Knowing The 6 Types Of Love Can Improve Your Relationships

By Dylan Buckley

Updated November 20, 2019

Reviewer Lauren Guilbeault

There's More Than One Type Of Love, In Fact There Are Six! Learn About Them
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You may love your spouse, love your job, or love your car. Even though we use the same word to express these feelings, they're clearly not the same. The ancient Greeks identified six types of love, and thousands of years later, these categorizations are still relevant. Learning the different kinds of love can help you improve your relationships.

Altruistic Love (Agape)

When you give to others, you are displaying selfless or altruistic love called "agape" by the ancient Greeks. It can be shown in multiple types of relationships, but it is most common between parents and children. Many parents will attempt patience and giving, making sacrifices in order to put their children first. However, you can also show this type of love to a friend or romantic partner. Some people have a tendency to love through patience and giving. They enjoy giving more than receiving.

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Infatuated, Playful Love (Ludus)

One could argue that infatuation isn't a form of love at all. Infatuated love requires no commitment between partners, but the individuals involved have passion and desire for each other. They enjoy activities together but are not in for a long-term relationship. Of course, it is possible for playful love to evolve into another form of love, even without sacrificing the passion.

Companion Love (Storge)

Many close friendships display this kind of love. It involves a close connection in which two people care about each other and offer emotional support. Friends who have a commitment to one another but no romantic passion also fall in this type. Sometimes romantic partners experience this type of love, which involves caring and commitment but lacks passion.

Romantic Love (Eros)

If you have fallen in love, then you have experienced romantic love. This is characterized by both intimacy (being emotionally close to each other) and attraction (whether physical, mental, or both). It is the type of love that many people seem to seek out the most. Successful romantic relationships depend on both partners feeling romantic love for each other. This type of love can also combine with commitment to create a stable, long-term relationship.

Obsessive Love (Mania)

Obsessive love is not healthy and often involves jealousy and controlling behavior. The person experiencing this may feel that they truly love the other person, but the object of their love often begins to see the unhealthy quality of this love and rejects them. It is difficult to maintain stable and happy relationships with obsessive love.

Practical Love (Pragma)

Two people can make a commitment to one another without necessarily having intimacy or passion. In fact, many alternative marriage arrangements involve this kind of family commitment between friends or partners who do not feel romantically toward one another. And sometimes romantic relationships wind down to this type of basic commitment.

The Keys to Improving All Relationships

While the six types of love above can certainly give you more insight into love, they cannot, on their own, help you cultivate better relationships. You need to first understand the relationship dynamic you have with another individual, and then do further research, and implement those tips to take action and create the change you want. Here are three key things you will need to focus on in your relationships as you move forward.

Know (and Care for) Thyself

Our relationships are ultimately an extension of ourselves. Our personalities and our actions have a direct influence on the course of relationships with others. Without a true knowledge of yourself, you will never be able to understand why your relationships function the way they do, and you will not be able to make the changes needed to fix those issues. Along with cultivating self-awareness, you should also make sure to nurture your internal relationship and take care of yourself. You can't love another person properly if you don't love yourself!

Know (and Care for) Your Partner

When you enter a relationship, your priorities begin to shift and you will start to pay more attention to your partner. Despite what popular young children's books may have told you, you don't just get with someone and live happily ever after. You must maintain your relationship as you grow with that person and learn more about who they are. Make sure that you take the time to discover them, treasure them, and communicate with them. When you treat your partner with attention and care, you get more out of your relationship.

There's More Than One Type Of Love, In Fact There Are Six! Learn About Them
Talk About Your Love Life With An Online Therapist

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Know (and Care for) Your Relationship

Almost like you and your partner, your relationship is almost a living breathing entity that binds you two together. In order to keep this being alive, you have to make sure to care for it. You can do this by making sure to schedule important date nights and outings, set aside time to talk about issues that may have come up throughout the week, sit down and listen to your partner, make sure they are heard and validated, and schedule individual time as well. Pay attention to your relationship and it will thrive.

Seeking Help

Note that more than one of the six types of love can exist in one relationship, and the same relationship can fluctuate between types of love over time. By recognizing the different flavors of love, you can fill your life with multiple fulfilling relationships, even if you aren't currently in a romantic partnership. If you're having serious trouble with relationships in your life, try speaking with a professional therapist such as those found at BetterHelp.

With BetterHelp, you don't have to search far and wide for a counselor and squeeze in sessions where possible. BetterHelp gives you the option to speak with certified therapists without ever having to leave the house or push your other responsibilities forward. On BetterHelp, you can rest assured that counselors will be able to provide you with the help you need. Consider the following reviews of BetterHelp counselors, from people experiencing different issues in love.

Counselor Reviews

"Stephanie is a gem! She's very thoughtful, thorough, honest, insightful but most of all helpful. This is coming from a person that never wanted to do counseling and just "knew" I didn't need it. She's been key in helping my wife and I find our better place. She made us grow as a couple and individually. Thanks Steph!"

"I really enjoyed my sessions with Dr. Anstadt. He helped me see how one issue was affecting multiple aspects of my life. He has greatly improve my relationships with the people I'm closest to and even the way I approach work. I have seen a huge difference in my relationships already, and I have several tools to help me manage the issues I started seeking therapy for. I cannot express how thankful I am to Dr. I Anstadt!"

Conclusion

Cultivating healthy and happy relationships begins with becoming more knowledgeable about all aspects of the relationship and taking the time to make sure you apply that knowledge correctly. With the right tools and an open mind, you can enjoy lasting, fulfilling love. Take the first step.


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