ENFJ Personality Type: The Protagonist
Updated December 14, 2018
Reviewer Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC
In the 1940's two remarkable women, Katherine Briggs and her daughter, Isabel Myers, developed a personality test known as MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator). The purpose of the MBTI is to discover what your personality type is and to use that knowledge to achieve a happy and prosperous life. Knowing your personality type opens the door to the deep self-understanding that will motivate you to enhance your strengths and learn to overcome your weaknesses. Your personal growth, relationships, and career are much more likely to be successful and happy if you have a deep understanding of why you do the things you do and think the way you think.
The 16 Personality Types
Myers-Briggs identifies 4 major personality types, each divided into 4 sub-types.
Analysts: architect (INTJ), logician (INTP), commander (ENTJ), debater (ENTP).
Diplomats: advocate (INFJ), mediator (INFP), protagonist (ENFJ), campaigner (ENFP).
Sentinels: logistician (ISTJ), defender (ISFJ), executive (ESTJ), consul (ESFJ).
Explorers: virtuoso (ISTP), adventurer (ISFP), entrepreneur (ESTP), entertainer (ESFP).
In this advice series, we're exploring each one of these personality types.
Overview Of The ENFJ Or Protagonist Personality Type
ENFJ is the abbreviation for extraversion, intuition, feeling, and judgment.
Extraversion: ENFJ's are motivated by interacting with people. They're sociable and generally have a wide circle of acquaintances. Social events energize the ENFJ personality type. ENFJ's listen to others before making decisions and enjoy the approval of others.
Intuition: ENFJ's focus on the big picture and future possibilities; they tend to pay less attention to detail and the current situation. ENFJ personality types are creative and abstract thinkers.
Feeling: ENFJ's take into account personal considerations and the feelings of others before making decisions. ENFJ personality types attach importance to the social implications when making a decision, instead of using cold logic.
Judgment: ENFJ's are planners and quick decision-makers. The ENFJ personality type likes predictability so that they can plan and control situations.
ENFJ personality types are extroverted and sensitive to the feelings and needs of others. The dominant characteristic of the ENFJ personality type is their genuine desire to make the world a better place. ENFJ's look for harmony in relationships and broader social groups. When ENFJ's claim that they're tough-minded and logical you can bet it's because those are the values of their environment. Sharing the values of their social group creates the harmony that the ENFJ personality type craves in all situations. ENFJ's are warm and charming; they're also charismatic and can be very talkative. They excel in the social arena, and people love to be in the company of ENFJ personality types because they're fun and have a good sense of humor. ENFJ's are excellent leaders.
ENFJ's make up between one and five percent of the population.
ENFJ's Are Insightful
ENFJ personality types have a talent for reading others quickly, and they easily establish rapport with all sorts of different personality types. Their gift is to assess someone they've just met, and then to take on their emotions, expressions, and body language.
ENFJ's Have Social Intelligence
Social interaction energizes the ENFJ personality type. They're formidable networkers and generally have a wide circle of friends and social connections.
ENFJ's Are Persuasive
ENFJ's use their charm and charisma to easily persuade others to their way of thinking. ENFJ personality types are hard to resist, and ENFJ's need to be careful of using their formidable powers of persuasion to manipulate others to achieve their goals.
ENFJ's Are Leaders
ENFJ personality types are passionate about making the world a better place. Their biggest joy is to inspire others to go along with them to improve the world. ENFJ's are confident and fearless when it comes to speaking their minds about social injustice, and their charisma and genuine desire to help others to a better life can influence millions. Martin Luther King Jnr. And Barack Obama is ENFJ personality types.
ENFJ's Have People Skills
ENFJ's are undoubtedly the personality type with the best people skills. The ENFJ personality type genuinely understands and cares about people, and they bring out the best in others. They love and support others; they want others to have good and happy lives, and they often make it happen. Nothing gives the ENFJ personality type more satisfaction than improving the lives of others.
ENFJ's And Career Options
ENFJ's make excellent teachers, counselors, and ministers; the ENFJ personality type is successful in any career that allows them to improve the lives of others. Because ENFJ's are also one of the creative personality types, they have many career choices that will satisfy them.
ENFJ's And Relationships
ENFJ personality types are dedicated and committed partners. They put a great deal of time and effort into making their relationships work, and bring out the best in their partners. ENFJ's may constantly ask their partners if they're okay and how they're feeling, which some may find a bit smothering, but the ENFJ genuinely wants to know so that they can maintain a happy and healthy relationship. The right partner will find the ENFJ personality type warm, loving and fun to be with.
ENFJ's can be over-protective of their children and may involve themselves in every aspect of their lives. As an ENFJ's children reach puberty, they may resent this, wanting to have more freedom and less intense supervision. The ENFJ personality type can also be quite strict with their children, but always with the intention of bringing out the best in them. Children of the ENFJ personality type generally describe an ENFJ parent as warm and supportive, although a bit strict.
The single biggest relationship problem ENFJ personality types may have is their deep dislike of conflict. ENFJ's will agree to something they don't agree with, or ignore a serious issue, or give in and back down, rather than have a confrontation. This can cause severe problems as ENFJ personality types have strong ideals and values, and backing down on an issue that is important to them will only cause further conflict down the road.
ENFJ's understand other people's feelings and motives better than any other personality type.
ENFJ's are inspiring and charismatic verbal communicators. ENFJ personality types have the talent to motivate and persuade others to help them make the world a better place.
ENFJ's are altruistic and generous. ENFJ personality types put the needs of others before their own, and when someone needs help, they are sure to be there.
ENFJ's are warmhearted and don't hesitate to show affection and admiration for others.
ENFJ's are fun. ENFJ personality types have a great sense of humor, and people love to be around them.
ENFJ's are team-players; they build strong teams and maintain them to reach their ultimate goal.
ENFJ's are loyal and committed. Anyone who is loyal and committed to an ENFJ personality type will be rewarded in kind.
ENFJ's are excellent leaders. Their followers admire and support them, and are inspired to help ENFJ personality types reach their goals.
ENFJ's can be rigid and unbending. The ENFJ personality type is idealistic and struggles to understand why others may have different ideas.
ENFJ's may be oversensitive and so hard on themselves that they don't function at their best. ENFJ personality types blame themselves when things go wrong, and can dwell on the negative for too long.
ENFJ's are insecure about their appearance and presence, even though they are supremely confident public speakers. ENFJ personality types can get despondent when criticized.
ENFJ's can be indecisive because they want consensus and harmony. ENFJ personality types struggle to decide if even a minority of people disagree with them.
ENFJ's may be manipulative. ENFJ personality types want the total support of their group and will sometimes manipulate the nay-sayers into embracing their beliefs.
ENFJ's are demanding. ENFJ personality types are committed and loyal, and demand that others are too. Also, ENFJ's are intolerant of mistakes and shortcomings.
ENFJ's can be overprotective and smothering. The ENFJ personality type can sometimes care too much about others and overdo helping and nurturing them.
ENFJ's can sacrifice their well-being in pursuit of improving the lives of others. The selfless ENFJ personality type can lead them to neglect their own mental and physical health.
ENFJ's are warm, caring and altruistic. Their goal in life is to make the world a better place, and their charisma and excellent people-skills inspire others to follow their lead. ENFJ personality types are loyal and committed partners, parents, and friends. ENFJ's are selfless and will help anyone in need. ENFJ personality types attract others; they're popular and fun to be around. Most of all, ENFJ's have the skills and talent to make a difference in the world.
ENFJ personality types can be manipulative if they don't get the full support of their social circle or group; ENFJ's may trade their integrity in pursuit of harmonious consensus. ENFJ's can also be extremely averse to conflicts and confrontations, brushing problems under the rug, until they become much more significant issues that may ruin their relationships or delay their goals. The ENFJ's nurturing character can sometimes smother or oppress their loved ones and others who may turn away from them. ENFJ personality types do not take criticism well and may lose sight of their achievements while dwelling on the negative opinions of others for too long.
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