12 Questions To Ask To Get To Know Someone Quickly
By Sarah Fader
Updated February 07, 2020
Reviewer Audrey Kelly, LMFT
Getting to know someone is important before you begin any type of relationship with them, but it's not always an easy experience. Sometimes, it can be difficult to get to know them, especially if you want to get started on the process quickly. That's why learning the right questions to get to know someone quickly can be helpful.
The Best Questions to Ask Get to Know Someone Quickly
- What is the One Thing That People Always Misunderstand About You?
When was the last time someone asked you what's commonly misunderstood about you? Most of us have something that we wish people would realize even though they don't. Finding this out can help you understand an important fact that that person wants you to know about them and clear up a common misconception.
- What's On Your Bucket List This Year?
Finding out what is important to them and what they want to accomplish in life before they kick the bucket is a way to get an idea of them as a person. If they want to go skydiving, they may be more adventurous. If they want to go back to school, maybe they enjoy learning.
- Do You Believe in Second Chances?
You have to be careful in your approach for this one. You don't want them to think that you're looking for "if I screw up will you forgive me?" It's actually about how they feel about mistakes and if they believe someone can make a mistake and overcome it.
- What Makes You Feel Accomplished?
Getting to know someone is finding out what is most important to them and learning what activity or accomplishment makes them the proudest. Is it being a parent? Being a supervisor at their job or being a good friend?
- What's the One Thing You Would Like to Change About Yourself?
Everyone would change something about themselves whether it's a physical attribute or a skill they wish they could master. It can be something like "I wish I wasn't so nervous in public," or 'I would like to be able to make friends more easily." This can tell you a lot about them.
- Where Do You See Yourself after Five Years?
This is a common interview question for a reason. Learning where someone wants to be in five years tells you what type of goals they're setting for themselves.
- If You Could Live Forever, How Would You Spend It?
What would they do if time were not an issue? Something fun about themselves? Something good for others?
- How Would You Want to Be Remembered?
What's the one thing (or few things) that you would like someone to remember about you when you die? Do you want to be remembered as the fun aunt who always played with her nieces and nephews or the hard worker who always gave their all to their job or something else entirely?
- If You Could Master One New Skill, What Would It Be?
Find out the things they already may be good at and the things they would enjoy trying out. Maybe it's a skill you could teach them or a skill you could learn together.
- What Would Your Perfect Day Look Like?
Everyone has an idea for a perfect day. So what things would make them happy? This can help you get to know what things they like best. Maybe you can use that ideal day as a model and schedule some adventures like this in the future.
- What Makes You The Happiest?
Picking one thing or one person or one activity that makes you the happiest can be difficult. But, it's also a way to learn things about someone. If they say money it means they put a lot of stock in wealth. If they say being with someone special, it shows they care more about the simpler things.
- Who's Your Biggest Hero?
Getting to know their heroes can help you understand a person because it shows you who and what they admire most and that's important to their personality.
Getting to know people, however, is about getting to know yourself as well and that can start with a little bit of assistance from Better Help with an online counselor's assistance and expert guidance. Once you know your own answers to these questions, you'll feel more comfortable talking about someone else's.