8 Tips For Dealing With Embarrassment

Updated November 25, 2022by BetterHelp Editorial Team

 Even the most self-confident individuals will feel embarrassed from time to time. However, there are some people who have a tougher time getting over embarrassing moments than others. If you’re worried about embarrassing situations and you have trouble coping with feelings of embarrassment, then you might need some tips to make things better.

You can get through embarrassment without having it negatively impact your life. You just need to know how to approach the situation and how to stop replaying past moments in your head. 

1. Understand That Embarrassments Are In The Past

Feeling Embarrassed Shouldn’t Lead To Feeling Ashamed

When learning to cope with embarrassment, the first thing to realize is that embarrassing moments are in the past. These things have already occurred and there is nothing that you can do to change them. It might have been tough to get through those moments, but they are over. Something that happened in the past doesn’t have to define you. It can be best to try to let go of the past and enjoy the present.  This is easier said than done for some people, but you may be able to stop living in the past and focusing on embarrassing moments if you try.

2. Know That You Don’t Need To Apologize For Feeling Embarrassed

Sometimes, embarrassing things can lead to feelings of shame. And this can potentially make things worse. You might even feel the need to apologize because you’re feeling embarrassed, but this usually isn’t necessary. For example, most people are going to feel embarrassed if someone walks in on them taking a shower or if they trip in front of a group of people. These things just happen, and you didn’t do anything wrong by having an embarrassing reaction to these events.

3. Talk To Someone About How You’re Feeling

When we’re embarrassed, we often strive to get back to a feeling of normalcy and ease.  If you’re struggling with feelings of embarrassment, then you may try to talk to people that you trust and respect. Let them know how you’re feeling and tell them what happened if you’re comfortable doing that. You’ll likely find that these people will put things into perspective, and you may start to feel much better. It could be easier for you to see that people aren’t judging you for having gone through this embarrassing moment and that the embarrassment is just living in your head. Having a strong support system can make coping with embarrassment much simpler than it would otherwise be.

4. Learn To Laugh At The Situation

Once you’re feeling more comfortable with the situation, it might become possible to laugh at what embarrassed you in the past. Of course, this might depend on the level of embarrassment that you experienced. Traumatic or invasive events might feel tougher to get over.  However, more typical embarrassing moments might become things that you can laugh at eventually. When you think about things from a different perspective, you might be able to laugh at yourself for making a silly mistake or falling.

5. Understand That Being Afraid Is Fine

It’s possible that fear could keep you from moving forward after experiencing an embarrassing situation. If something embarrassing happens the first time you have an intimate moment with someone, for instance, that may stick with you for a while.  Some people might be afraid of experiencing the same embarrassment again. This fear can be a natural response, however, you don’t have to be ruled by it. 

If you don’t face your fears, then you could be stuck in a rut for a long time. If those fears get in the way of your quality of life, though, it can be harmful. If you are having a tough time dealing with embarrassment, then you can always get help to cope with the fear. It takes strength to acknowledge that something is wrong and to take steps to get better.

6. Understand That Nothing Is Ever Perfect

Some people experience embarrassment because they fail to live up to a standard they set for themselves. It can be embarrassing to fail, but you don’t have to let your failures be the end of you. Learning from your failures has the potential to push you toward greater heights of success. Many people have said that you learn more from failures than success stories. Knowing this, it’s possible to use the embarrassments of the past to push yourself to greater success. 

It’s also important to remember that perfection is unobtainable. You may have to accept that you’re a human being who makes mistakes and does awkward things sometimes. It might feel like you’re the only one being embarrassed sometimes, but this is simply not true. Many people are going through similar situations right now and they likely have the same doubts as you.  You can learn to move past those moments if you choose to acknowledge yourself, flaws and all. 

7. Get Out There And Try Again

The fear of embarrassment should not hold you back from trying again. If you want to move past embarrassment, it’s best to keep living your life. This could mean doing the same thing that embarrassed you in the past. You might be concerned about reliving embarrassing moments from the past, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Things don’t have to go the same way and even if something does go wrong, it’s possible to keep your head held high. If you take the time to learn from your embarrassing moments, then you may even be able to avoid that same mistake in the future.   

8. Seek Therapy

Feeling Embarrassed Shouldn’t Lead To Feeling Ashamed

Therapy can be a great way to process feelings associated with embarrassment, especially if you’re dealing with anxiety, fear, or shame. Studies have shown that most people feel improvement in symptoms of anxiety after just a few sessions of psychotherapy. If there have been embarrassing moments in your life that stick with you, then you might need some assistance. Some people have a tougher time letting go of those embarrassing moments and might need some help to get things back to normal. Therapists understand how tough humiliation can be and they know that it can have an impact on your psyche. A therapist can help you to process your emotions in healthy ways and move past embarrassment.  

Some people choose to seek out online therapy options such as BetterHelp due to how convenient and affordable they are. This is a great way to get therapy without having to leave the house. This can be especially beneficial if you’re experiencing anxiety because of an embarrassing situation. And online therapy has been proven just as effective as in-person therapy. 

Takeaway

Embarrassment is a natural part of life that we all experience from time to time. If you’re having trouble coping with embarrassment and it interferes with your quality of life, there are methods of overcoming these feelings. Online therapy is one option to help you process and work through feelings of embarrassment so you can move on in a healthy way. 

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