many ways to show love to your husband, but they likely differ from the wife’s preferences.

For the woman, a romantic gift idea often includes things like flowers, chocolates, coffee, a date night, seeing a movie, dinner, and dancing. But many husbands don’t necessarily feel loved in the same way through these activities, even if they would make a fun gift for a wife. So, what are some creative ways a wife can show her loving feelings to her spouse?

Ways to show your husband that you love him

Tell him

This seems obvious, but many people struggle with actually expressing their feelings to their spouse. Tell your husband that you love him and then tell him something he does that you love. You could also write your feelings down or note the little things that he does to make you laugh or smile. Maybe you love that he is in good shape, or that he is great with the kids, by talking about these things with him it shows that you care and makes him feel good. Valentine’s Day is a popular time to write a note and express how much you love your husband.

Touch him

Many men thrive on the physical connection and physical touch. This doesn’t just mean sexual touch or having sex and touch can happen with your clothes on. Physical touch can turn a bad mood around quickly and is an easy way to make him smile without additional cost. While you sit together watching TV, show your husband love by taking the time to rub his neck or shoulders, for example. Kiss him just because or place your hand on him as you walk by him in the house. If you want, make an effort to initiate sex. Show him that you want him and don’t always wait for him to make the first move, you may wear something more sexy than usual, or lead him to your bed. Women often want to feel loved by their spouse before having sex, but many husbands feel loved by their spouse when having sex.

While touch is a great way to show love for your husband, it is important to initiate touch at the right time. There are some places, like at work, where it may be the wrong time to show love through touch. This doesn’t mean you cannot touch him at all during the day, it just means to watch out for others and make a point to ensure they do not feel uncomfortable.

Spend quality time doing what he likes to do

Sometimes actions speak louder than words, and nothing says “I love my husband” more loud and clear when you take time to enter his world and have fun with him. Find an interest that he has, and take some time to do this activity with him. For example, if he likes hiking, surprise him by offering to go on a hike with him. Have him take you on one of his favorite trails. Once you show this willingness to enter his personal life outside your marriage, you can introduce your husband to your own list of things or ideas that you are passionate about as well and encourage him to try some of your passions. Scheduling a regular date night is popular in healthy marriages and popular date ideas include, a meal at a restaurant, listening to live music, going out dancing, a picnic in a park, visiting a museum or aquarium, sporting activities such as fishing, golf, hiking, ice skating, and so on, attending a trivia or karaoke night at a local bar, or attending the opera, ballet, or theater. 

This concept can be applied to any area and there are more ways to show that you love your husband than are listed here. All you need to do is find out what he likes, do a little research, and then show your husband love by making time to participate in it or talk about it with him.

Ways to show others you love your husband

Build him up

While we all have conversations with close friends about the things that annoy us and our spouse’s annoying habits, balance this out with recognition of his strengths. This balanced approach will often increase your appreciation of him. When you show interest in your husband in social settings, he may appreciate it.

Connect with his family

In-law relationships can be challenging. But, one great way to show that you love your husband is to make a real effort with his family. Learn about them, listen to them, offer to help them, and invite them over for dinner. These activities will help show his family how much you love your spouse and show him the same thing.

Establish healthy boundaries

When you are married – and in life in general – it’s important to establish healthy boundaries. You can choose the boundaries that make sense for you and your marriage. Agreeing with both of your boundaries shows mutual love and respect for one another. Healthy boundaries are not barriers, they are a technique to show your husband how much you love him through respect for self, family, and others.

A better connection through online therapy

There is a growing body of evidence showing that online therapy can help those couples who are having trouble maintaining a positive connection in their marriage or relationship. One such study, published in the American Journal of Family Therapy, found that there are several benefits made possible by online therapy, including greater convenience, lower costs, and greater discretion. Utilizing these platforms, mental health professionals guide couples through useful activities meant to help the individuals better understand the emotions and behaviors underlying their interactions.

If you are having trouble showing love to your husband, or simply want to strengthen an already solid bond in your marriage, online therapy can be a valuable tool. In some cases it may be beneficial to see a family therapist if there are broader family challenges to be resolved.

With online therapy through BetterHelp, you’ll be able to schedule sessions and talk to your therapist on your own time—no more coordinating with your therapist weeks or months ahead of time, or missing work to make an appointment. The qualified experts at BetterHelp can help you and your husband better express your love for each other and forge a healthier marriage. Read below for counselor reviews, from those who have experienced similar issues.