10 Things Every INFJ Personality Type Should Know
“INFJ” is one of the Myers–Briggs Type Indicator personality types, which experts believe to be an “adequately reliable self-report inventory.” INFJ stands for Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging. As an introverted person, an INFJ often feels best when spending time alone. People with this personality type are intuitive, as they tend to focus more on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details. INFJs usually make decisions based on values and feelings. People with this personality are generally not spontaneous; instead, they like planning and staying organized. INFJ is among the rarest personality types of the 16 Myers–Briggs types.
INFJs are known to be motivated, creative, and imaginative. They generally do not like living a pretentious life and enjoy being accepted for who they are. INFJs are sometimes referred to as advocates, as they often have a high sense of morality and idealism.
INFJs are most often soft-spoken, strong-willed, or highly opinionated, and they fight for what they believe is right. It is difficult for an INFJ to use their strong-willed nature for their gain; rather, they prefer to use that energy to bring about balance in situations.
Let's take a look at a few things worth knowing about INFJs.
- INFJs Are Introverted And At The Same Time Extroverted
There are times when INFJs want to be around people (although not typically for long periods of time). In fact, most friends and acquaintances of INFJs know them as extroverted and sociable individuals. People in such friendships may get confused because, at times, INFJs become overwhelmed and withdraw from people. INFJs are selective when it comes to choosing their real friends.
- INFJs Like Helping People
People with an INFJ personality like helping others and making the world a better place. Although they can be strong-willed and decisive, INFJs do not use those qualities for personal gain. Instead, they use it to help others. When people are in trouble, INFJs like providing thoughtful advice rather than telling them what they should do. Most INFJs see helping other people as their main purpose in life. INFJs enjoy participating in charities and non-governmental organizations. They genuinely care about people's welfare.
- INFJs Love Meaningful Conversations
INFJs dislike small talk and prefer deep, meaningful conversations. Although they can sometimes be extroverted, INFJs are largely introverted by nature. Engaging in small talk does not help one learn significant things about others, which is why INFJs don't favor this type of communication.
Rather, INFJs like to know about others’ inner worlds and talk about more significant life issues. They make great conversationalists and can easily read people; as a result, they can strongly feel others' feelings. They are very empathetic and can usually feel the pain or the joy that others feel. This leads them to "take on" the problems of the world in many cases. Some people who consider themselves INFJs may seek the help of a professional counselor who can assist them in meeting their own needs instead of constantly “people-pleasing.”
- INFJs Are Creative
INFJs tend to be creative and imaginative. They enjoy finding solutions in all aspects of life, and their imagination can help them see a deeper meaning in many things. INFJs are passionate about using their creativity to help others too. Their intuitive nature allows them to express their creativity, especially in writing and the arts. They have an excellent ability to bring out their intuition to the external world, perhaps making them successful in careers as writers, artists, and counselors. INFJ’s are also good at offering advice to people because they can comfortably come up with different ways of solving the same problem.
- INFJs Are Determined And Passionate
When INFJs believe that something is of value, they often pursue it with much conviction. They tend to be quiet but have an intense passion for anything that is important to them. Sometimes their conviction can be perceived as being stubborn. In these cases, their resolve does not always work to their advantage and instead may be a liability. In certain situations, such as in conflicts or when confronting troubling facts, an INFJ’s determination and passion may pose a challenge.
- INFJs Enjoy Their Privacy
There are days when INFJs just “shut off” and do not want to be disturbed. The reason for withdrawing is not that they are anti-social; rather, it is because they like recharging their energy by spending time by themselves. Time alone can help them clear their heads. It can be hard for a person with an INFJ personality to open up, even to their close friends. Although it is not hard for them to make friends, trusting new friends is often difficult.
- INFJs Are Highly Intuitive
Their intuition is very strong, almost as if they have a sixth sense. This trait is a result of their ability to detect patterns in different scenarios and connect the dots to draw conclusions.
Those with INFJ personality traits can sometimes sense that something seems wrong, and in those circumstances may find it useful to listen to their inner voices. Because of strong intuitions, INFJ’s trust their instincts quite a bit and, as a result, they are likely to ignore the opinions of others, which may cause conflict.
- Preferred INFJs Careers
INFJs are referred to as the advocate or the counselor. Because they are creative, intuitive, and empathetic, INFJs are often in careers well suited for introverts. They are dedicated workers, but they prefer working behind the scenes. However, when requested to lead, they do so successfully. INFJs prefer jobs that have a peaceful working environment. Most INFJ personality types are likely to be found in careers that contribute to the wellbeing of society. They are dedicated and helpful workers who can carry out complex projects in organizations focused on humanitarian causes.
INFJs may consider pursuing a career that is consistent with their values in the counseling or healthcare sector. Roles such as doctors, spiritual roles, counselors, and psychologists are attractive options. Their creative minds help them in the engineering and science fields too. People with this personality type may change their career many times until they find the path that best accommodates their values.
- INFJs Like To Plan Ahead And Are Organized
INFJs tend to dislike spontaneity and enjoy when things are well planned and organized. INFJs are highly organized people and likely to use day planners to guide their activities and tasks. INFJs can be idealists and place much significance on the future. When an INFJ decides to do something, they can generally be counted on to complete the job. A tendency to plan everything helps INFJs track their progress in achieving goals.
- INFJs Have a Strong Sense of Emotions
People with an INFJ personality type have a strong sense of emotions. They are often empathetic toward others, and, at times, can neglect their own feelings. INFJs have the natural ability to understand others’ emotions and they can sometimes sense the feelings of those around them. They can notice even the slightest change in other people's moods, and are likely to know when something is wrong.
People with an INFJ personality type can handle intense emotions quite well without getting frustrated. However, INFJs are likely to become people-pleasers, and selfish individuals may misuse them.
Therapy Can Help You Learn More About Yourself
Do you have an INFJ personality type? If you can relate to most of the above traits, then there's a good chance that you are an INFJ. To find out more about your personality type and how it impacts your relationships with others, you may consider speaking with a therapist.
Therapy has been proven to help patients work through self-esteem, self-worth, and relationship challenges as well as other life experiences, and new research finds that internet-delivered therapy is an effective option. It can also help you better understand yourself.
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INFJs are complex, multi-faceted individuals with many positive traits. Known as advocates, this personality type is compelled to help others. If you’re an INFJ who would like to learn more about your personality traits and patterns, therapy can help.